Threads about number of guys she's been with?

[5string]

WTF is with all the threads on here about the # of guys some woman has been with?

Things like:
How many it too many?
They will always lie about it anyway.
If she's had this many, then she's slvt.
I don't want a women who's slept around.
Blah Blah Blah

Sounds sorta like a double standard in here, especially when I see polls asking "how many women have you slept with?" Lots of guy say 25-50, or 50 to 100. Maybe even more.

Sure, nobody wants an LTR with someone who REALLY got/gets around. That's a fact.

My point is this. Would you rather have the virgin all to yourself or a woman who's had a few other guys and no longer has to "wonder" what's out there?

If she is faithful to you, and only you, is that not what counts ultimately?

 

[Strelok]

There are two options:

1)women are human and have the right to do whatever they want with their bodies

2)women become some kind of territory once you get them as your wife

so according to 1: it's not your business what she did before meeting you while according to 2 she is a spoiled good once ****ed too much


It's interesting what you say about the virgin that wonder what she can find around because it's actually the promiscuous woman to be more likely to cheat...she had many guys and among all of them there is for sure someone better than you (bigger ****,more confident whatever) so she knows that she can get something better,while the virgin wonder the promiscous knows for sure.
(forget this part if you think u're the real deal)

I myself just dont want to kiss a dozen of ****s everytime I kiss her without those guys kissing my **** themselves(it can sound weird but hard to explain),I would rather be the first for a girl than leave her and get her back after 5 other guys rather than meeting a girl that has been with 3 guys before me,you know like a dog that wants to be the first one to piss on a tree.

I think is more a personal thing rather than connected to the woman,just like every guy wants a new car if possible instead of a used one.

This is my opinion of course and if some guy is fine being with a town slut good for him,I really envy him nowadays.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

ANDREW DICE CLAY: Hey, is that your chick there?

GUY IN THE AUDIENCE: Yeah!

DICE: Damn, she's pretty hot!

GUY: Yeah,..

DICE: You been together a while?

GUY: About 6 months.

DICE: Nice. She faithful to you?

GUY: Oh yeah.

DICE: She good in bed?

GUY: *nods head enthusiastically*

DICE: She suck a good d!ck?

GUY: (laughing) Oooh yeah,..heheh,..

DICE: I suppose the next question would be, "How do you suppose she got that way?"



Every man wants a slut, he just wants her to be HIS slut.

 

[Boilermaker]

If you have a key that opens a lot of locks, that is a Master Key.

If you have a lock that is opened by a lot of keys, then it's a worthless lock.

The point is, men are not women. Their values are measured differently. Do not fall into the trap of thinking that they are the same and thus are to be measured the same.

What a spectacular metaphor ! and SO to the point !

 

[Colossus]

Let ye of you who is without sin...

My take on this is that it is better not knowing. It will mess with your head. If the girl has been with some obscene number of guys you would probably find out somehow. No guy wants a slut, but just what makes a girl a slut?? 20 guys? 30 guys? 50 guys? It's totally arbitrary. Choose what you want but also have a grip on reality---you arent the only guy to have come in her mouth :moon:

 

[runner83]

Let ye of you who is without sin...

My take on this is that it is better not knowing. It will mess with your head. If the girl has been with some obscene number of guys you would probably find out somehow. No guy wants a slut, but just what makes a girl a slut?? 20 guys? 30 guys? 50 guys? It's totally arbitrary. Choose what you want but also have a grip on reality---you arent the only guy to have come in her mouth :moon:

Yes, definitely better not knowing. And she will probably lie anyway.

One girl told me she had only been with 3 guys before me, and this was after she had sex with me 2 days after we met.

So you are meant to believe that?

 

[betheman]

with my last ltr, I was fortunate to be 'tromboned' for the first time in my life. I got the "ive never done that with anyone before" line, i said nothing, inside I was shouting...like f uck you havent!

