This Facebook thing

[ozzfest]

I think most of us agree that this Facebook is cheesy. As a guy I don't have it and none of my close friends do it either. However, all day long at work I hear these girls talking about it and I have to wonder what exactly they are doing on there. At 1st I thought they just go on there and keep in touch with friends but I have to wonder if its used as a tool to hook up. In fact I'm pretty darn sure that's what is going on. So somewhere out there some guys are using it and using it to score with women. So I guess in a weird way they are the smart ones.

I know this is going to sound naive but what the heck do you do on there? Can you chat with the person in real time? I know you can look at their pictures but is there more to it than that? Interactive? I know so little and NO I am not going to sign up for it. Just asking.

Well maybe if there is a ton of positive feedback from you guys about picking up women on there maybe I will sign up! haha

 

[Tiguere]

Yea you can use it to hook up if you are smart about it.
Women use it entirely for ego boost and to hide their low self steem. They will share every meaningless details of their life and have their friends give them comment and "likes".

 

[oneboy21]

Low self esteem
Attention *****s
ego boosting
not so interesting
chicks spend lots of time there, they post bunch of pictures of them selfs and song lyrics every day. They also expect a hot guy to message them and hook up with them.

 

[Quick]

If you just want to pick up girls online, i'd suggest okcupid over facebook.

 

[PDubb75]

ozzfest... You are gonna be bombarded by negative Facebook talk. There are about 15 Facebook threads that have been created in the last 2 months, and they are generally very negative.

It shocks me how sensitive some guys are to the actions of people on Facebook. Does it REALLY bother you so much if one of your Facebook friends posts song lyrics that they like??? I just don't understand the hatred.

I joined Facebook when it first started. When it was made for college students to sign up, be able to connect with other students from their school for homework help, study groups, party information, etc. I loved it back then. I mean think about it: For the first time ever, you could literally find out everything going on in your university by going to a website. You could find out who was going where, what it was going to be like, etc. It made making friends and finding girls hard not to do. And when you have the culture shock of starting college, it was a godsend.

Then they opened it up to anyone and everyone and it did go downhill a bit. It did turn into a breeding ground for attention *****s. I won't deny it. But my point is that I have experienced many more positives than negatives when it comes to my social life.

I am not one of the people that post all the time (in fact, I rarely post anything myself), or one of those people that sit on Facebook instead of going out. I use it in the background for planning social outings, seeing pictures from my social outings that my friends post, and using the chat feature to talk with some friends real-time.

When my LTR g/f and I broke up in November, I changed my Relationship Status, and had messages/IMs from multiple girls asking what happened. I went out for drinks with 3 of them, and hooked up with 2 of them. These were girls from my past that I hadn't talked to in 5 years. Never would have happened without Facebook.

Aside from that, I reconnected with a lot of people I lost touch with. Now, 80% of the time I go out, it's with someone that I wasn't even speaking to a year ago, and is now some of my best friends. Again, never would have happened without Facebook.

What it all comes down to is how you use it. Some guys have success picking up girls with it. Then there are guys like me who use it simply for social situations and leave my pick ups for face-to-face interactions. Then, of course, there are guys who abuse it and their social life suffers because of it.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

If you just want to pick up girls online, i'd suggest okcupid over facebook.

Agreed.

Seeing how Facebook is a social site and not a dating site, it seems kinda weird to strike up conversations with complete strangers in hopes of landing a date.

I'm sure it's been done before. But probably not often.

 

[irocknike23]

theres nothing cheesy about facebook. i have one. it lets you stay in contact with past friends who moved away. distant relatives and current friends etc..

whats cheesy is dudes adding chicks they dont know and trying to spit game at them...they need to take that over to myspace

 

[TheZone]

one thing I don't understand is how people can get so many friends. it even seems automated, like a machine adds friends for them. How do people even exchange their facebook info. I never ask people for their facebook info, but now it seems like some social network only "elites" are allowed in.

 

[Ciel]

facebook info

Its just a name.

 

[PDubb75]

one thing I don't understand is how people can get so many friends. it even seems automated, like a machine adds friends for them. How do people even exchange their facebook info. I never ask people for their facebook info, but now it seems like some social network only "elites" are allowed in.

What "Facebook info" do you need to ask for? In most cases, it's just their first and last name...

 

[TheZone]

well,m excatly. Who do you know goes around asking people for their last name.

Hi my name's Chris. Women says her name. That's it. No "what's your last name".

Why? to add you on facebook. Facebook? What are you a nerd!?

Lol.

Now I see it's not for nerds. Now it's a place to commonly get flings, so it's "in" right?

In AND out because she still can say you're a nerd for wanting info for facebook. It's like a girl giving you her email address that she might never check out. Potential slap in the face. or, what, she'll now know you're in facebook a network for hookups.

 

[Ciel]

Almost nobody I know has asked anyone for their facebook info. They just find out that persons facebook through actually knowing them.

 

[TheZone]

right, so how then can people know hundreds on people on facebook?

Do we all have time to get to know hundreds of people so personally?

Or is it like, done through connects, ie, friend recommendations, thru mutual friends, etc. or through tagged photos. Or some app or some ****.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

right, so how then can people know hundreds on people on facebook?

Do we all have time to get to know hundreds of people so personally?

