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Things on my mind...

MikeYikes122

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Ok, so here is the deal. I guess I was a late bloomer kind of. Actually, no, I wasn't a late bloomer - I'm just young for my grade. I'm just finishing up my sophomore year in college now.

So anyway....

I think girls started to take notice of me around the end of my sophomore year, but it wasn't anything I would ever let myself acknowledge. I didn't really acknowledge myself as "completely good-looking" until probably the end of my senior year when I guess I attained confidence from a first serious relationship. In my high school years it seemed like I could do 2-3 laps around the mall and have at least six or seven girls look at me. The ironic thing is that it was all throughout my junior and senior years guys and girls alike would tell me I looked so young and so scrawny and all that jazz. Yet in the midst of being told this, girls are looking at me, girls are smiling at me, etc. As you can see, this built my character and confidence at the same time.

Well anyway, I'm a big 19 year old now who is totally matured, has side-burns (haha), dresses a whole lot better, is a lot more muscular and taller, and has a lot more confidence and experience. My friend and I even posted our pics on that hotornot.com page, and my score ranged from 9.4-9.6. Basically, the point is, I am a whole lot more attractive now than I was in my budding days, and one thing has been driving me mad....

I'm obviously more attractive. I get better looking girls than I used to, but girls don't look at me that much at all anymore. I don't understand it. Of course, logic would say that better looks equals more looks from girls, but I know better than to look at girls logically. I have looked through previous posts and found almost nothing about this. Does anyone know what's up? It's not killing my confidence or anything, but it's something that is definitely worth addressing.
 

uniassign

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Just because we place a great deal of a girl's "worth" on her appearance does not mean that girls place the same weight on theirs.

A girl includes such things as confidence, humour and social grace in their assessment of a man.

So stop worrying about how good looking you are and work on your social skills so that you can use your good looks to your FULL advantage.
 

MikeYikes122

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I know, and I was waiting for that response. I'm not losing sleep here man. It's just something I wondered about....

You all look for chances to preach. It's all right though...
 

KiInCollege

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You may be overlooking something. When a man is very attractive, a girl can be intimidated by that. Girls around your attractiveness level will probably still look at you, but those less attractive will avoid eye contact.

Your explanation of what's happening with you lately isn't exactly a perfect experiment. Some days at the mall many girls will look, other days none will. So I wouldn't let the issue bother you.
 

PiNkMaGGiT

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Yeah I have pondered over this before as well. I think we're just being egotistical. I mean who cares, honestly. My guess would be the intimidation thing cause I've noticed that no ugs will ever look at my face if I'm lookin at them. I think it's just an insecurity thing, like I know back in the day I woulda been too puzzy to make eye contact with a HB9
 
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