Tinder, does it happens the same to you?

Who Dares Win

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Im sure all of you know Tinder, you see picture and a brief profile of a girl in your area and you decide yay or nay, she doest the same and if you both press yes, you are able to communicate.

First of all out of 100 girls I press yes, no more than 10% reciprocate so the stats are not that high but considered that Im an average guy in terms of look and in term of pictures, its expected.

Now the funny thing is, I write hello or some brief line about their picture or profile only to either have no reply or take forever to get a brief closed one.

Now its obvious that its low interested from their side, the point is why chosing yes if you dont finf me enough attractive to just have a brief talk?

If you made a mistake in selecting yes or you just pressed yes to all to see how many men want you, then why not just remove the match once you got it?

Do they like to keep a list as a ego boost to check once in a while or they have a priority ladder where they keep all but just talk with the top while keeping the bottom as a safety option?

What is your experience with it?

Btw Im 30 yrs old, in my preferences I had to remove anything above 28...I saw such ugly creatues above 30 that I almost wished for world war III to fix the problem.
I swear that if any of those girls where to walk in front of me I would be afraid to get close and would probably cross to the other side to avoid them.


Basically the girls that reciprocate my yes are between 24 and till the limit I chosed, no girl below 22 yet in months.
 

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You need a unique/funny opener. Woman get tons of matches a day. They also get tons of messages that just say "hello" or something about there pics/profile. I personally do not like Tinder. I recently deleted it. I would rather use POF and OKC because I can message whoever I want without having to be matched first.
 

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Let me give you some tips.

BUT know this OP.

Lots of girls on tinder are:

  1. Timewasters
  2. Flakes
  3. operating Hypergamy in it's truest sense
  4. Use it because they are bored or boring
  5. Want attention
  6. All of the above
So you need something different to send these women.

A classic that works for me pretty much 90% of the time with my matches.

Send them a message on a Saturday or Sunday morning:

"Hey xxx, So did you behave yourself last night or are you part of the [day] hangover club?"

You then follow up with a great story of your night out (this can be recycled through all your matches and doesn't have to have happened last night).

Make it fun- have banter. That's what sets you apart. DO NOT ever just send 'Hey, how are you?" or any of those variations EVER.

I could easily get a week of dates with a different girl every night from HBs 6-8.

Just be aware

That the majority of women on tinder are not interested in anything longer term. This week I was ghosted by a girl I had been dating for a month, others I had a great first date with and then they ghosted me when I asked for another date. Don't take it personally. Be ruthless.

PM me if you want to chat through it.
 

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Btw Im 30 yrs old, in my preferences I had to remove anything above 28...I saw such ugly creatues above 30 that I almost wished for world war III to fix the problem.
lololol
 

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Like I said many times on here I have no luck with Tinder. In real life its completely different
 

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Tinder is a joke. I have like 4-5 friends that use it frequently and they have the same complaints .
I used it for a week or so and saw the same issues myself. I deleted it and that was the best thing I've done.
 

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I got laid of Tinder, but yeah, between bots, timewasters, girls who are not replying... It's pretty ridiculous.

I had a female friend that would just keep getting matches and not doing anything with them. She had 300 some matches (couple months of ago) without the intention of meeting.

So take Tinder with a grain of salt bro.
 

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Its basically used for instant validation by girls. Have no expectations and you'll do fine, think that you are going to meet a girlfriend or get a ****load of dates is setting you up for disaster, its a way to kill boredom maybe get a few dates and if you do you'll probably get laid.
 

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I experimented with Tinder about a year and a half ago. I was in a relationship but I've always felt the need to keep my skills well honed and used Tinder for about a month just to see how it worked and gauge interest/keep myself up to date. It was a lot easier about 1.5 years ago. Got way more matches and longer conversations.

These days I get a lot less matches even though I'd say I'm ranked higher in SMV. Very easy to get a number but much harder to get a date/non flake.

If Tinder had a golden age for guys it is long gone.
 

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Women don't understand Tinder is a hookup app. They think it's a dating app like Zoosk. To be fair, Tinder has to portray themselves that way to get women to use the app. If they called it the 'Let's Fvck Now' app, then no woman would ever install it. Tinder was made by the people who made Grindr, which is the same thing for gay guys. It was a huge success, but women make their sex partner decisions a lot more differently than gay guys. For Tinder to get straight guys laid, it has to con the women into thinking guys want more than sex.
 

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Speaking of Tinder, does anyone know what happened to the My Moments option? It's no longer there.

That option got me laid a few times,. Post a pic in My Moments, and everyone on your list sees it. You'll get at least a few messages from it.
 

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So take Tinder with a grain of salt bro.
I think all social media should be taken with a grain of salt. Also as mentioned above, do not set the age range past 30 EVER! Hard left swipe!
 

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It all depends on your geo location. I had success with it while travelling, especially foreign countries and in Houston in the USA. Locally and in most places they do treat it as a dating up though. To me it's an efficient way to set up dates on the go.
 

