If you do a "search" on Don Juan Boards, you'll find a wealth of advice. A true wealth. From awesome books suggested, linked PDF's, e-books, even guys offering free cuts of expensive programs. Reviews are done of books and dating programs; guys from all walks of life saunter through the boards.
But still, many have ridiculous questions, or questions answerable BY reading deeper. I've said before, that all people are on their own evolutionary path, and it's wise not to criticize or judge or get mad at them for it. Just let them be.
But as a universal answer to the myriad of questions, which likely already have an answer to them, what do you want to hear?
You want the Truth?
The Truth is, you don't want it bad enough. You're lazy. You have the ability; you made it here. I wish a place like this existed when I was younger, 10 or 15+ but it didn't. It's here now. VERY, VERY lucky for those younger guys who can get ahead in H.S and college. VERY.
You want to hear it's some psychological disorder? It probably isn't, unless your own meds, and even then, I'm not big into meds. I feel they do more harm than good. Even the pill, which prevents pregnancy, does more damage to a woman than good. It encourages her to be more promiscuous. It causes her to gain unnecessary weight. She's more emotional; hyper-emotional. She can cause long-term damage and prevent her own ability to get pregnant, and sometimes with anti-biotics, it doesn't even work. I've had girls go off it after 4 years and drop 5-10 pounds in 1 week, become less depressed, less sensitive, more sexual. Only downside, double wrap it. But all the perks are worth it.
Besides, if a person is coddled, THEY ARE ENABLED. And the number thing to garner from here is SELF-SUFFICIENCY. That leads to confidence. And that leads to the feeling you all desire. But nobody here can INSTALL it. All I can say is how I did it, and that you must do it, too. Once you do that, PUA/DJ tricks aren't needed, because it's EASY.
I've walked through the mall with some friends doing shopping, and just talked to all the people with no "sets" in mind; just talked. Had fun. Flirted. Acted goofish like boys, hanging over railings looking down shirts, or joking with the female clerks. Some girls literally THREW themselves at us.
That aside...
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This site, and even your own ability is an UNENDING, UNLIMITED, CONSTANTLY replenishing RESOURCE. USE IT. I'm not going to say "Aww poor guy, you've had it rought." So what? So have we all. Pony up. Use THAT disadvantage as an ADVANTAGE. You been through alot? Good, that should make you EMOTIONALLY tougher than most other guys. Leverage that.
Maybe you're a guy from a big city, from a poorer family, and you have to do everything on your own, and you date a girl who comes from money, who has had stuff done for her. Be true to you. Be proud. Know you got that far on your own, or you won't get far. A woman, any person for that matter, WILL ADMIRE you. Respect you. So will a woman. Let her judge you as scrap, fine. But women from good backgrounds like guys from rougher one's THAT are SELF-sufficient.
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You want a starting point?
Suck it up.
Ditch the pity.
And start new.
Leave the past behind.
Forget your disadvantages.
They'll only confuse you or fvck you up.
You have to, if you want to become someone new and somewhere new. We can't build a NEW house with the pieces of a WRECKED old one. We must ship in new pieces. And we can't decipher why your house of all houses got wrecked, and your neighbors didn't. I know the mind, the ego, you, don't want that. We want answers.
Why did God do this?
Why did my parents do this?
Why did society do this?
Why did my teachers, or coaches, or siblings do this?
Why did my parents do this?
SCREW them. No answers! Grab your boot straps and buckle up, cowboy!
You know when you're ok...when you can answer a tough request or question, stick by your guns, as hard as it is, and be happy with the outcome even if it hurts right now.
That way, the upside is unlimited, and the downside limited. You made a choice stick to it.
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I'm sure every guy's situation is unique and important to them, but to the world it isn't, and the world is what's causing your problems. Maybe it's friend's not repaying money, or being really shabby and unfaithful. Or maybe it's the family you're from. Or maybe it's the job you do, and you hate it, and your boss. Or maybe women never seemed responsive this week @ the mall.
