Three Qs (rapport, number of plates, being enigmatic)

[Lars Porsenna]

I have three questions... feel free to comment plz. Just don´t knock me flat for this, I haven´t been around for long and still trying to figure out even basic things..

First thing is... I am good at creating rapport with girls, finding which buttons to push, what makes them tick... I´m a geeky intellectual looking guy and my game is based on getting inside a girls head... I am way better at this then at creating sexual attraction in the beginning, but at getting further I just stink...

Time and again I meet chicks for the first time, we sit, chat, have fun, I get them all shiny eyed and radiant and wet and feeling really great about themselves.... only never to hear from them again for a second date...

My theory - chicks live for the moment, they might feel absolutely great with you, but once you´re gone they start to rationalize and analyze coldly... how does he look, how does he move etc. pp. ... and coolly decide to next you. But I might be way off here. Any opinions?


Second - how much plates do you spin? I am dating a lot of lately and right now by sheer numbers game have 8 girls that would go out with me. Real interest I have only in one of them, the others I like to spend time with... but they dont rattle my cage. Too much plates? Should all of your plates really rock you? Or is it ok to date semi interesting girls? To stay in the game?


And last question... This is in connection with the one chick I am really interested in and trying not to fall into oneitis with. We have been dating for 3 months now, seen each other maybe 12-13 times, cinema, parties, eating out, walks, much talking, no f_ close yet... and now she tells me "I absolutely don´t know you"... "you´re a riddle to me"... Without a reason, just while talking about ourselves. I don´t talk much about myself and keep the chicks talking.

Being a mystery is good in the beginning, I understand... But after having met for 3 months..? Is this still a good thing or some kind of death kiss? Kind of "my interest level is too low to have you figured out even after 3 months"?

thx all

 

[Ratisson]

Q#3:
i dont think this is a kiss of death, i think that only a girl with high interest would say something like this. She thinks u are a mystery, keep it up.

Q#1:
so u go on 1 date with theese girls and ur not getting a second date. this could mean one of two things or both.
1) they never liked u to begin with (and their just trying to use u for something i.e. free dinner, or whatever)

2) or ur doing something wrong on the first date that is turning these chicks off. U need to think back on these dates and evaluate where u think u went wrong. What might u have done or said that could have turned these chicks off, and i bet the reason for why these chicks dont want a 2nd date is consistent throughout all 12-13 of them.
Perhaps u came on too strong. I know this site tells guys to apply kino, but i think maybe u went overboard or something.
So look back on ur past dates and try to find out where u went wrong, and then once u find it out, do the exact opposite (ie: if too much kino was the cause, then dont touch them at all.)
good luck.

 

[EFFORT]

I have three questions... feel free to comment plz. Just don´t knock me flat for this, I haven´t been around for long and still trying to figure out even basic things..

First thing is... I am good at creating rapport with girls, finding which buttons to push, what makes them tick... I´m a geeky intellectual looking guy and my game is based on getting inside a girls head... I am way better at this then at creating sexual attraction in the beginning, but at getting further I just stink...

Time and again I meet chicks for the first time, we sit, chat, have fun, I get them all shiny eyed and radiant and wet and feeling really great about themselves.... only never to hear from them again for a second date...

My theory - chicks live for the moment, they might feel absolutely great with you, but once you´re gone they start to rationalize and analyze coldly... how does he look, how does he move etc. pp. ... and coolly decide to next you. But I might be way off here. Any opinions?

YES CHICKS LIVE IN THE EMOTION OF THE MOMENT AND ONCE AWAY FROM YOU COULD POTENTIALLY NEXT RATION YOU, BUT IF YOUR GAME WAS TIGHT THEN THEY WOULD BE COMING UP WITH REASONS WHY THEY LIKE YOU.


Second - how much plates do you spin? I am dating a lot of lately and right now by sheer numbers game have 8 girls that would go out with me. Real interest I have only in one of them, the others I like to spend time with... but they dont rattle my cage. Too much plates? Should all of your plates really rock you? Or is it ok to date semi interesting girls? To stay in the game?

ARE THESE GIRLS YOUR F*CKING OR JUST GOING ON DATES WITH? THE WHOLE HOW MANY GIRLS YOU SHOULD HAVE IS UP TO YOU.


