This girl wants me to be her friend so bad

[aix237]

I dated this girl for a little and Ive known her for about a year. We got really close when we dated. We broke up and I wanted nothing to do with her after. Shes a serial dater for sure. Shes "dating" some chump. Im not just saying that, he really is one. She broke up with her ex and he got LJBF and he refused and that made her sad. Now she keeps on wanting me to be her friend. Everytime I cut her off she creeps right back into my life. Calls me or texts me and I cant help but answer cause I care about her and she cares about me. Today we had a 2 hour phone conversation I know not good. I was suppose to go eat lunch with her but I didnt. She just kept and saying why cant we be friends but i understand your points as to why you dont want to.

I told her I dont do the friends thing after I date someone and Ive told her this so many fvckin times. I said Im not going to be friend cause I still have feelings and she said she has feelings for me. Also I just keep on dissing the dude she is with. I tell her hes not a man and just a pvssy that can be walked all over and not confident even my roomate said the same thing. SHE FVCKING AGREED WITH ME ON EVERY POINT.WTF????? I then told her either you and I try to work sh1t out or we can't talk cause Im not about to be your girlfriend and be at the same level as all ur AFC guy friends. She said we are closer than that blah blah blah. Then she said Ill respect whatever you do blah blah. Sure. She calls me or texts out of the blue to make sure Im still around when I cut her off.

I ask her why does she care if I talk to her anymore. She said cause youre a great guy, never have dealt with anyone like me and do fvcked up sh1t ?????(put her in her place, being an azzhole, act c0cky, confident, dont let her walk all over, I basically give her the drama she craves, i guess). She then said well we are in between (dating and friends) I laughed and said wow thats interesting.

Im suppose to see her on wed. Im not calling her. Ill see her thursday around town and Im still not going to call her or approach her. When I see her shes going to be like why dont you talk to me? Im going to say cause your with a chump. Also we want each other in our lives but you want it one way and I want it another way so its pointless for us to talk anymore and good luck in life. She should crawl back and ditch the chump atleast for the night if I play it right. But I still dont get why she wants me as a friend so badly.

 

[j0n024]

"I told her I dont do the friends thing after I date someone"

"I cant help but answer cause I care about her and she cares about me. Today we had a 2 hour phone conversation"


....You seem to be contradicting yourself and that is pretty funny to read. What I would do IF I was in your position is just cut contact and I do mean CUT contact, I mean you say you cut contact but how does she come back and WHY do you keep on LETTING HER? I have no idea why you are going to meet her on Wednesday or Thursday...shes an AW and she is playing you look a tool...pretty sad.

 

[aix237]

playing me for what? I know she wants me there just to grow her little network and have somoene to fall back on but we have a deep connection according to her and I know she doesnt say that sh1t just to anyone. Im not going to meet her but she will probably end up being at a bar im at i go there thursdays get free drinks all night long and my roomate djs, Im not going to not go somewhere where all of my friends are at just cause shes going there also.

 

[Prod]

playing me for what? I know she wants me there just to grow her little network and have somoene to fall back on but we have a deep connection according to her and I know she doesnt say that sh1t just to anyone. Im not going to meet her but she will probably end up being at a bar im at i go there thursdays get free drinks all night long and my roomate djs, Im not going to not go somewhere where all of my friends are at just cause shes going there also.

Are you seeing anybody else? From my experience, ex's that want to keep you around as a "friend" get very, VERY uncomfortable seeing you with someone else, usually.

 

[Warrior74]

grow some damn balls and stop answering the freaking phone. Move on. Talk about who you are dating...why is this even important? My female friends don't have to beg us to be friends..we just are... and I don't spend nearly as much time with them as I do my male friends. Just the occasional lunch every now and then or hanging out every now and then. They have boyfriends and I have girlfriends so hanging out too much wouldn't go down well with our repective SO's.

It sounds like she knows you have no life and she can barge into yours whenever she feels like it. She's got you on the hook. If you really didn't want to be her friend you would cut all contact. But you want something...her feminine energy...and she wants attention..so she knows she can get you back at any time, get what she wants, watch you squirm on the hook (we can't be friends, but on the phone for 2 hours) and get all the attention she is looking for.

Grow some damn balls boy and cut it off. The fact that you are posting about it here means you are thinking about her more than any other woman in your life. What does that say about your life?

You want her back and she knows it. "She's dating a chump?" "she should ditch the chump" You are focking jealous as a mofo and she knows that too. She got you son! She got you! You just came here to try and justify your wussiness to us. Sorry man. We ain't buyin that.