You want me to tell you it will be ok?
Sure
IT'S OK!
It really is. This is life. It isn't a linear line of perfection, where one PERFECT decision will open the world of right things to you. ONLY your mind can do that. Really, it's your OFFENSE and DEFENSE against the world, yet most guys seemed to indictate that they are NOT OK. It's sad, and that's why I'm here.
To say it's ok like this, so let's do something about it.
But you can't keep this up. You can't keep seeking answers on SoSuave, because you won't find them anywhere. Only within you. This discomfort and questions WILL always exist. Center your mind. Center your energy. It's that search for CENTER, for temperence, for something SOLID, that makes you FLY EVERYWHERE.
Why do you think women are bonkers? Most girls HATE change. They seek solidarity in OUTSIDE things. BUT, you guys can seek solidarity in you. Rely on you. Control your mind. That's why women seek out men, their solidness during times of difficulty. Duh, why do you think they blabber on about their problems NOT wanting solutions. To them, a solution, if you suggest one, almost points out that they are not smart enough to fix it. Or that they are not equipped to do it. Whether they are or not, doesn't matter, it's a good way to turn them off. But if you get it, you won't freak out when EVERY chick does that. Because the minute you do, you pretty much lose her, or turn her the HECK off.
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The world isn't about FAIR, it's about JUST. Justice is exacted, in this lifetime or the next. Fairness is NOT. Fairness is not GRANTED. The world doesn't give equality out. It gives strengths to ALL races. And weaknesses. Then it forces you to be strong and bold enough to use them.
If you stop feeling bad for yourself, you'll already gain energy. Heck it ain't easy out there, but you become stronger and accept it and say to life:
"Screw you, come harder at me. Throw more at me. I can take it. What else you got? Test me. Push me. Force me. I'll just shove back HARDER."
It's not always nice to go lifting in the winter weather up here in NE, but you do it because you have to. I hate doing that. Right now I have a foot of snow outside, loads of ice, it's cold as fvck, nowhere to park, I have to shovel a spot out every storm @ my place, and yet, I go. I don't want kudos or respect, I just do it because life won't STOP SNOW up here, it won't be 70 everyday. BUT, when the sun shines, I WANT TO BE IN SHAPE for it.
Same applies here. You guys want to be ready when that woman you desire walks in front of you, or the "right" girl is there? It starts now. Yeah, you fail. You get blown up by bytchy chicks. You get flaked on. She fronts. You get an awful gf for awhile. You act AFC, just see how WHIMPY doesn't work. So what? Now you know what DOES NOT work. That nice isn't the way to go, no matter what ANYBODY says. Be nice AND be a d!ck. I admit that to a chick straight up. You have to be nice AND an asz in business. Because people would pillage and take advantage of you if were. Same with women.
But you prepare, while it's winter, and while things are low and slow and cold and awful. You prepare. There's nowhere else to start. So you're a newbie? Big deal. WE all were at 1 point. So you've AFCed? Big Deal. STOP. Don't say "Well I can't." That's why you can't, you've programmed yourself to believe otherwise. So sad.
Really, the HARDER you make this, the HARDER it is. If you just see it as behavior, and a lack of knowledge and awareness, THEN you can say OH! I can change and realize my INTERNAL feelings WERE RIGHT! DUH.
How many guys came here and said
"Wait, there's another reality to dealing with women, and life?" AWESOME!
Probably every guy.
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So what am I saying? For those guys SEEKING change and ANSWERs...it's all right here. And quite honestly, MOST guys don't, because they really DO NOT WANT TO. You do not care enough to do so. I've known some handicapped people, in physical or mental ways, who did MORE than with their abilities than normally healthy people. If they can, can't you? What excuse can you have over them?
