They always come back no matter what you did to them..

[JohnChops]

So im writing this and laughing at the same time. You fellas may remember my oneitis, sh1t i talk so much about her im surprised I havent written a book! But anyway you may recall a thread where I fvcked her best friend and then TOLD HER, I was a little tipsy when I told her, but hey she wanted the truth lol.

She was crying, sent me paragraphs about how "Oh I wanted to try with you this time if that whole crap with my friend wasn't true etc etc". Then she said, "You dug your own grave now lay in it, im never talking to you again." Last thing she said to me 3 months ago.

Like clock work, I havent spoken to her since. So last night I get a text "Hey are you still planning on going to med school?". She was texting me to ask me if I did some pre req for a certain school. Anyway she pretty much texted me and kept talking to me like nothing ever happened. She texted me something about how I was an assh0le or something along those lines but its whatever.

So I ignored her after that, once we got off the topic of school that is. And don't plan on texting her anymore.

But I think its funny how no matter how much they say "ill never talk to you again" or if you do something as horrible (in their eyes) as I did they will STILL come back no matter what. Fvck her best friend, fvck her mom, call her fat, call her anorexic, no matter what you say or do they will ALWAYS come back.

I remember bradd starting a thread like this a couple months ago and I didn't believe him , but hey Bradd I believe you now buddy ! lol

 

[Who Dares Win]

They all dont ALWAYS come back, but the game players always do.

Spot on.

Most of those girls who come back just want to win a power struggle, outgame you and disappear with their ego full right after.

The same moment you propose to meet or give a hint, you're dumped.

 

[JohnChops]

Spot on.

Most of those girls who come back just want to win a power struggle, outgame you and disappear with their ego full right after.

The same moment you propose to meet or give a hint, you're dumped.

Interesting. Ill keep that in mind. See the only problem I see here is the negative attitude you both have. Is it the truth? Well I dont know because this hasn't happened to me before so i suppose ill have to trust both your knowledge that is from actual experience and not speculation.

 

[Purefilth]

They all dont ALWAYS come back, but the game players always do.

this.

Ive broken a few hearts and i dont expect to hear from them again but theres AW and gamers tghat text me every other week :crackup:

 

[Who Dares Win]

Interesting. Ill keep that in mind. See the only problem I see here is the negative attitude you both have. Is it the truth? Well I dont know because this hasn't happened to me before so i suppose ill have to trust both your knowledge that is from actual experience and not speculation.

The problem regarding that negative attitude you may feel is the result from a vicious cycle, girls are indoctrinated from media and magazines about being "smart and strong" and part of this is to take some kind of revenge against men, which becomes a terrible combo when combined with the natural desire of women to have attention, pump their ego and most of all have the last word.

Following this come our countermisures which save your ass 90% of the times however prevents you to build something potentially for a remaining 10%, now there is no sure answer, experience and reasoning can give you the tools but the final decision is still up on you.

To this the previous cycle is reinforced and restarted.

I'm sure in thise forum there are plenty of users who can share stories about girls who go back in their lifes either looking for revenge or an ego boost which fake interest or even lead them on, only for the pleasure of rejecting any suggestion to meet and disappear right after.

 

[JohnChops]

The problem regarding that negative attitude you may feel is the result from a vicious cycle, girls are indoctrinated from media and magazines about being "smart and strong" and part of this is to take some kind of revenge against men, which becomes a terrible combo when combined with the natural desire of women to have attention, pump their ego and most of all have the last word.

Following this come our countermisures which save your ass 90% of the times however prevents you to build something potentially for a remaining 10%, now there is no sure answer, experience and reasoning can give you the tools but the final decision is still up on you.

To this the previous cycle is reinforced and restarted.

I'm sure in thise forum there are plenty of users who can share stories about girls who go back in their lifes either looking for revenge or an ego boost which fake interest or even lead them on, only for the pleasure of rejecting any suggestion to meet and disappear right after.

Right, nothing in life goes by the text book, but sometimes it does. So really ill just have to make that decision of letting her back in my life or not. She never seemed like an AW or a gamer for that matter. Just another girl that was in my line up that went the wrong way. The girls you describe in bold are the type that I know i will meet but really never want to meet.

that first paragraph gave me goose bumps.

 

[JohnChops]

ah yes you're referring to this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=202499

Yes John, they really do always come back. The fvcked up ones. That's why you have to be prepared for when they return, because they're not dropping by to say hello and see how you're doing and show you that they've changed are now ready to be that perfect girl you always wanted them to be. They're contacting you again to make you suffer for something you did to them in the past, whether it was perceived or real. The point of my thread was to show you guys that this is their M.O., this is how they operate. And be ready for it. Don't give in to temptation - if there is any - and pick up the phone or return the text. I guarantee you, it is only an attempt on their part to attend to unfinished business and make you suffer some more.

I didn't respond to my ex because I knew from experience what was waiting for me. While we had dated, she once looked through my phone and found messages from girls I had fvcked while with her thanking me after spending a night together. So I knew she wasn't calling to make sure I was doing well. And although you did respond to yours, you did well to play it cool. Now you know you've won, because the only reason she contacted you was because she felt like she lost the first time around, it has been bothering her a lot and simmering somewhere in that little brain of hers, and she needed to get you back somehow.

But you played it like you didn't care. Well done.

Yes that thread bradd perfect! Well since you, pair royal, filth and who dares pretty much say the same thing ill listen and be prepared. Thanks fellas, appreciate the help.

 

[expos]

Question: If a BPD knows that you are dating someone else...do they get angry and jealous and come running back? How long does this take?

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Post Rejection Attention Wh0ring.

Women will come back if you walk away like an alpha and act unphased by her rejection, but don't kid yourselves. It's just a frame grab. If you ask her out again you lose, if you agree to meet up with her you lose, if you call her back you lose.

 

[myopoh]

Quality women, will not look back. You should be able to figure out the rest from that statement.,

 

[JohnChops]

Appreciate all the insight fellas.

I am definitely staying on the course of NC, forever, no point in letting those negative thoughts back in my mind you know.

 

[r0cky]

You can't take seriously anything a person says in the heat of the moment. Its common sense. I'm sure you've threatened people in some way just to forget about it after a few days or weeks. Its the same thing. This is common human behavior. Hang out around humans more often and you'll see it's not just girls. No need to analyze further, and using it to boost your ego will only backfire on you, eventually.