The "women don't really care about you" redpill notion is worrying me

[user252009]

Since discovering redpill about 2,5 years or so ago (due to a heartbreak from a coworker that I've written extensively about on SS), I've constantly had that notion of women not really caring about men as people, but rather of what we can provide for them. I'm afraid that this notion will prevent me from truly bonding with a woman in the future.

 

[user252009]

No amount of theory can undo your innate desire to bond with a woman.

Absolutely agree. I guess it's the overarching question of how to navigate the whole thing, knowing what we know and what we see and experience; redpill definitely was confirmed for me in many cases during these last two years.

 

[Kotaix]

Since discovering redpill about 2,5 years or so ago (due to a heartbreak from a coworker that I've written extensively about on SS), I've constantly had that notion of women not really caring about men as people, but rather of what we can provide for them. I'm afraid that this notion will prevent me from truly bonding with a woman in the future.

This kind of generalization is dangerous. It helps some guys remember that they need to be careful who they bed or get into a relationship with. Low quality or unethical women will behave like this, but to say all women are like this is like saying all men are pigs.

All you need to do is find a woman who has integrity. There are a lot of them.

 

[corrector]

My ex wife was like that. That is why we are divorced.

 

[Bigpapa]

OP - As lowly as the common man has become, it’s no mystery to me why women have become largely disenchanted with men overall.

Simply caring about what women think of you is extremely disenchanting for women, funnily enough. Basing your life on women’s opinions is a sure way to become invisible to women.

Men need to rediscover that an obsession with women makes him unattractive to women. It’s very common, old wisdom.

other men are even worse than women

women do not care , men want to f8ck you over

been to a hotel , got a ****ty room and wanted to change it . The guy at the reception said that everything is full and so on . He even smiled when saying this

the next morning talked with a girl at reception , I even got an upgrade

sure … it can be the case that the hotel was full for that night , but sounds extremely unlikely that magically there were Rooms the next day in the morning .

the funny thing is that guy looked like an id1ot , and most likely that was his “revange” .

guys are more cruel than women can ever be

 

[devilkingx2]

Since discovering redpill about 2,5 years or so ago (due to a heartbreak from a coworker that I've written extensively about on SS), I've constantly had that notion of women not really caring about men as people, but rather of what we can provide for them. I'm afraid that this notion will prevent me from truly bonding with a woman in the future.

A woman worth bonding with will disprove that notion (at least temporarily, before things go to sh!t years later)

You shouldn't bond too quickly or too easily, at the very least not faster than she does. Otherwise you'll get screwed over and hurt a lot.

 

[devilkingx2]

It’s because when a man bonds he typically turns into a cuddle fagg0t and loses focus on all but her. That’s why men in love get dumped.

That's definitely one big part of it. AlphaMaleStrategies has a recent Livestream clip with a viewer who talks about taking a girl back after she cheated on him and dumped him 3+ times. That guy needs Jesus.

Another big part is that if you get too attached too early you may end up finding out she was just hiding the crazy for the first X amount of months.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Since discovering redpill about 2,5 years or so ago (due to a heartbreak from a coworker that I've written extensively about on SS), I've constantly had that notion of women not really caring about men as people, but rather of what we can provide for them. I'm afraid that this notion will prevent me from truly bonding with a woman in the future.

This is called taking it too far. Need to know where to draw the line and not go past the limit of being balanced.

In general, every person in your life is there because of something you can do for them. Women are no different.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Since discovering redpill about 2,5 years or so ago (due to a heartbreak from a coworker that I've written extensively about on SS), I've constantly had that notion of women not really caring about men as people, but rather of what we can provide for them. I'm afraid that this notion will prevent me from truly bonding with a woman in the future.

I like @Kotaix comment. It is a mistake to generalize just about anything in life, this includes women.

From a primal and evolutionary perspective, women's need-to-take-care-of-"your man" mindset is real. It is how they assure the man can stick around to provide for their offspring and little tribe. It is a conditional desire to care for her man as long as he provides for and protects her and her offspring.

Can women genuinely care for a man? Yes. But as Kotaix said, those will probably be "high value" women of integrity. Some modern rachet women are more in the mindset of "Let's murder all men and abort every pregnancy" to arbitrarily enforce female empowerment.

Modern Man Advice

 

[MatureDJ]

Getting attached too early (or at all) as a Man is a sign of mommy’s issues.

I wouldn't say that at all - I'd say that it is because the pickings are so sparse for men that they have to hang on to any chance they get, since the next one might be years away.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I like @Kotaix comment. It is a mistake to generalize just about anything in life, this includes women.

Modern Man Advice

I would include reducing the concept of existence into something called "life" as well, which usually conveys a set of presuppositions about the condition of one's existence. Usually there's an assumption of commonality involved - but needless to say existence in 21st century America is far different from that of 16th century Siberia, for example, likewise between current-day Australia and Greenland.

Just a pet peeve.