Think I'm losing her

[gods gift to women]

Hi guys,

I've been dating this girl for about 6 weeks now. I've played it pretty good for the most part. I think she might be losing interest because I'm playing too hard to get. I only call her once or twice a week and only see her once or twice a week. At what point do you start calling more and hanging out more?

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

keep playing hard to get

 

[Jackman]

Are you moving slow or something with this girl? I'd maybe keep in touch a little better for six weeks, but hanging once or twice a week is perfectly fine, I think. Hell, If I get two dates a week with the same chick I start to worry about oneitus.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

This whole thing about oneitus... does that mean that every married man has oneitus? What the heck is oneitus anyway? Am I not allowed to love one woman? This makes no sense.

 

[Jackman]

This whole thing about oneitus... does that mean that every married man has oneitus? What the heck is oneitus anyway? Am I not allowed to love one woman? This makes no sense.

It's about falling for a woman too soon and for the wrong reasons. Usually desperation and not love. I'm sure you're familiar with it.

 

[Phyzzle]

At what point do you start calling more and hanging out more?

You don't. She has your #, right? When she's REALLY into you, she'll wanna see you more . . . and she'll call to say so

Don't worry about where the relationship is progressing - that's the chick's job! Don't try to be more aggressive.

If she doesn't insist on calling you her boyfriend, keep looking for other chicks.

 

[gods gift to women]

thanks phyzzle,

I think I'll take your advice. Not sure if I want a LTR with this chick yet, I just dont have that many other girls around so I thought it would be a good idea to keep her around until someone better comes along.

 

[Scorched]

6 weeks

Wow, 6 weeks, its report card time right? Sounds like she wants a relationship! Hmmmm Sounds like you got a C - on your report card..

You only have to play hard to get for the first few weeks...
Girls normally will get sick of it after 3 maybe 4 weeks and start to lose interest...

 

[Krassus]

Hi guys,

I've been dating this girl for about 6 weeks now. I've played it pretty good for the most part. I think she might be losing interest because I'm playing too hard to get. I only call her once or twice a week and only see her once or twice a week. At what point do you start calling more and hanging out more?

At um... THIS point.

 

[flexion_]

She should want to see you.

Maybe you can define what you mean by playing too hard to get?

 

[blueguy]

Hi guys,

I've been dating this girl for about 6 weeks now. I've played it pretty good for the most part. I think she might be losing interest because I'm playing too hard to get. I only call her once or twice a week and only see her once or twice a week. At what point do you start calling more and hanging out more?

You didn't indicate why you believe she's losing interest. Why? What is happening?

If she's interested in who you are, she sometimes will indicate that she wants to spend more time with you. You can gauge this by pushing incrementally a little bit more... but only if that's what you want as well. And only in small steps. You do not want to crash and burn. It's always better to leave her wanting a little more than to give her more than she wants. And she should work for your time, with the result of you making yourself more available to her. Call her and tell her something fun you are doing this week. See if she tries to invite herself. If she doesn't, tell her you'll talk to her later. If things do not move ahead, back up a little bit. Keep trying to gauge this yourself. There's really no way to find out how much time she wants to spend with you unless you gauge it. But you should only gauge it if you actually do want to spend more time with her. As always, the main focus should be yourself - fling, ltr, marriage or otherwise. A healthy relationship occurs naturally as both people want relatively the same thing.