THIS IS MIND BOGGLING... input?

D4H

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ok, ive been quite frustrated as of late... but then this weekened i went to a few really good parties and met some hot chicks at a few of the parties. This one girl that i met was flirting with me like crazy, all playfully arguing with me saying "nahhh uhh" right in my face like she wanted to kiss me. I had to leave though so i got the digits and told her id hit her up later. When i eventually got around to calling she sounded thrilled to hear from me, and SHE suggested that i go out with her today (monday) and at first i was hesitant but she convinced me. Then at the end of the convo she says "it was so nice to hear from you, thanks for calling". I was like sure this girl was into me. Then today when she's supposed to call me up, she doesnt. I call her up once, no answer.. then i call again and just leave a message. Like an hour inbetween. Then later on when no call back, i call with my friends cell phone and she answers. So im thinking wtf? I wait another hour and call her again on my phone, but no answer. I know to just NEXT this one, and i already have. But what ****ing sense does it make?
 

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It means she's outplaying you. Don't call her again. You left her a message, if she's real, she'll get back to you.

In the future, don't leave a messsage. Caller ID will tell her you called. No sense risking a bad recording.
 

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Then today when she's supposed to call me up, she doesnt. I call her up once, no answer.. then i call again and just leave a message. Like an hour inbetween. Then later on when no call back, i call with my friends cell phone and she answers. So im thinking wtf? I wait another hour and call her again on my phone, but no answer.

Make sense now?
 

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yeah, I'm not a fan of playing games but you were getting ridiculous with the phone game. My guess is that you fvcked it up when you were in person, when you didn't kiss her and take advantage of the opportunity she granted you, but she gave you another chance with the phone call. You didn't take the dominant role in that one either and she dismissed you. You shattered the perceptions that drove her to like you.
 

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She just called me back.. saying that she was in the library that whole time and left her cell at the house. She asked me what i was doing tonight and I told her i was hanging with some friends but wouldnt mind goin out with her. She said sounds cool, she's heading to the liquor store though and she'll call me when she gets back.
 

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Ok, she didnt call. Like i said, very confusing and mind boggling. Next her?
 

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So, let me get this straight - you called her with your friend's cell and she answers, but when you call her with yours she doesn't, then she tells you she was in the library when you had called?

I wouldn't next her just yet. Might as well play this out one more step. Make concrete plans, and kiss close.

Now, if you can't get the close, that's not a reason to next her. The reason you should next her is because she was able to answer your friend's cell, but not yours. (Assuming these calls took place within 5 minutes of each other. )
 

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She asked me what i was doing tonight and I told her i was hanging with some friends but wouldnt mind goin out with her.
Where's the challenge???

You should have said you were hanging with friends and left it at that.

SHE should be trying to convince YOU that YOU should go out with HER. Not the other way around. YOU are the prize. Not her.
 

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Oh yeah and don't call her again.

If she calls you and it looks like you can get some then give it a shot but otherwise NEXT!!!
 

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Big pappy is right ( as usual)

I can add....

has it occurred to you she also has a life I mean chill brother.
half the time when she isn't answering, she might be at the store, at the carwash or wherever.

Leave ONE message. let it go. Don't call again for a solid week, I'm serious man.

Girls keep track of shyt. like how many times your name is on there caller ID in a 24 hour period. Know it. Learn it. Understand it.

If she don't call back... holy sheep shyt batman!
She isn't what you thought she was anyway...that being a potential. She is more like a waste of your precious time. Time you could use to get you a more reliable girl!

If you got a bad feeling about the friend thing..just back the hell off. Use your time on some other girls. If she is a no call no show..wellll! if not, then alright then. Play it by ear, but don't spoil the play!
 

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Originally posted by D4H
Then today when she's supposed to call me up, she doesnt. I call her up once, no answer.. then i call again and just leave a message. Like an hour inbetween. Then later on when no call back, i call with my friends cell phone and she answers. So im thinking wtf? I wait another hour and call her again on my phone, but no answer. I know to just NEXT this one, and i already have. But what ƒucking sense does it make?
She might be attention wh0ring you. Either way, you've given her red flags. I hope it wasn't her cell phone you were calling cause it keeps a log of all calls made. So, she sees you call at 9. You leave a message at 10. then call her on your phone again at 2. Dog, you've shown her you want her.. bad call. Besides, women can play games too and be interested. Here's what you shoulda done, she said she'd call you, don't call her. Either wait her out / conditional neXt her... or... call her 2 days later, she don't pick up, leave a message and don't EVER call her again. Its her time to call now.
 

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I agree with above...

You're being used as a back up in case her other plans fall through.

Quit chasing her. Maybe she'll chase you...

I think she falls into the category of FLAKE!
 

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Originally posted by Big Pappy
So, let me get this straight - you called her with your friend's cell and she answers, but when you call her with yours she doesn't, then she tells you she was in the library when you had called?

I wouldn't next her just yet. Might as well play this out one more step. Make concrete plans, and kiss close.

Now, if you can't get the close, that's not a reason to next her. The reason you should next her is because she was able to answer your friend's cell, but not yours. (Assuming these calls took place within 5 minutes of each other. )
No...SHE should next HIM for calling four times in one day and demonstrating overall needy and insecure behavior.

D4H, you know better. :mad: In fact, by calling from a DIFFERENT PHONE, you essentially told her, "I am not secure in my ability to attract you...I believe you are intentionally avoiding me."
 

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Only reason i called her up like this was because this girl was all on MY **** at the party... and initially was alot more interested than me. But yeah, im never calling her again, next. If she calls me up to hang out, ill tell her that im going home for the weekend and gonna be busy, but ill give HER a call when im ready to hang out.
 
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