And last question... This is in connection with the one chick I am really interested in and trying not to fall into oneitis with. We have been dating for 3 months now, seen each other maybe 12-13 times, cinema, parties, eating out, walks, much talking, no f_ close yet

3MONTHS AND NO FCLOSE? MEET TO SEX SHOULD BE TAKING ABOUT 4-10HOURS, 3MONTHS AND NO FCLOSE MEANS YOU MESSED UP. SHES DEF BEEN HAVING SEX WITH OTHER GUYS IN THAT 3MONTH PERIOD WHILE YOUR SITTING AROUND ON THE EDGE OF ONEITIS FOR HER.

... and now she tells me "I absolutely don´t know you"... "you´re a riddle to me"... Without a reason, just while talking about ourselves. I don´t talk much about myself and keep the chicks talking.

ITS IMPORTANT TO CONVEY YOUR IDENTITY TO HER, YOU HAVE TO BRING THEM INTO YOUR REALITY

Being a mystery is good in the beginning, I understand... But after having met for 3 months..? Is this still a good thing or some kind of death kiss? Kind of "my interest level is too low to have you figured out even after 3 months"?

NOT A GOOD THING, 3MONTHS IN, SHE SHOULD BE A REGULAR FB OR GF.

thx all

IN CAPS

 

[Lars Porsenna]

Q#3:
i dont think this is a kiss of death, i think that only a girl with high interest would say something like this. She thinks u are a mystery, keep it up.

Q#1:
so u go on 1 date with theese girls and ur not getting a second date. this could mean one of two things or both.
1) they never liked u to begin with (and their just trying to use u for something i.e. free dinner, or whatever)

2) or ur doing something wrong on the first date that is turning these chicks off.

Yeah I see that clearly... But the big Q for me is - why do they really openly enjoy themselves when with me and still dont give me a second date... I mean getting all bright and shiny eyed and giving off great vibes... so this means I did something right, I made enjoy them my company, but still - zilch

ARE THESE GIRLS YOUR F*CKING OR JUST GOING ON DATES WITH?

No, just casual dating, not a single f_ close...

ITS IMPORTANT TO CONVEY YOUR IDENTITY TO HER, YOU HAVE TO BRING THEM INTO YOUR REALITY

Could you elaborate on this...? You mean, giving up mystery and opening up completely? Why is that?

thx

 

[So pimp its scary]

No... he means, you must convey your personality. That doesn't mean not to be a mystery, they are two seperate elements.

You want to convey things like dominance, control, confidence, humour, charisma, charm, any or all of the above. That doesn't mean you tell a girl you are these things, but by the way you act, talk, hold eye contact, escalate, etc.

 

[Jay Jay]

I've found that three plates is my limit. Anymore than that I don't have enough energy to keep em all satisfied and have time for my own stuff.

But I'm a pretty busy guy.

JJ

 

[BluEyes]

lol you tool.

When she says "I absolutely don't know you" that means SHE WANTS TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER.

Sure, she might know the names of your brothers and sisters, but she hasn't yet built an INTIMATE relationship with you.

*cry* Dude!!! She's practically BEGGING for you to take it further. You're the guy, you have to be aggressive and take the relationship to the next level. She's the girl, she(as long as she likes you, WHICH SHE CLEARLY DOES) will LET you take it to the next level.

Next date, be a different person. From the moment you see her, get physical, get aggressive(in a DJ way), and get into her fvcking panties for christ sakes. Trust me, she's waiting.

"I absolutely don't know you" is w.omanese for "We haven't fvcked yet."

quit stringing her along and make bacon buddy.

 

[Rudra]

Time and again I meet chicks for the first time, we sit, chat, have fun, I get them all shiny eyed and radiant and wet and feeling really great about themselves.... only never to hear from them again for a second date...l

Yeah I hear you... You never can tell anything and you never should expect anything. You can walk away from a date and have the chick perfectly swinging in tune with you, just creaming herself about you - still she will not give you another date. Been there, done that.. Means your game is good in some aspects, but not all. You hook them good on one level but somethings still missing. Go analyze that honestly.