 

[jophil28]

Yes, definitely better not knowing. And she will probably lie anyway.

One girl told me she had only been with 3 guys before me, and this was after she had sex with me 2 days after we met.

So you are meant to believe that?

There is a thread over at eHarmony in which a woman openly admits that women understate their "number" by not counting the ONS's, carpark quickies, drunken party sex and any other sexual encounters with guys who were not their official b/fs. She was quite clear that women ONLY estimate the total number of their sexual partners by counting their LTRs.
:crazy:

 

[betheman]

also, always remember, around 10% of children in the USA/GB are not the offspring of the man on the birth certificate! these are the women who got pregnant! women in LTRS cheat, Women like men cheat, you could argue they do it better, wonder why abortion rates are so high?
women wil say what they want you to hear, bottom line

 

[Jitterbug]

There is a thread over at eHarmony in which a woman openly admits that women understate their "number" by not counting the ONS's, carpark quickies, drunken party sex and any other sexual encounters with guys who were not their official b/fs. She was quite clear that women ONLY estimate the total number of their sexual partners by counting their LTRs.
:crazy:

Not the first time I've heard that, and those women would pass a lie detector test anytime, since they actually do believe their own BS.

I used to know some Middle Eastern chicks who told me that they don't count anything that's not P-in-V, that BJ and even anal don't count. And guess what, they're all virgins! :crackup: They're saving themselves for the lucky future hubby, you see.

There's a member here (Johnny Soporno) who tried to teach guys to become "the guy who doesn't count" to get lots of bangs with those broads. He's one smart man.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

There is a thread over at eHarmony in which a woman openly admits that women understate their "number" by not counting the ONS's, carpark quickies, drunken party sex and any other sexual encounters with guys who were not their official b/fs. She was quite clear that women ONLY estimate the total number of their sexual partners by counting their LTRs.
:crazy:

A few years back I had a girlfriend - beginning of the relationship, she admitted to two. Near the end of the relationship she was up to nine and counting including ONS with a golf pro and a football player in college.

Don't know what to make of this, but after her, I never asked and never offered. Once in awhile it's come up in discussion, I always deflect. TMI, in my opinion.

 

[backbreaker]

i can honeslty say I have never asked my fiancee that question. i really don't give a damn.

i find it funny, how, guys on one hand, will get pissy becuase she has slept with too many men, but on the other hand, get pissed if he can't hit it by the 2nd date lol. dude you can't have both.

 

[amoka]

Very true fellas. This is a cardinal sin I commit and continue to commit when it comes to women and dating. It drove me to the edge to breakup with my ex. Relating I was developing with a girl few months ago got shorted out after the discussion of past relations got in the conversation. Few days ago, my conversation with a new woman got in that direction and I started thingking bad about her. I think this thread was just made for me.

 

[backbreaker]

and in reality, it's the stupidest question on earth. it's a trick question


4 scenarios, and all o f them lead to hell


scenario 1: you ask her and she says...2: "damnit i'm not go get any nookie. probably can't even give a good *******. definably isn't going to catch it. that's if she is even telling the truth"


scenario 2: you ask her and she says 20: "damn she's a ho. i hope i don't get teh ebola. damn she was looking at the waiter dude a little too closely

scenario 3: she asks you and you say 2: "if no other woman wants to **** him, maybe i don't either"

scenario4: she asks you ad you say 20: "he's a player, he's going to **** me and never call me again"

or (even worse)

"I like him but he's a player.. i'm golnig mto make him wait to show me he cares about me and isn't going to leave"
just don't answer the question. Don't ask it either..

 

[zekko]

i find it funny, how, guys on one hand, will get pissy becuase she has slept with too many men, but on the other hand, get pissed if he can't hit it by the 2nd date lol. dude you can't have both.

True enough. I guess the difference is guys want to think they're so special, so spectacular, that the girls will make an exception for them, and only them. Sort of like Rollo's "wants her to be HIS slut" signature.

