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What the he77...i'll bite.
I was 17, like many others, probably before the Internet was popular as a medium of communication. I didn't even have a computer except for writing documents and it had only MS DOS.
My 1st actually came right up to me. It was the end of senior year, I'd dropped a good amount of weight working out, bought a new car, and changed how I dressed. I was now being noticed. I remember walking the halls on school dress up day. The theme was "summer", although it was April. I had OAKS and was able to see all the girls in skimpy clothes. I walked by a cute brunette with striking blue eyes, and she basically looked right through the glasses at me. No girl did that or had done it, so I knew something was up. That much I could feel in the air. A few days later was a dance, probably the 1st I'd been to in years. I went with a buddy of mine, since we had the night off from work and I was seeking a date to the prom. I walked in, and not 2 minutes later my friend tells me, "Someone here likes you." Sure enough it was the girl from earlier in the week who stared right through black sunglasses to let me know she had interest.
We danced, and went out afterwards. She was a hardcore grinder. I couldn't tell if she was a hoe, or just sexual. After dating her, she was more sexual, but absolutely aggressive; she was a softball player, and could hang with the boys. The first OFFICIAL date we'd gone to her house, this only 1 week after being at the dance with her. At the conclusion of the date, we made out, she was grinding me, and she says, "if my parents weren't upstairs, I'd be a bad girl now," implying sex. I didn't have a condom anyways, but something told me she did.
One week later, I took her to see Titanic, and didn't mind it. Leonardo Dicaprio is pretty cool, especially when you examine his career. We get in the car and she immediately STRIPS down to nothing and tells me she wants to park somewhere. She knows the location. We parked at that location many nights thereafter. We remained together until 3 weeks into our freshman year at college. Back then, I should have realized it wouldn't last, first because I was about 4 hours away, and wouldn't be able to travel but once a month down to her. And second, because the letters she wrote eventually trailed off to saying..."I know there are lots of cute guys here, and I do think they are cute, but there's only one guy for me..." In that letter, she forgot to write LOVE YOU, and hastily stuck it in the mail. In retrospect, things had slipped the minute we went to far off schools. Had I known THEN what I known NOW, I'd never have NOT dated girls at my college, and I EASILY, without trying had 3 girls who threw themselves at me, and 1 girl I ended up persuing. I'd also perhaps not have transferred. The awful first semester, being 4 hours from home in the cold tundra of Maine, no jobs opportunities, and some bills to pay threw me for a loop. It was a great place, and the guys I partied with were one of a kind guys.
I can't say there were any f-ups. And quite honestly, I'd probably not have cared anyways. I'd have laughed it off. I think my gf at that point found it attractive I was actually a Virgin, and thought sex would be special SINCE I hadn't done it before with anyone else. She came to admit to me that she'd been with 7 guys, me being the 7th, and she was only 18. I found that quite high, but it didn't matter anyways. More than anything, I was naive. I dug her, no doubt. We chilled as friends and as lovers. Odd thing was, by the end of Freshman year...she found a new guy to be with. At that point we were over, never to return again, but we did communicate for awhile. The guy she found was a friend/acquaintance I replaced at the Local Supermarket. I found it so odd, because I was given a raise and promotion to replace this guy Joe. He moved on. I didn't even think he'd go to college. It turns out he goes to college, the SAME ONE was my gf/xgf back then, and ends up with her no less! My friend broke the news one day when I was secretly threatned by Joe to stay away from her, although I hadn't spoken or talked to her in decades. They're married now, and have been for about 2 years or more. Last I saw her, she'd ballooned up anyways.
Funny how girls who are just on the cusp of cute/hot with some extra padding in the arse and chest can chubby quick.
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For me, I think my AWAKENING was years ago, around 16/17, when I desired to HAVE women in my life, women I LIKED, and I wanted to find ways to get them. My first steps were like many here...find some money, a car, and workout. But what contributed most, were my friends. Previously I'd stayed the same old me getting the same things in life because of habits. But when I met a new group of friends who put me in different situations, I evolved, and women found that attractive. The guys I befriended were in fairly popular local bands, they always had parties while their parents were away, and always had women around. They had no quarms about talking to anybody, and I adopted their traits by hanging out with them. Those friends would talk about masturbating, shytting, eating pvssy, banging, anal, anything, in front of anybody, and if you didn't like it, they didn't care. But most people did, and they would gravitate toward them. They were always a good time, and women loved that. The ugliest band guys got some of the hottest chicks, it was insane. Many of them dated pretty attractive, yet skanky strippers and bartenders. I did hook a few of them up with respectable girls from my HS, but it often didn't work out for very long.
MOST kids know what it's like to BE THERE, want a woman, perhaps not feel good enough, or just have a bunch of crap muddying up your brain. But it's GOING through that process that helps. I grew up during my senior year the most of any year to that point, but nobody could help me be who I wanted to be or get what I wanted to get. I'm always like that. When my birthday or christmas comes, I don't want THINGS, I want improvement in life. I only want me to be able to accomplish and do more of the things I want to do. Parents are doing their kids a grave disservice by shielding them too much, and by not allowing them to suffer somewhat and figure it out. If they shield them too much, they end up hurting their growth, and they may never break the cycle. Seems like the case we have with men and teens today.
A-Unit