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Tinder seems cool to me.

Use a shirtless pic. Message your matches with a simple "Hey, how are you?" They are already interested so they respond (sometimes weeks later). Have a short exchange and either ask them out or tell them to text you and leave your number. If they comply, you add them to the prospects. Pretty simple.
 

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tinder is an absolute waste of time , even more so since they got rid of moments which provided chicks a platform to privately post slu1tty pictures if they fancied a super ego boost

( got some real nice screenshots )

but yea now its just a complete waste of time nearly every woman on the planet is fully aware that guys on tinder are just after a quick piece of pu$$y

they've got no intention of actually giving it you because the investment on your part is virtually next to 0 and we all know how women respond to "being used" lol

the only thing its useful for is if you can match with a chick you actually know in real life in which case you can confirm that she is indeed "interested in you"
 

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I dedicded to keep it as one of many means but just investing nothing nor expecting a great deal coming from it, I virtually like any girl without even looking at their picture while Im waiting to a video to load, if some girl likes me back I bother to check her pictures and read her profile.

If I like her I write her, if I dont like her I either unmatch or leave it there, hardly they write me first.

Most of the girls that like me back are ugly anyway, not as scary as those girls above 30 I saw when I begun but still ugly enough to make me feel concerned for my safety, only exceptions are eastern european girls which are still doable even in late 20s.
 

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As we can see, women corrupt anything for attention.

All guys on Tinder should agree to intentionally NOT match with ANY girl on there for a as long as a month. Just to teach them a lesson.

In general, women win all dating games because:
1) they trust women more than they trust men
2) they work the dating field as a group (or multiple groups)

And that is how women ensure the majority of them get to date 'up'.

That's also why most women hate this forum when they find out about it: communication is their trump card, and they hate to see men use it against them!
 

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As we can see, women corrupt anything for attention.

All guys on Tinder should agree to intentionally NOT match with ANY girl on there for a as long as a month. Just to teach them a lesson.

In general, women win all dating games because:
1) they trust women more than they trust men
2) they work the dating field as a group (or multiple groups)

And that is how women ensure the majority of them get to date 'up'.

That's also why most women hate this forum when they find out about it: communication is their trump card, and they hate to see men use it against them!
Lol. That's fvcking pathetic, fact is there will always be pandering fagg0ts to boost their egos. Focus on bringing yourself into that 20% male population and watch their games crumble. Women have no bro code, abuse this to your advantage.

They get to 'date up', you get p00n. Win-win. I never understood why we have to be at war where one party loses where we can make love. (pun intended)
 

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Lol. That's fvcking pathetic, fact is there will always be pandering fagg0ts to boost their egos. Focus on bringing yourself into that 20% male population and watch their games crumble. Women have no bro code, abuse this to your advantage.

They get to 'date up', you get p00n. Win-win. I never understood why we have to be at war where one party loses where we can make love. (pun intended)
If you believe they get more than they are worth with no effort while you get a ugly girl after walking on eggshells its a win-win for both, personally I strongly disagree.

You say women have no "bro-code", do you believe men have? also woman may not have any bro code but they have a sheep mentality that force them to back each other without really understanding whats going on, if the fat friend say she has been ignored from her match the other 2 girls are gonna drop theirs to take her home and eat ice cream...thats power awfully.

Regarding tinder, yeah it became an other attention whoring site the same moment it became main stream.
 

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If you believe they get more than they are worth with no effort while you get a ugly girl after walking on eggshells its a win-win for both, personally I strongly disagree.

You say women have no "bro-code", do you believe men have? also woman may not have any bro code but they have a sheep mentality that force them to back each other without really understanding whats going on, if the fat friend say she has been ignored from her match the other 2 girls are gonna drop theirs to take her home and eat ice cream...thats power awfully.

Regarding tinder, yeah it became an other attention whoring site the same moment it became main stream.
1. Why are you dealing with ugly chicks? In the first place, if you're walking on eggshells around a chick you've already lost. Its win-lose. Yes in that case, I agree with you because its simply not win-win.

2. Most men have no bro-code as well, that is why I find it laughable that people even suggested the whole male population refuse to match girls. Read my post again, there will always be pandering fagg0ts. You can't change this fact, you can't change them, you can only change yourself.

3. I get what you're saying about sheep mentality but in the end OLD isn't very different from cold approaching. Its a number's game. As Atom Smasher put it very nicely, a girl who is truly interested will move mountains to be with you. Are you that AWESOME MOTHERFVCKER or just another crybaby?

4. What's your point in establishing that tinder is mainstream and filled with AWs? I fully agree with what you're experiencing and I myself am in the same boat. Accept it and proceed accordingly. Lozboss hit the nail on the head about Tinder nowadays, so why should we as men put extra effort into potential junk bonds? Your job is to find out whether a girl is truly interested or time wasting. My hit rate to be honest is quite low but I'm happy with the results with the amount of effort I put in.

PM me if you want more details.
 
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