Think she might cancel

[Santos]

Ok so there's this chick that I've messed around with a little, she's very confused and is screwed in the head . Anyway we're "friends" now, which I can deal with. There's a possiblity of us f__ing in the future. We talk easily, have a lot in common, etc.

Anyway, I get this feeling she's going to cancel on me. I've invited her to this 21st on Sat. She cancelled on me once before and tonight she let it slip that she went to some 18th, I think it might have been with her BF (he didn't know about me at the time).

The reason I think she'd cancel is just intuitive. Some things she's said makes me think that there's a possiblity that SOMETHING ELSE might come up and she wants to keep he options open, while PRETENDING that she is "definitely" going with me. Like I'm some sort of backup. That's BS!

So, do I trust my gut and cancel on her before she does it to me? I'm not sure if she ENJOYS turning me down or if it's just that I'm not her no. 1 priority and I'm "backup" if her other plans fall through. It's not like she always cancels on me.

I really don't want to let her cancel on me, it'll make me feel like an @sshole. But should I just let her do it, as a test? If she cancels again (like I think she might) then I call her on her BS and get her out my life. This whole "friends" thing has been on and off and it's getting old. I would like to be friends but it feels like I can't trust her. Like she wants to INTENTIONALLY hurt me.

I want to call her up on Friday and say I'm not feeling well and won't be going. But I think she's going to say on Thursday if she can't make it, so what excuse could I use? I think she knows I suspect I'm a "backup" for Sat, so should I let her sweat it out? I mean she obviously wants to keep me around for some reason.

Santos

 

[Chewy Bagel]

I'd just act as though she was not going to cancel and see what happens. It sounds like a bad place to be for you mentally. This girl really seems like she's got your head all messed up... kind of like a oneitis thing.

Do you know any other girls who you could ask at the last minute? Perhaps you should keep their numbers handy in case you get blown off.

If she does blow you off then that sucks. I wouldn't want to be around a girl like that. In fact, I've never closed a deal with any girl who has truly flaked on me.

Good Luck!

 

[MisterAl]

What are you doing? This chick is, in your own words, confused and screwy, and she's cancelled on you before. She's either a flake or she's messing with you. You're going to sink to her level by pretending to be sick to cancel on her. How is cancelling a date with some freak-girl just to show her up a DJ move?

If she cancels on you again, throw out her number and never think of the b!tch again.

If she doesn't cancel, then have a good time but examine why you were so freaked out about it in the first place.

Don't cancel on her first just because you think she'll cancel. DO cancel on her first if you think she is a freaked-out b!tch that is not worth your time anymore.

 

[unixguy]

Man you dont need this

RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN


if a girll wants to hang with you she will!!

NO IF'S AND OR BUTTS!!

$h*t does come up here and there but when it is all of the time ..well its time to say good bye !


-unixguy

 

[One on One]

Interesting dilemma. I had the same prediction with a girl about two weeks ago, but it never occurred to me that I could cancel pre-emptively. Turns out she did cancel on me, as I expected. IL had already gone down significantly, but if I had cancelled, I may have salvaged something. Seriously consider the pre-emptive cancel if she might cancel on you.

 

[bp1974]

Don't try to second-guess her and forget about this 'cancelling on her before she cancels on you' game.

Why would her cancelling on you 'make' you feel like an a**hole? Her cancelling isn't an act of power, it's just her cancelling. Shrug it off and forget about her.

 

[-dM]

Is it possible you have a one-itis with this chick? Every post you make is about this "friend" of yours. If she really was only a friend then you wouldn't care.
It's either a friend or you want her for more then just the off chance she still wants to **** you.

I would seriously recommend going to that 21st and finding yourself a new girly or even two, three, MORE!!!
Forget about if she is going to cancel or not and stop trying to convince yourself you only want to be friends. Either go for it or move on. I'm sure there will be some hotties at the 21st