Glassguy
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I think we all have that one or two women that brought us to google, searching for "how to handle a breakup" or something similar.
Most longer term posters on here know my story from past posts. Married at 26, divorced at 35, played hard but ended up in a relationship that lasted nearly 3 years and turned into an engagement. Then we broke up.
The divorce was a little bumpy, but I knew it was the right thing to do, and something that I had to do given the circumstances of her infidelity.
The post divorce relationship/engagement/break up was hard. I just felt like we REALLY meshed well on all levels. That was much tougher for some reason to plow through, but I found greener pastures and started dating A LOT and eventually built a solid rotation. So that is where I am today.
However, those women (or woman) that truly brought us here do silly things. I havent talked to the last one in over a year. She reached out when my dad passed away last July. Then she reached out a month or so later just to follow up to see how I was doing. I really didnt think too much about it because my mind was still in a weird place, as should be normal after losing a parent. I took it as respectfulness from her if nothing else. Then she reached out a month or so later. It was a little more laid back, fun text, but I cut it off and didnt let it go anywhere. She has been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. I have no idea of the value of their relationship because I never cared. I do know that he likes to drink a lot and they have had an on again off again type of relationship. I have always been a love them and leave them type of guy. Once its over, its over.
But those women know how to make the thoughts hazy and get the emotions swirling.
I got a random text from her this afternoon. Basically letting me know that her dog (that we bought together at the time) has some type of disease and she was making more of a joke about it than anything.
My first thought was to send back "what does your bf think about it?". But I see her parents on a very consistent basis at our golf club, so I just kept it as one or two word responses.
I wont break frame.
Not looking for advice on how to handle it because I know how to handle it. I just think its weird that they can sense when things are going really well and then they throw a text our way................................
Carry on!
Most longer term posters on here know my story from past posts. Married at 26, divorced at 35, played hard but ended up in a relationship that lasted nearly 3 years and turned into an engagement. Then we broke up.
The divorce was a little bumpy, but I knew it was the right thing to do, and something that I had to do given the circumstances of her infidelity.
The post divorce relationship/engagement/break up was hard. I just felt like we REALLY meshed well on all levels. That was much tougher for some reason to plow through, but I found greener pastures and started dating A LOT and eventually built a solid rotation. So that is where I am today.
However, those women (or woman) that truly brought us here do silly things. I havent talked to the last one in over a year. She reached out when my dad passed away last July. Then she reached out a month or so later just to follow up to see how I was doing. I really didnt think too much about it because my mind was still in a weird place, as should be normal after losing a parent. I took it as respectfulness from her if nothing else. Then she reached out a month or so later. It was a little more laid back, fun text, but I cut it off and didnt let it go anywhere. She has been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. I have no idea of the value of their relationship because I never cared. I do know that he likes to drink a lot and they have had an on again off again type of relationship. I have always been a love them and leave them type of guy. Once its over, its over.
But those women know how to make the thoughts hazy and get the emotions swirling.
I got a random text from her this afternoon. Basically letting me know that her dog (that we bought together at the time) has some type of disease and she was making more of a joke about it than anything.
My first thought was to send back "what does your bf think about it?". But I see her parents on a very consistent basis at our golf club, so I just kept it as one or two word responses.
I wont break frame.
Not looking for advice on how to handle it because I know how to handle it. I just think its weird that they can sense when things are going really well and then they throw a text our way................................
Carry on!
