Thought of you can never be the best for her keeps holding me back

[SayWhat]

I sat down some more and tried to figure out why I have such a low self esteem and lack of social skills.

Perhaps it's just another excuse I make up in my head to not approach or to not be myself. I don't know but here goes.

Girls are hypergamists. We try to be the best to be that person that is way better than her and better than the guys around us.

Now, I know I'll never be the best. I'll never be the most handsome guy on earth, I'll never have that perfect life that she's looking for, I'll never be the best in social situations. No one is of course, but someone out there is better than me and what if she meets that guy? Then I'll be dropped like a stone. I don't blame her, I want the best girl I can get as well.

But yeah, there's always this thought that I can never achieve what I truly want. Some things I can change and am working on that, but some things just can't be changed...

 

[Tictac]

Until you believe in yourself, no one else will either.

 

[Konada]

http://markmanson.net/being-average

 

[Serenity]

Not everyone can be best, in fact only one can be best. But what about the rest? Doomed to be lesser? No, the rest decides who's best. The people on top are in the fragile position where others determine their success, not a place I'd like to be.

Not all girls are hypergamists, you just gotta hammer that into your head.

You don't have to be best, it's an expectation so high it will destroy you. The ones trying too hard to be the best are the ones who grow into the worst, they chase their goal at all costs. It costs them a lot more than it's worth.

The one's with high self-esteem don't have it because they are the best, they have it because they do their best. The one's with low self-esteem have it because they don't ever think they're good enough. It's really just a frame, a point of view over what happens, what we think and what we do about it.

I don't try to be better than others, I just do what I think is the best thing to do. Often it's better than what people who compare themselves to others do.