Over being born in a FREE country. With some means or money. With some ability to travel. We don't appreciate enough of where we came from to now, to realize that we have ALOT, even based on where we are at NOW.
A-Unit
But still, many have ridiculous questions, or questions answerable BY reading deeper. I've said before, that all people are on their own evolutionary path, and it's wise not to criticize or judge or get mad at them for it. Just let them be.
But as a universal answer to the myriad of questions, which likely already have an answer to them, what do you want to hear?
You want the Truth?
The Truth is, you don't want it bad enough. You're lazy. You have the ability; you made it here. I wish a place like this existed when I was younger, 10 or 15+ but it didn't. It's here now. VERY, VERY lucky for those younger guys who can get ahead in H.S and college. VERY.
You want to hear it's some psychological disorder? It probably isn't, unless your own meds, and even then, I'm not big into meds. I feel they do more harm than good. Even the pill, which prevents pregnancy, does more damage to a woman than good. It encourages her to be more promiscuous. It causes her to gain unnecessary weight. She's more emotional; hyper-emotional. She can cause long-term damage and prevent her own ability to get pregnant, and sometimes with anti-biotics, it doesn't even work. I've had girls go off it after 4 years and drop 5-10 pounds in 1 week, become less depressed, less sensitive, more sexual. Only downside, double wrap it. But all the perks are worth it.
Besides, if a person is coddled, THEY ARE ENABLED. And the number thing to garner from here is SELF-SUFFICIENCY. That leads to confidence. And that leads to the feeling you all desire. But nobody here can INSTALL it. All I can say is how I did it, and that you must do it, too. Once you do that, PUA/DJ tricks aren't needed, because it's EASY.
I've walked through the mall with some friends doing shopping, and just talked to all the people with no "sets" in mind; just talked. Had fun. Flirted. Acted goofish like boys, hanging over railings looking down shirts, or joking with the female clerks. Some girls literally THREW themselves at us.
That aside...
-------------------------
This site, and even your own ability is an UNENDING, UNLIMITED, CONSTANTLY replenishing RESOURCE. USE IT. I'm not going to say "Aww poor guy, you've had it rought." So what? So have we all. Pony up. Use THAT disadvantage as an ADVANTAGE. You been through alot? Good, that should make you EMOTIONALLY tougher than most other guys. Leverage that.
Maybe you're a guy from a big city, from a poorer family, and you have to do everything on your own, and you date a girl who comes from money, who has had stuff done for her. Be true to you. Be proud. Know you got that far on your own, or you won't get far. A woman, any person for that matter, WILL ADMIRE you. Respect you. So will a woman. Let her judge you as scrap, fine. But women from good backgrounds like guys from rougher one's THAT are SELF-sufficient.
-------------------------
You want a starting point?
Suck it up.
Ditch the pity.
And start new.
Leave the past behind.
Forget your disadvantages.
They'll only confuse you or fvck you up.
You have to, if you want to become someone new and somewhere new. We can't build a NEW house with the pieces of a WRECKED old one. We must ship in new pieces. And we can't decipher why your house of all houses got wrecked, and your neighbors didn't. I know the mind, the ego, you, don't want that. We want answers.
Why did God do this?
Why did my parents do this?
Why did society do this?
Why did my teachers, or coaches, or siblings do this?
Why did my parents do this?
SCREW them. No answers! Grab your boot straps and buckle up, cowboy!
You know when you're ok...when you can answer a tough request or question, stick by your guns, as hard as it is, and be happy with the outcome even if it hurts right now.
That way, the upside is unlimited, and the downside limited. You made a choice stick to it.
---------------------------
I'm sure every guy's situation is unique and important to them, but to the world it isn't, and the world is what's causing your problems. Maybe it's friend's not repaying money, or being really shabby and unfaithful. Or maybe it's the family you're from. Or maybe it's the job you do, and you hate it, and your boss. Or maybe women never seemed responsive this week @ the mall.
You want me to tell you it will be ok?
