Things are looking up

[booga]

Well, things are looking up, thanks largely to the advice I got on this board. This week, I have:
-- 3 dates w/women from personals (one down, 2 to go)

-- One more with a hot older woman (warm PU from a local cafe) that I'm currently setting up (haggling over scheduling)

-- Closed e-mail addr. of a HOT little babe from the neighborhood (another warm PU). Have been warned that she has a BF, but it's not my job to worry about every c0ck in the henhouse

This sure takes the sting out of getting blown out last Saturday. So far there's a lot of action w/o a lot of motion, but it's a confidence boost nonetheless because I have never been able to do this kind of volume ever. Hopefully I will end up with 1 or 2 steadies to get through the cold winter

Here's an odd but true fact: craigslist personals are a lot more effective for me than more technologically advanced sites like match or eharmony. I can go into more detail about this if anyone cares.

Thanks guys.

 

[Damian]

Awesome. Good to see some accomplishments around here. Keep us updated on what happens, eh?

-Damian

 

[booga]

Thanks guys! First datelet last night with a 23-yo HB6. (That's what I'm calling these meetings: they're not really full-fledged dates). Not quite as slim as I prefer but pretty face & generally pleasing to look at. Seems like a sweet kid, easy to talk to, no awkwardness, though not very interesting. Not a very sexual vibe either, but we were 2 total strangers after all. Got her # & discussed going for a motorcycle ride this weekend if the weather holds out. Tried to rectify a mistake I made with the last girl by being genuinely interested in finding out who she is. I'll call her in a few days. She's not my dream girl, but she's a good girl.

Got another one tonight with a teacher who seems a lot more interesting but is closer to my age & more likely to have some baggage. We'll see how it goes.

Random observation: women who try to do excessive prequalification, or who hem & haw about actually meeting, are not worth it. Stick to the ones who will just meet you at a cafe w/o giving you a headache.

 

[booga]

Oh yeah--I also wanted to say that the ads being posted by my fellow man are really unbelievably bad. Here are some choice titles:

Looking to meet people who like to smoke!
So, who wants me?
Un****ing believable
Are you a Redhead?
Looking For That Special Someone
Any Fun In Cary Tonight?
girlfriend is overseas for a while...
Man seeking some companionship tonight
feeling trapped
Looking for a Friend
I have never had a long term girlfriend

And these guys wonder why they don't get any replies!

 

[booga]

Update: just got back from 2nd datelet and this one is a no-go. There's just no chemistry, you could feel it right away. She is very conservative/stodgy w/o much sense of humor, & I am a freak w/my freak flag flying high. To me, it felt like I was out w/my mom. I can only imagine what it felt like to her. (She probably thought I escaped from some institution ) All this sounds more horrible than I really mean it to--I think she's a fine woman, but she and I don't click. Toward the end, she released me from my agony by saying so--I was fumbling for the right way to say it--but she said it in a very classy & ladylike way. See? They're not all bad!

 

[booga]

OK, this thread is turning into my own mini-journal. Hope it helps somebody. (Maybe it will be fun to read years from now).

I e-mailed the woman from last night just to say thx 4 coming out & don't get discouraged: no chemistry is the norm due to the random nature of on-line hookups. No fault of either party involved. I figured no harm in showing a little class. She replied with a little note of her own & was sweet.

Tonight I meet a girl who started testing me relentlessly right out of the box. Here are some examples:

Her: I really need you to be smart.
Me: I have an MS in math, whereas you are a poli sci major. The real question is, can YOU keep up with ME?

Her: Make me laugh & we'll go from there.
Me: What's in it for me? If I make you laugh, will you make me a tasty grilled cheese sandwich? I need some quid pro quo.
Her: {tells funny story about the trials & tribulations of learning to make grilled cheese}

Her: Are you cute?
Me: Hell no. Cute is for poodles. I look like a Shaolin monk.
Her: A what kind of monk?
Me: Actually, I look more like an enforcer for the Hell's Angels. But don't worry, my bark is worse than my bite
Her: OK, which Hell's Angel should I be looking for?
Me: The one who looks like a fire hydrant made of muscle. {Brief physical description follows}

OK, this girl is feisty as hell--she's either gonna be a lot of fun or a complete disaster, not much in between.

Meanwhile, my ad snagged 2 more leads. The 50-YO hottie hasn't gotten back to me yet (she runs her own business, she's very busy). She said yes to going out but wanted to go out tonight, which I obviously can't do.

This Sunday, will try to take the first girl for a motorcycle ride around the lake--this may be the last weekend this year warm enough to do so.

I haven't heard from the little blonde hottie that I email-closed at the cafe, & I have a gut feeling I'm not going to.

The beat goes on...Wish me luck.

 

[Centaurion]

Good work man, but a 50 year old hottie is a oxymoron.

 

[booga]

Ha! Ordinarily, yes. But that's the amazing thing about this town--even the old ladies are hot! (I think having all those college cuties walking around raises the bar for everybody). OK, I also admit I have a bit of an older woman fetish, but I think even you guys who automatically reject anything over 35 would say she was pretty, despite being too old for you.

Anyway, onward. Date last night: she was plain, round, & masculine in a way that's hard to describe. We connected intellectually (she's very smart) but no sexual energy at all. I LJBFed her in the gentlest way I could word it. I could perhaps expand my social circle.

It's getting pretty clear that HB6 is about the best case scenario for personal ads. HB7 and up simply don't need them. The 23-YO from Tuesday was definitely the best of the lot.

After the datelet & went to a local bar to relax but the sarge receptors in my brain were to fried to do any approaches. I just wanted to drink a gin & tonic & go to bed.

The replies have stopped trickling in from this ad. There are 2 more women I haven't met yet, but it's really time to get back to live sarging. Tonight I am going contra dancing. I have no idea what the hell that is, but there's a free lesson first, & it should be a target-rich environment. I'll also call the 23-YO later to take her riding Sunday.