Things have gone terribly wrong..

[MattR1984]

So each November I book a vacation to go somewhere in the Caribbean, I always take a girl who I'm dating. So from November to now I have had 4 different girls I've been seeing and girls come, you lose some you gain some in my past experiences (being 31 now). During getting to know each of them over the months one really stood out over the others. I mentioned I was going on vacation in April to them all to see how they reacted to it and of course they all wanted to go and my response was "We'll see how looks when its getting close" not promising anything but keeping my options open.

So the one I decided to take who I favor the most and enjoy time with over the others I asked her if she wanted to go the beginning of February and she was super excited, got a passport, everything. Constantly talked about how excited she was about going and everything. Its a month away now, and the others had been asking about it and I told them I'm taking a buddy with me, and they all had the same reaction of bitterness except one, she just wanted me to take her shopping for clothes for it and then I asked her about the passport if she has one, incase my "buddy" cant go, and she said she won't get it unless its a guarantee I'm taking her, red flag, I won't take her. The other two got upset about it and we don't talk as much now and I haven't seen them in a few weeks like possibly they are reading through my bull**** and know I'm not taking a guy friend.

Now onto the problem.. The favorite girl out of these who I finally got the plane tickets last week (Expedia no name changes allowed, allegedly) she's acting stupid now. By stupid I mean typical being confused in her head not knowing her feelings and sorta letting her parents run her life like they always have since I've known her. Basically she says something like there is a physical barrier between us and that's the only part of the relationship that doesn't feel right to her and that something is missing and that the past two times we've had sex it felt empty or meaningless and that sex is about love.

This is the same girl who had her parents drive two hours away to meet us for dinner because she wanted to introduce them to me and they said at dinner it must be pretty serious because shes 26 and they have only met two other guys period. They told her that I was probably the best guy they've ever met and they loved me, BUT told her last weekend when she was talking to her mother about how she was feeling about myself and her like something was missing her mom said something to her that they felt that we were not right for each other. So now she's got even more **** in her head because she listens to her parents way to much, and they are always in her business, make her call them once a night and just things you shouldn't do to a 26 year old, probably because shes the only girl and the youngest. I have no idea.

So it's looking like I'm going to waste the money on the plane ticket for her, have to find someone else to go on this trip with (I have one month to do this, that's bad enough) there is another girl I know I can bring but after having sex with her I want her out of my house. I just don't like her, period. She's hot but you know when you want someone gone after sex you damn sure can't be around them for 7 days straight. And back to the girl who I was going to bring with me, we've talked about her problem and you can't bring logic into a woman's head or I don't know how the hell to do it. We hung out Wednesday, Thursday and Friday and she's got this "Barrier" or whatever but is constantly laying on me, holding my hand, kissing on me, making out, rubbing my neck arms whatever, or I'm grabbing her ass while making out etc.

I told myself after Friday that I was going to just leave it alone and give her a few days to think on it while I focus on finding someone new to try and take, so I haven't text her since then and she hasn't text me either. Last thing she said when I left her place was she has to figure out her feelings and in the next week or two if she still feels that way it probably wont change. She constantly says how I'm perfect and everything she wants in so many ways but something is missing, and the past two guys she dated things went so wrong so I think shes just really thinking something is going to happen here and it hasn't and that's mind ****ing her even more. Like one guy was 10 years older then he said and the other guy was married and had an apartment on the side and two kids. So she's had bad past experiences.

Anyways, vacation probably is ****ed. I guess I could always take some gold digging b!tch, or dirty stripper....

 

[BrainDamage92]

Dude you're creating problems from nothing.

Youre telling 4 girls they are special at the same tome with that invitation then meet the parents of one of them which you like "most"... hmm...

Better go with a bud and **** carribean chicks why would you do that testing girls by inviting them on a vacation I mean maybe Im poor and jelaous but still, wtf are you doing man, isnt that abit low?

Arent you supposed to make up your mind and know what you want from life? You americans are funny people.

First, dont date girls with a string of toxic relationships. She may look nice, then Dr Jekyl turns into Mrs Hyde and impregnates herself without asking and takes all your money and turns your kid into a retard. Happy end.

