Thoughts on approaching

[Canadian Catnip]

There is a lot of sh!t in this forum and some excellent posts from some good people. I prefer the latter posts and just ignore the former.

After saying that I hope my posts help foster some positive changes in both myself and others.

I am sure this has been talked about here before but if not I would like to mention quickly my thoughts on approaching.

I have just started doing approaches a few weeks ago. I had been mulling it around in my mind but after reading some posts here about others doing approaches I decided that there has to be something to it.

Well here is what I have found in just two weeks of approaching. This may sound ridiculously stupid to some old timers and DJ's here but here it goes. Approaching changes you, It somehow changes your brain chemistry or your body language or something.

In just two short week I have seen a shift in myself, I am more open, and here is the really strange thing, women are starting to come up to me and start talking to me.

I am starting to have more and more women come up and talk with me or smile at me. It also makes you more confident, especially the three second rule.

I was walking through the mall today and was not particularly interested in approaching women when I was approached about four times by four different women. I have to say that this never happens to me so I know something is changing in my body language.

Also the three second rule makes you more confident. I was walking past a small shop and inside was a young lady that was looking rather bored sitting all by herself behind the counter with no one to talk to. As I passed by she gave me a smile. I immediately did a 90 degree turn and walked right up to her. I could see her smile get bigger as I walked up to her and said hi.

Now I know that people are going to say you can't rely on the reactions of waitresses or servers or girls working in stores etc, but it was my previous approaches that made me turn and walk right up to her. Thats the point I'm trying to make here.

My body language and my confidence has improved because of approaching.

Can anyone else share their experiences in this? Please no Sh!t posts, you know who you are so don't bother us serious folks with your childish moronic babblings.

 

[Max Power]

I had the same thing happen to me when I started approaching. I noticed I felt different (the whole matrix thing) and women treated me differently. I didn't have women sarge me at the mall, however.

The thing Canadian Catnip is you can't have "success" go to your head too much. You have to keep approaching or you will lose that feeling. That's another thing I noticed.

 

[Canadian Catnip]

The thing Canadian Catnip is you can't have "success" go to your head too much. You have to keep approaching or you will lose that feeling. That's another thing I noticed.

Thanks for the good advice.

You can never let anything go to your head. Always have the beginners mind.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

It feels good - it's sort of a mood lifter, even if you dont go for a number close, you feel like you accomplished something. I too notice that women seem to appear more friendly once you start approaching - it's sort of like there is a psychological block if you dont approach and that block gets lifted when you start doing so.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

When I was 17, I took a side job as a street promotor; approaching a few hundred people a day, most of them girls and women.(I was a team with a girl and she took the men.) After three weeks I was a different person. Girls stopped rejecting me and their faces lit up when I approached. Girls made it easy for me, I got laid with a few girls.

But that was only the beginning.

 

[knglerxt]

I was walking through the mall today and was not particularly interested in approaching women when I was approached about four times by four different women. I have to say that this never happens to me so I know something is changing in my body language.

C'mon now. You were approached by 4 women in the mall in one day?! I have a hard time believing that. That's more than most guys get approached during their entire lives. What were the circumstances behind these approaches? Were they employees in the stores, or just mall patrons walking around? Maybe Canadian women are different than American women. You come to a mall down here and I guarantee you that won't happen.

 

[Analytic]

C'mon now. You were approached by 4 women in the mall in one day?! I have a hard time believing that. That's more than most guys get approached during their entire lives. What were the circumstances behind these approaches? Were they employees in the stores, or just mall patrons walking around? Maybe Canadian women are different than American women. You come to a mall down here and I guarantee you that won't happen.

I don't believe this either, even if he was the hottest man alive I don't think he would get approuched 4 times in a mall in one day. They may gawk but not approuch, maybe the girls approuch you were the hired guns :crazy:

 

[Canadian Catnip]

C'mon now. You were approached by 4 women in the mall in one day?! I have a hard time believing that. That's more than most guys get approached during their entire lives. What were the circumstances behind these approaches? Were they employees in the stores, or just mall patrons walking around? Maybe Canadian women are different than American women. You come to a mall down here and I guarantee you that won't happen.

Ok sorry guys, when I said approached I did not mean in the sense that we use the word here for approaching women. What I meant was women were coming up to me and engaging me in conversation etc. I think I said that in my first post as well.

I don't think any of them were trying to pick me up but I did seem to be in some kind of zone where women were open to me.

Here are two quick stories. First, sitting at a crowded food court by myself at a small table. Looking around I see two hot young women about 200 feet away with trays of food looking for a table to sit at. Me and one of the girls make eye contact and I look away. There are lots of people sitting alone at tables all over the food court. They both weave their way all the way over to my table and ask if they can join me. I say yes of course. They sit down and start talking to me, so what did you get? etc The thing is that this never happens to me, women looking for a place to sit down never come up to my table and ask if they can join me.

Second story. After eating I went to buy a coffee and was lined up behind about 3 or 4 people waiting in line. An older girl comes up behind me and starts talking to me about coffee. I just let it go and grab my coffee and walk away. Well about 15 minutes later I was walking thought the mall and this same lady sees me and comes up to me and asks how was my coffee? and then begins to talk with me for about 10 minutes. Again this has never happened to me.

Were these women trying to pick me up in the approach sense, probably not. Some people have this kind of thing happen to them all of the time, not me. That is why I wrote the original Post as to how there is a change in me somehow.

It's also happened more since then. I sometimes hang out at a coffee shop and when I'm there I usually grab a seat and have an extra seat at my table. When the place fills up people will ask if they can share a table or join you. Lots of times I would be in the coffee shop and I would be the last one to be asked if someone could join me, a lot of times no one would want to sit with me. Well in the last few days I have been in there twice and both times when the place starts to fill up I get asked pretty early on if I would mind if some hot cutie wanted to join me.

Some of these stories might sound like normal behavior to some of you. I think I went from being closed off to being normal, but that's still a jump for me.

 

[Micheal Moon]

I honestly think its that law of attraction.

Your'e putting that energy into the world (approaching) and its coming back to you.

That's happened to me before.

I've been in a slump w/ approaching for a very long time so it went away. So I have to get back in the game again. Anyways your post kind of reminded me of that.

 

[lyamdb]

yeah I have felt the exact same effects after approaching few times a day for a couple of days. I was so excited actually I was gonna start a thread about it but I never did.
I started feeling much more alive, and also feeling much more respect and LOVE for myself. I started getting many ECs and some girls also approached me. its really amazing how the system works!

“Those that have shall be given more…those that have not even that shall be taken from them”

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Man just **** one consitant chic at a time and you wont have to deal with all the BS of cold approaches.

 

[IPreyOnIt]

The **** is this 3 second rule you speak of, son?

 

[Drewskie]

Bump... need to read this when I have more time