Sure
IT'S OK!
It really is. This is life. It isn't a linear line of perfection, where one PERFECT decision will open the world of right things to you. ONLY your mind can do that. Really, it's your OFFENSE and DEFENSE against the world, yet most guys seemed to indictate that they are NOT OK. It's sad, and that's why I'm here.
To say it's ok like this, so let's do something about it.
But you can't keep this up. You can't keep seeking answers on SoSuave, because you won't find them anywhere. Only within you. This discomfort and questions WILL always exist. Center your mind. Center your energy. It's that search for CENTER, for temperence, for something SOLID, that makes you FLY EVERYWHERE.
Why do you think women are bonkers? Most girls HATE change. They seek solidarity in OUTSIDE things. BUT, you guys can seek solidarity in you. Rely on you. Control your mind. That's why women seek out men, their solidness during times of difficulty. Duh, why do you think they blabber on about their problems NOT wanting solutions. To them, a solution, if you suggest one, almost points out that they are not smart enough to fix it. Or that they are not equipped to do it. Whether they are or not, doesn't matter, it's a good way to turn them off. But if you get it, you won't freak out when EVERY chick does that. Because the minute you do, you pretty much lose her, or turn her the HECK off.
------------------------
The world isn't about FAIR, it's about JUST. Justice is exacted, in this lifetime or the next. Fairness is NOT. Fairness is not GRANTED. The world doesn't give equality out. It gives strengths to ALL races. And weaknesses. Then it forces you to be strong and bold enough to use them.
If you stop feeling bad for yourself, you'll already gain energy. Heck it ain't easy out there, but you become stronger and accept it and say to life:
"Screw you, come harder at me. Throw more at me. I can take it. What else you got? Test me. Push me. Force me. I'll just shove back HARDER."
It's not always nice to go lifting in the winter weather up here in NE, but you do it because you have to. I hate doing that. Right now I have a foot of snow outside, loads of ice, it's cold as fvck, nowhere to park, I have to shovel a spot out every storm @ my place, and yet, I go. I don't want kudos or respect, I just do it because life won't STOP SNOW up here, it won't be 70 everyday. BUT, when the sun shines, I WANT TO BE IN SHAPE for it.
Same applies here. You guys want to be ready when that woman you desire walks in front of you, or the "right" girl is there? It starts now. Yeah, you fail. You get blown up by bytchy chicks. You get flaked on. She fronts. You get an awful gf for awhile. You act AFC, just see how WHIMPY doesn't work. So what? Now you know what DOES NOT work. That nice isn't the way to go, no matter what ANYBODY says. Be nice AND be a d!ck. I admit that to a chick straight up. You have to be nice AND an asz in business. Because people would pillage and take advantage of you if were. Same with women.
But you prepare, while it's winter, and while things are low and slow and cold and awful. You prepare. There's nowhere else to start. So you're a newbie? Big deal. WE all were at 1 point. So you've AFCed? Big Deal. STOP. Don't say "Well I can't." That's why you can't, you've programmed yourself to believe otherwise. So sad.
Really, the HARDER you make this, the HARDER it is. If you just see it as behavior, and a lack of knowledge and awareness, THEN you can say OH! I can change and realize my INTERNAL feelings WERE RIGHT! DUH.
How many guys came here and said
"Wait, there's another reality to dealing with women, and life?" AWESOME!
Probably every guy.
-------------------------
So what am I saying? For those guys SEEKING change and ANSWERs...it's all right here. And quite honestly, MOST guys don't, because they really DO NOT WANT TO. You do not care enough to do so. I've known some handicapped people, in physical or mental ways, who did MORE than with their abilities than normally healthy people. If they can, can't you? What excuse can you have over them?
Over being born in a FREE country. With some means or money. With some ability to travel. We don't appreciate enough of where we came from to now, to realize that we have ALOT, even based on where we are at NOW.
A-Unit