Dont be a cold hearted person you look at human interaction like bussiness allow yourself some humanity and you will see how easier it gets.

 

[sylvester the cat]

go with a bud and **** carribean chicks .

^this.

 

[pyros]

I dont know for how long you've been hanging out with this chick but the fact that you hung out with her wednesday, thursday, and friday...that's too much for a girl that is not your girlfriend.

Besides, the fact that you're seing other girls may be signaling something to her, she feels it and doesn't trust you.

Anyway, it is clear that she is not that much into you, either because she feels she cant trust you, or because she doesnt like you that much eventhough she tells you you're 'perfect' lol.

Go with a damn friend of yours to that trip. Jeez...

 

[MattR1984]

I dont know for how long you've been hanging out with this chick but the fact that you hung out with her wednesday, thursday, and friday...that's too much for a girl that is not your girlfriend.

Besides, the fact that you're seing other girls may be signaling something to her, she feels it and doesn't trust you.

Anyway, it is clear that she is not that much into you, either because she feels she cant trust you, or because she doesnt like you that much eventhough she tells you you're 'perfect' lol.

Go with a damn friend of yours to that trip. Jeez...

She doesn't know I'm seeing anyone else, I've been seeing her for about 3-4 months and around 2 months she wanted something more then casual like a relationship and I did agree to that with her. That's when she wanted me to meet her folks and stuff.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Not to sounds like a d!ck but it sounds like you have no one to blame but yourself here. A 7 day trip with a girl who isn't your girlfriend? That's serious relationship type of activity, not "just dating" behavior.

Think about it, that's like a 7 day date. You're bound to get sick of each other at some point during the trip, and when you do, what do you do? You'd have nowhere to go because you're staying in the same hotel room and it's not like you'd have other friends there to hang out with.

Just tell her you're taking a friend and go have fun. If she gets mad, sad, or whatever, that'd be easier to salvage than if she were to go and you two have a not so great time and get sick of each other.

 

[Desdinova]

she was talking to her mother about how she was feeling about myself and her like something was missing her mom said something to her that they felt that we were not right for each other.

It's unfortunate when you find yourself in an uphill battle against the parents. I've been there many times and have always lost. Your relationship with this chick will eventually end.

She constantly says how I'm perfect and everything she wants in so many ways but something is missing

That's also a problem. Any of the women who've lingered have never called me "perfect". In the words of Pook, "Perfect is boring". Even being a perfect Don Juan is boring. You have to throw in some of your human side to level things out.

A woman needs you to have flaws to fix. They always need to be fixing some kind of flaws in your personality. The thing that's missing from your relationship with her is emotional fluctuation. You're too boring. Fvck with her emotions a bit and that will go away.

Like one guy was 10 years older then he said and the other guy was married and had an apartment on the side and two kids. So she's had bad past experiences.

Those two situations give her emotional fluctuation. The fact that she's mentioned these guys to you shows that her memory of them is more prominent than anything you've done with her. You need to rock her emotions if you want to be significant.

Anyways, vacation probably is ****ed

This is what happens when you rely on women to bring you happiness. If things go wrong, you get disappointed. You should be traveling by yourself because YOU want to visit these places. Make the woman earn the privelage of coming on a trip with you.

 

[dasein]

You aren't spinning plates but keeping quasi-girlfriends, big difference, and dangling trips like carrots in front of their noses. In your shoes, would stop both of these and stop getting so close to plates. Talking about clothes for a trip with a plate? No. Also talking relationship talk with them is a nonstarter. You are seeing how this can bite you with the parents in that situation. Would take a buddy or go alone on trips like this, easy, no hassle, keeps options open, carefree and fun. Cut the drama of trying to please quasi GFs. Good luck and have fun on the trip.

 

[MattR1984]

The girl who mentioned clothes and stuff, that's a no go. There was no way I would of bought her anything like that, shes not a girlfriend and knows it. So this girl Friday when we hungout she did mention doing a date night Tuesday but I'm almost thinking it would be a waste of time and I should just chalk this one up as done and start looking for new girls.