OnTheWayUp
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... having a naked girl in your bed and not being able to finish the job. This has happened to me far too much in the last few months. I'm going to give a few examples and you guys can see if you can relate/ give me some advice.
Context: I've had sex with one girl before about 6 months ago, which was fun, but I had a bad experience with a condom and keeping it up. She came back 3 times for more, so I must have been doing something right. Every time, I found it progressively easier to relax, but I still found it difficult to stay hard and then sleep next to her afterwards.
Girl 1) Met at a party through a mutual female friend who thinks highly of me. Danced, textbook escalation to makeout, then bounced to a kebab shop before moving her to my place. No resistance from her whatsoever. Got her naked within 40 minutes or so, but made the mistake of showing her other girls on FB beforehand and insodoing activated her ASD. Still managed to finger her and get a handjob before she "had to go."
Girl 2) Met through a mutual hobby. Several years younger than me and 6 months younger than the legal age of consent here. Masterful social proof at a party high-fiving lots of our friends and leading girls by the hand to the dancefloor, made out on couch before taking her back to my place. Escalation to nudity was no problem, but after that I had a kind of psychological barrier. I felt guilty doing an underage girl, even though she was obviously experienced by the way she was kissing me. She mentioned the fact that sex between us would be illegal in her ASD, and even though I knew rationally that what she was saying was just ASD, I could not bring myself to pull the trigger. Went as far as oral, but could not finish the job. Again the girl in question came back 2 times for more, I had the same experience every time.
Girl 3) I've known for about a year, we've made out about 10 times and she's been in my room naked about 5 times. She plays the "moral girl," but she (justly) has a reputation amongst our friends for being a slut. Again, we've gone as far as oral, but no further. Every time I see her, I want to fvck her, but can't bring myself to get out of bed and get a condom. My bad experience with condoms with my first time definitely has something to do with this. It doesn't help either that she plays the moral card every time I see her, meaning that I have to do pretty much all the escalation. Sometimes I feel she just wants me to hold her down and rape her. I have a reputation for being a player amongst my social circle (lol), and she actually asked me a few weeks back "So, am I the only girl you've seen naked but haven't fvcked?" It makes me cringe just thinking about it.
Girl 4) I've known for about 9 months, we've made out about 5 times and all but one of those times has ended with the two of us ending up at one of our flats and getting naked. Again, we've got as far as fingering/ handjobs, but she says she doesn't want to go any further, as she has a bf. Rationally, I know this is absolute bullsh!t: she has pursued me for ages, often initiates our meet-ups, asks me what parties I'm going to etc. This is a classic case of judge a woman by her actions and not by her words. But I cannot bring myself to pull the trigger without getting her verbal permission. I feel guilty that she has a bf (stupid, I know), and I feel guilty that I'm moving away in a month and it would be mean to get her attached to me and then break it off (again, pathetic rationalisations, I know). It's like I have a fear of physical intimacy... strange.
Anyone else experienced this as well? How do I get past this hurdle?
OnTheWayUp
Context: I've had sex with one girl before about 6 months ago, which was fun, but I had a bad experience with a condom and keeping it up. She came back 3 times for more, so I must have been doing something right. Every time, I found it progressively easier to relax, but I still found it difficult to stay hard and then sleep next to her afterwards.
Girl 1) Met at a party through a mutual female friend who thinks highly of me. Danced, textbook escalation to makeout, then bounced to a kebab shop before moving her to my place. No resistance from her whatsoever. Got her naked within 40 minutes or so, but made the mistake of showing her other girls on FB beforehand and insodoing activated her ASD. Still managed to finger her and get a handjob before she "had to go."
Girl 2) Met through a mutual hobby. Several years younger than me and 6 months younger than the legal age of consent here. Masterful social proof at a party high-fiving lots of our friends and leading girls by the hand to the dancefloor, made out on couch before taking her back to my place. Escalation to nudity was no problem, but after that I had a kind of psychological barrier. I felt guilty doing an underage girl, even though she was obviously experienced by the way she was kissing me. She mentioned the fact that sex between us would be illegal in her ASD, and even though I knew rationally that what she was saying was just ASD, I could not bring myself to pull the trigger. Went as far as oral, but could not finish the job. Again the girl in question came back 2 times for more, I had the same experience every time.
Girl 3) I've known for about a year, we've made out about 10 times and she's been in my room naked about 5 times. She plays the "moral girl," but she (justly) has a reputation amongst our friends for being a slut. Again, we've gone as far as oral, but no further. Every time I see her, I want to fvck her, but can't bring myself to get out of bed and get a condom. My bad experience with condoms with my first time definitely has something to do with this. It doesn't help either that she plays the moral card every time I see her, meaning that I have to do pretty much all the escalation. Sometimes I feel she just wants me to hold her down and rape her. I have a reputation for being a player amongst my social circle (lol), and she actually asked me a few weeks back "So, am I the only girl you've seen naked but haven't fvcked?" It makes me cringe just thinking about it.
Girl 4) I've known for about 9 months, we've made out about 5 times and all but one of those times has ended with the two of us ending up at one of our flats and getting naked. Again, we've got as far as fingering/ handjobs, but she says she doesn't want to go any further, as she has a bf. Rationally, I know this is absolute bullsh!t: she has pursued me for ages, often initiates our meet-ups, asks me what parties I'm going to etc. This is a classic case of judge a woman by her actions and not by her words. But I cannot bring myself to pull the trigger without getting her verbal permission. I feel guilty that she has a bf (stupid, I know), and I feel guilty that I'm moving away in a month and it would be mean to get her attached to me and then break it off (again, pathetic rationalisations, I know). It's like I have a fear of physical intimacy... strange.
Anyone else experienced this as well? How do I get past this hurdle?
OnTheWayUp
