Tinder match tells me she into S&M and shows me pics of her gagged and blindfolded. Should I approach with caution?

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So matched with a girl on Tinder on Friday and we get chatting. Seems like your regular girl next door, glasses, big smile, simmer dresses, in the park with her dog etc.
Anyway we exchanged numbers.

Last night she WhatsApp’s me and says she had a bottle of wine to herself playing on PS4 and she’s feeling naughty and says she doesn’t know if she should tell me what her turn on is. I persuade her to tell me more and she said she is super kinky and into S&M.

She then sends me 3 photos. First pic is of her wearing a blindfold, a leather gag around her mouth and large chains attached from
her gag pulling at her nipples

second pic of her handcuffed to a door wearing a Maid’s uniform

third pic is her bare ass on the bed as her hands and feet are tied together with leather straps.

Advice.. is it likely she is just a horny girl into S&M just looking for fun?

Or is this a huge red flag for a girl revealing her S&M fantasies to a guy before meeting him?
Like I said there was nothing in her photos or profile to show she was into that stuff.

I seen a lot of topics on here about red flags (girls that have been raped, girls that get feels way too quick, single mothers, lots of tattoos/piercings etc) but haven’t seen people’s opinions about girls into S&M.

Just wondering if she’s more likely to just be kinky/horny or more likely she’s just a giant red flag i should avoid.
 

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So matched with a girl on Tinder on Friday and we get chatting. Seems like your regular girl next door, glasses, big smile, simmer dresses, in the park with her dog etc.
Anyway we exchanged numbers.

Last night she WhatsApp’s me and says she had a bottle of wine to herself playing on PS4 and she’s feeling naughty and says she doesn’t know if she should tell me what her turn on is. I persuade her to tell me more and she said she is super kinky and into S&M.

She then sends me 3 photos. First pic is of her wearing a blindfold, a leather gag around her mouth and large chains attached from
her gag pulling at her nipples

second pic of her handcuffed to a door wearing a Maid’s uniform

third pic is her bare ass on the bed as her hands and feet are tied together with leather straps.

Advice.. is it likely she is just a horny girl into S&M just looking for fun?

Or is this a huge red flag for a girl revealing her S&M fantasies to a guy before meeting him?
Like I said there was nothing in her photos or profile to show she was into that stuff.

I seen a lot of topics on here about red flags (girls that have been raped, girls that get feels way too quick, single mothers, lots of tattoos/piercings etc) but haven’t seen people’s opinions about girls into S&M.

Just wondering if she’s more likely to just be kinky/horny or more likely she’s just a giant red flag i should avoid.
You should propose, sounds marriage material to me.

I can guarantee those pictures have only been shared with you & no other dude.. Because your special.
 

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So matched with a girl on Tinder on Friday and we get chatting. Seems like your regular girl next door, glasses, big smile, simmer dresses, in the park with her dog etc.
Anyway we exchanged numbers.

Last night she WhatsApp’s me and says she had a bottle of wine to herself playing on PS4 and she’s feeling naughty and says she doesn’t know if she should tell me what her turn on is. I persuade her to tell me more and she said she is super kinky and into S&M.

She then sends me 3 photos.
It sounds to me like she's leading the interaction. That's the red flag.
 

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Have her fill out an S & M checklist and see what kind of fun you can have with her.

Just remember: with great power comes great responsibility.

A girl tied up and gagged is putting her total safety in your hands.

They like to get fvcked like that because it's taboo and because they want to submit to a man and feel overpowered by someone they can trust. Though you have to make sure you don't end up being controlled by her, you have some leeway since you have no experience. She can give you some pointers, but these women like to have somewhat spectacular experiences.

I'm having one come over in a few weeks. She is gonna wear lingerie, wear put some sexy toys on, like nipple clamps, then we are tonna have some drinks, then im gonna order her to go on her knees and undo my belt and svck me off.

That's kind of how it goes.

You just need to be ready for it. There needs to be trust. See what you can learn. It's taboo because the man has all the power from the looks of it. This is the position these women want to be in. The reality is you are selling her a fantasy, and you are doing something for her. If she isn't down for anything she has the option to stop the play at any time. That's what the safe word's for.
 

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Girls like this are potentially either a lot fun or they are fake profiles and you're talking to a dude. Determine which it is and then proceed accordingly. Personally I like sexually open minded and adventurous women that you don't have to take out several times before they'll open up about their kinks, but thats just me.
 

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I don’t think it’s a red flag that she’s into S&M but I think it’s a red flag that she’s sending you pics that early.

I’m seeing this chick about once a week and she’s also experimenting with S&M. I tier her up last week, did a lil spanking. Just be wary with the power you’re given. I personally would only feel comfortable taking it slowly. But if you think you’re into it, go for it man, could be fun.
 
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