Or is it like, done through connects, ie, friend recommendations, thru mutual friends, etc. or through tagged photos. Or some app or some ****.

I have about 200 friends on Facebook. And it's all people I know and have met in person.

I'm 30. So after high school, college, and being a working professional for 8 years, I don't think it's weird to know 200 people.

They're not all CLOSE friends. But I know them well enough to accept their link.

Are you asking how to you GET the names of people on Facebook? Let's say you know Mike from an old job. You become Mike's friend on Facebook, and you look thru his friends list. Then you see Kelly and Bob from your old job too. You think "Oh I haven't talked to them in a while. I'll become their Friend." After you become Kelly and Bob's friend, one of your friend's from the neighborhood sees you on Kelly's list. And he says, "The Zone is on Facebook? I'll send a Friend request."

 

[TheZone]

yea I guess. You're 30, I'm talking about girls who are like 23 and have like 300 friends.
I guess it's just not possible to personally know ALL of them like they're your real friends in life. It's more believable that a person may be associates or not very good friends with a lot of them, ie, saw you once at a party, etc. or on the street. Like "hey i know you" kind of thing but not enough to be a close(r) friend.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

yea I guess. You're 30, I'm talking about girls who are like 23 and have like 300 friends.

Ah. Well they're just Attention Wh*res.

Facebook was just starting when I was in college. But now, I'm guessing that if you have 60 kids in a college class, then they're all "Friending" each other just for the hell of it...whether they actually talk or not.

So yeah, I'm pretty sure these 20 year olds with 600 friends don't actually know all the people. Having lots of fake friends is just a symbol of popularity.

 

[loveshogun]

I'm 30. So after high school, college, and being a working professional for 8 years, I don't think it's weird to know 200 people.

I've traveled and competed nationally for dance for the last 6 or so years, and because I've always been a social center for my circles, my Facebook account has blown up (since my joining in 2004) to more than 1000 friends.

The crappy thing is, this is AFTER I culled most of the list. Every one of those thousand people I scrolled through, I was able to name at least 4 things about what they do and who they are, and can recall both where I met them and when I last saw them. My criteria for cutting people out was if they didn't meet any of the above criteria, and I haven't seen them in a year.

So, when I think about it, it's pretty f*ckin' ridiculous about how many people I've met, and it kind of scares me how every one of those people knows at least a few things about me - which used to mean their friends, people I've never met, can know a few things about me.

This is why, up until about 3 months ago, I quit Facebook for about a year. I reactivated because I realized it was tough to organize some bigger parties with my friends, because I don't have email addresses for everyone, and phoning 20 people can be a chore. However, I also turned off all my notifications, people can only see my profile pictures, I don't have a wall, and I don't have any info listed about me except for my name, where I went to school, and that I'm male. I'm also not publicly searchable through Google.

So, basically, I only use it to make events.

I highly suggest not having more than 200 or so acquaintances. It's highly distracting.

 

[Upside]

Only 300? I'd say the vast majority of girls average somewhere around 500 facebook pals and dudes are more around the 200 mark from what I have seen.

The thing that bothers me the most about facebook is how fake it is. Feels like most people are trying to portray themselves in a certain light that they can not attain normally. Posting 100 pictures of one social outing to give the illusion of an active social life, dudes taking pictures with chicks to give the illusion they have great game (a strategy even advocated on here). The illusiion that someone with 500 facebook pals has a better and more active social life in comparison to someone who has 50. The whole thing to me is just about attention whoring and a popularity contest. Facebook will never be a true accurate portrayal of who a person really is and too many people first get to "know" a person through a website rather than an in-person meet up.

As of right now, you stand out more without having facebook than with it (In the US that is, can't say the same about other countries).

 

[Bible_Belt]

Mobile phones have changed facebook in the past couple of years as everyone now has a smartphone on which to access facebook. Now people post even more status updates and pictures, because it only takes a few seconds of effort. Conversations tend to spring up in the comments to the pic or status, and then die within an hour or so. The collective attention span gets shorter all the time.

Facebook is great free marketing if you have a small business and tend to sell goods or services to your friends. Fight promoters love it. So do personal trainers, DJs, photographers, local celebrities, bars. Even big corporations are now trying to create a facebook presence. It was over commercialization that killed myspace and fueled the flight to facebook, so we'll see how long facebook lasts. The IPO is going to value it at $100 billion. Most of that value is in the ability to track consumer behavior and target market.

As for women, all you can do is treat it like real life. I saw last night, a ring girl on my friends list, who is obviously hot but also a complete AW and posts non-stop, change her status to "Fvck me right." Here are the responses from guys:

Nah ur too hot for me lol.

I wish

I'm down let's roll! Lol

I'd love to

Like the sound of that

It's exactly the same as if she said it in person at a bar; she got the same responses that she would in person. The dynamic and psychology are still the same. By the way, I'm sure there are a lot of good responses, none of which are on that list, but the one that comes to my mind is something like 'I only fvck to the left, sorry.' The idea is that you don't act like a dog who's about to get a treat.

 

[Ciel]

I'm 20, and I'm a guy, and at the moment I've got 643 on facebook. I can safely say I've met each and every one of them in person at least once, as I don't accept any adds from strangers.

Its not even hard to understand, the world moves faster for us younger people than it did for you guys.