I had been talking with one of my lady friends and she and I were trying to work around our schedules so that I could drive down (about 30-35 min) to see her new apartment and so that we could watch a movie. She calls me yesterday and suggests that I could spend the night (so that I didn't have to feel rushed) and that we could watch the movie and a little TV. Well I get there and we start to watch the movie about 9 o' clock. About 30 minutes into the movie, she gets a phone call, and she stays on the phone talking...about work and other crap, so I know it was a co-worker. I am getting agitated b/c not only did she not keep it brief and get off, but that she stayed on. I was somewhat distracted b/c of her convo, not to mention that I didn't drive all the way down there to watch a movie by myself and so that she could have a convo on our time. I decided at 10 o' clock that I wasn't staying anymore. I asked her to give me my movie. She told her party that she'd call them right back. She then plays dumb and asks why am I taking it out. I'm mad, so I don't say anything. She asks again and smiles a bit, as if she's genuinely ignorant to why I wanted to take it out. I said that I wasn't in the mood to watch it anymore, and that I thought we were watching it. She says that "we" were watching it. I said, no "we" weren't, and that I didn't want to take her away from her more important phone call. I take my things, and walk out the door. On the way out, I tell her to come lock the deadbolt and good night. I was really mad at the stunt she pulled. I'm not quite sure how to deal with her when she tries to call me back.
This girl has some nerve
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You should have just walked outand said good night without explaining what was bothering you. I am sure she is not that dumb not to figure out that her rude behavior was the cause.
It could have been a subconscious shyt test or maybe she is just plain rude. Either way, I think you did the right thing and don't be surprised if her interest in you will skyrocket as you did not just sit there and put up with her unacceptable behavior.
It could have been a subconscious shyt test or maybe she is just plain rude. Either way, I think you did the right thing and don't be surprised if her interest in you will skyrocket as you did not just sit there and put up with her unacceptable behavior.
Just got back from a meeting. Looks like she's apologizing for being on the phone.and that she wants to drive up this weekend to watch that movie (or another one...my choice). She said she didn't think she'd be on the phone long (rolls eyes). I told her the other day that I like the way she sings, so she comes back in teh email talking about that she'll sing me a song. I'm not even addressing that weak issue. She wants me to please let her know about this weekend.
Hmm...She can't be that "unknowing" about what happened. Any thoughts? Knowing her, she'll probably remention last night when I see her. Do I comment or leave it alone? Do I tell her I accept her apology? That sounds weak and cornballish if I say it, because I look like a hurt boy that needs his feelings assuaged. Give me your thoughts on how to handle her.
This time, if she wants to see you, let her make the effort and do the planning. Make her earn your attention and not the other way around.
I would put her on probation. Next time she does something rude or disrespectful, you next.
I would put her on probation. Next time she does something rude or disrespectful, you next.
dearsappho
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Make her sweat and tell her you'll call her when you have time to watch another movie 'cause your busy.
Then take a porno round there or summink...
Then take a porno round there or summink...
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I'm not quite sure how to deal with her when she tries to call me back.
What you put out you will get back.
Act like a fool and you will get a fools results.
Act from anger and you will get angers spicy wares
Act like a man and you will rule the day!
What you put out you will get back.
Act like a fool and you will get a fools results.
Act from anger and you will get angers spicy wares
Act like a man and you will rule the day!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
is this someone u are just friends with or more???
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I think you should have just told her to get off the phone, however you want to do it. Get eye contact and point to your watch, or do a mock sleeping gesture, whatever. Or just tell her to hurry up.
Getting all moody and storming out of the place seems like something a chick would do.
Getting all moody and storming out of the place seems like something a chick would do.
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And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
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I think you handled the situation fine and now she's kissing your ass. SHE wants to drive up, she's letting you pick the movie, and she's ready to sing to you. Tell her she can sing for you, as long as it's a lullabye.
Take her up on her apology. You've already made yourself clear that you won't put up with her bull5hit.
Take her up on her apology. You've already made yourself clear that you won't put up with her bull5hit.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Unreal .. 5 years? You haven't even so much as tapped that ass once? You then act all jealous when someone does call her from work - sounds like a guy from work?
Hmmm ...
Hmmm ...
Nope, not once. She was once on this kissing on the cheek sh*t a while back. That's some stupid activity if you ask me. What a way to be a tease. This isn't the movies where people in high society do that "kiss on the cheek" BS.
About it being a guy...I believe it was based on what I did hear. The point is that I came all the way down there to spend time with her, and she pulled that crap. Although it being a guy didn't make it any better, it still wouldn't have mattered. I could have stayed home for that sh*t.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Guess i'm kindof perplexed Don ...
Does she have a boyfriend? How many has she had since you've known her?
Kiss on the cheek? Yet she invites to watch shows .. calls you?
Why would she even put in the effort if she wasn't attracted?
Does she have a boyfriend? How many has she had since you've known her?
Kiss on the cheek? Yet she invites to watch shows .. calls you?
Why would she even put in the effort if she wasn't attracted?