Nothing could be more relevant to the screening of your woman than whether or not she is a slut.

The lad has a point.

 

[5string]

OK, the consensus is we don't want a woman who's slept around alot and it's a red flag. This is a given.

I think guys that are obsessed with this sh!t, to a degree, are insecure. So as for me, I don't pay it much attention unless I learned that she really got around. If I knew that, it would be an issue that would have to be dealt with.

And the other posters above are absolutely correct.....don't ask, don't tell. EVER.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I've ƒucked over 40 women in my sexual past. Of those 3 were what I'd consider LTRs. Mrs. Tomassi has had at least 5 former sexual partners that I know of and probably more like 7 or 8 and 2 were LTRs. I was 28 when we married, and the last thing I was concerned about was how many guy's she'd slept with or had LTRs with. We were (and still are) mature adults,down to earth and realistic enough to accept that by the time you're about 30 people are pretty likely to have had other lovers besides you. I know damn well Mrs. Tomassi, my wife of 14+ years, knocked it out with of other guys in her 20s before we met and she knows I did the same. We've always been mature about that and have accepted that without fear or insecurity - this is one of the reasons our marriage IS so strong, because we know people are going to be people, and people like to ƒuck.

The real issue that bugs guys is the desire dynamic. What's scratching away at them is the doubt that she's as into you - as hot and horny - as she was for these other guys in the past. What would she do for them that she wouldn't consider with you?

Healthy, socially adjusted people will have had sex by their early 20's and that's as it should be, deal with it. In fact I'd say it's a major red flag if a woman hasn't had sex by 30.

 

[Colossus]

The real issue that bugs guys is the desire dynamic. What's scratching away at them is the doubt that she's as into you - as hot and horny - as she was for these other guys in the past. What would she do for them that she wouldn't consider with you?

I disagree here. I think what's going on is an internal moral conflict. At face value, if a guy learns a woman has slept with 30, 40 + guys, she is simply a slut. But when he LIKES a woman and learns this information about her later on, that context makes the news rather disturbing. Not only does he have to accept he has fallen for a slut, but it also devalues her affection for him---in other words we like to think her affection for us is somewhat novel and she hasn't doled it out to dozens of other men. Most normal men could not allow themselves to like a woman who has exceeded his own threshold of slutty-ness...whatever that number is. When knowledge of this breach reaches him AFTER desire has been firmly established, there is a major conflict going on that most men cannot reconcile.

The only way around this is to accept--like you said--that every woman has had lovers. Probably more than they admit, if they admit it at all. If her number happens to be obscene, I think any guy with some life experience and a good gut instinct can read between the lines and identify that.

 

[Zarky]

Here's my simple solution to this issue: I never tell a woman how many partners I've had, and I never let her tell me how many partners she's had.

It's "Don't ask, don't tell" as far as our sexual pasts. Numbers and sex don't go well together.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Here's my simple solution to this issue: I never tell a woman how many partners I've had, and I never let her tell me how many partners she's had.

It's "Don't ask, don't tell" as far as our sexual pasts. Numbers and sex don't go well together.

Yup, quoted for truth. Nothing good can come out of that conversation, as others stated.

Unless you are very young, and the numbers are low enough..a healthy low number based upon age.

I think what it comes down to, is guys tend to wonder how they compete with guys in the past. For example, if you find out a gal you are seeing has been with 20 guys. That's 20 guys who may, or may not, have been able to rock her world better than you.

Then you start wondering, what if 6 months down the road she thinking about some ONS she had who was better sexually than you. Is she more apt to cheat because of that? or branch swing?

From a maturity standpoint, Rollo's right..however we know how well women often mature.

No guy wants to invest in a potential branch swinger. I tend to agree with Danger on this one, I really don't care about a gal's past but I don't want to pursue a relationship with a slut, or possible slut.....unless, the catch is that the sex is so outstanding and her interest level is off the charts. There's always an exception to the rule.