This women just wont get sexual

[topdog3853]

Alright quick situation. I've been hanging out with this HB a few times. We been out on multiple dates and have been back to her place afterwards too. Whenever we are at her place there is no problem with the kissing, etc. Her interest level, seems to be pretty high, etc. However, I am ready to bring the sexual experience up a notch if you know what I mean. If we start kissing or whatever then it always ends with her just hugging me. She seems to just want to cuddle all the time. When we're out we joke around about sex all the time and whatever. Then when we get back to her place it justs seems that she wont get more into it other than light kissing and cuddling. How do I get past this point. I've tried to get a little more agressive, with respect of course to try and get the moment going but it just wont' seem to happen. I mean at first I though she was just a tease, but things have gone a little further than just teasing. I don't know if she just isn't ready because she feels she doesn't know me that well or what the fvck is going on. I guess what should I do or say if this happens next time. Obviously I don't want to be disrespectfuly and be like, what the f*** is the problem. Anyway any input would be cool fellow DJ's.

 

[topdog3853]

Anything gentlemen?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

This might work ... take her out for a late dinner, 1 or 2 glasses of wine so you're relaxed, take her home, and ask does she want to stay the night.

How exactly is she stopping you progressing? I mean I'm thinking 2 options here: either she doesn't want to do it with you, or she's very shy and wants you to be aggressive and take the lead.

 

[xblitz44x]

Next time she goes to kiss you back at her place...stop her and say. "No, we can't"...and if she asks why, say "Because I'm going to get turned on, and I'm going to make a move on you. That is your warning, if you can deal with that then I would love to kiss you".

-Blitz

 

[Brasco]

How old is this girl? Maybe she is a virgin or doesn't have much experience, try to be a little agressive and see what happens.

 

[Starman]

umm use what men have been using for century's liquor or roofies.

Obviously she thinks you are going too fast..so take baby steps..or kiss her neck..that always turns women on

or like blitz said..stop and pull away..and say you're not that type of guy..but dont do it like you are getting angry and frustrated with her

 

[topdog3853]

Thanks guys. xblitz, i like that idea, i will have to try that one. Oscar, she is stopping me from progressing because we will kissing, etc and it starts to get a little more passionate. As we pull apart she will go and hug me. At first I though ok she doesn't like me kissing her, etc. The more we hang out the more she wants me to stay, and cuddle, etc. I draw the line and take off and go home. she walks me to the door and waits for a long good by kiss etc. I know she's not shy but I have tried the aggressive approach and it always ends the same way. Maybe she doesn't want to do it with me, but a little "more" fun would be nice if you know what I mean.

 

[topdog3853]

She's is older than I am almost into her late 20's. That's why I can't figure the situation out also. Older women like to have fun right...

 

[Starman]

ahhh the cuddler .. can somebody say childhood sexual abuse or history of rape?

This lady is scared of men and needs to build trust in them before progressing..ALOT of trust.

Either that or she was raised in a strict religious family.

She is trying to connect the feeling of love/intimacy..with sexual behavior..to easen self guilt.

If you love her and leave her..she will hunt you down and kill you

 

[topdog3853]

Nice starman, nice. lol The trust thing I think you got it. One time we were joking around about something and I say sarcastically, what you dont' trust me? What did she say but "Trust is Earned" lol thanks guys, I got to get outta here, wish me luck...

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Here's a thread that can probably help you.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=12778