You know it pays off to be fit and healthy women are attracted to guys that are, i'm not one of those gym rat guys that spends hours in a gym. I work in the construction industry, physical work your always working your body I've always been fairly fit and powerful. It went to hell in the handbasket when I landed in a sedentary job as a office worker moving up to a supervisor which I did for 12.5 years. The stress got to me I ballooned up, good bye fit body I had a pregnant belly it stuck out nice and round. I started to age quickly I looked in the mirror and said to myself I need to change this. I did so 4 years ago got back into shape it took a long time to get healthy again I still had stress on my back which slows the process of getting healthy. I'm stubborn as fvck I wasn't going to let stress beat me I wanted my body back from the grips of obesity.
I do have the features that women like I'm only 5'9" some say that's too short I find I'm tall enough. I'm a broad shouldered guy nearly 22 inches wide I don't have the body builder V shape my lower half is just as stout. I'm naturally muscular but I'm not a body builder looking body I'm just built, my bone structure is large. I have the big hands women seemed to be enamoured with, I also have the facial features women like.
Right from my 20s I've had problems with women approaching me I always wondered what I was doing wrong. Only the bold ones would come up to me they are the extroverted women who I'm not really attracted too as I'm very much introverted. It wasn't till my early 30s a frenchman friend he was in his 60s told me your a good looking guy women are scared to approach you because they are scared they will get rejected. He said don't come across so strong your an intimidating looking guy, break the ice with them and talk to them so they feel more comfortable and they will come to you.
I used his advice and it worked, I have a new problem since I rebuilt myself after letting myself become obese I look younger than I'm I confuse the fvck out of women. I have the maturity of a 40 year old man as I'm a 40 year old man but I have the looks of a 30 year old man. I'm dressed the way a mature man should dress. Women can't put their finger on it what is different about me why do you act so mature and look so young. I have friends that are in their late 20s early 30s these guys act like they are boys that haven't grown up yet. I feel like a dirty old man being able to talk to 20 something year old women as she figures I'm 30 years old.
I've got my life back on track its taken almost the last 2 years getting my body back to where I want it. Recovering from the years of stress damage I put myself through, recovering from BPD woman I was involved with. I'm back to chatting up women again but I'm finding women out there are not worth it. The younger women out there today are so immature just like the guys that are the same age. Most of the women I chat up I find out are taken or they have kids etc, chatted up women in my age they are single moms with teenage kids they are packing baggage and bitterness.
I didn't date for anybody for 10 years the supervisor job consumed my life I didn't have any time to devote to a woman my social life was non existent. Then I got involved with the BPD woman I worked with our relationship failed because I didn't devote enough time to her.
I've got buddies that keep saying go overseas get yourself a thai or a philli woman they say todays North American women are not worth it. My red flag and bullsh*t meter is set on high after dealing with the BPD for 2 years. Getting back into the dating world where the prospects are not that good makes a guy think its better off to stay single.
I do have the features that women like I'm only 5'9" some say that's too short I find I'm tall enough. I'm a broad shouldered guy nearly 22 inches wide I don't have the body builder V shape my lower half is just as stout. I'm naturally muscular but I'm not a body builder looking body I'm just built, my bone structure is large. I have the big hands women seemed to be enamoured with, I also have the facial features women like.
Right from my 20s I've had problems with women approaching me I always wondered what I was doing wrong. Only the bold ones would come up to me they are the extroverted women who I'm not really attracted too as I'm very much introverted. It wasn't till my early 30s a frenchman friend he was in his 60s told me your a good looking guy women are scared to approach you because they are scared they will get rejected. He said don't come across so strong your an intimidating looking guy, break the ice with them and talk to them so they feel more comfortable and they will come to you.
I used his advice and it worked, I have a new problem since I rebuilt myself after letting myself become obese I look younger than I'm I confuse the fvck out of women. I have the maturity of a 40 year old man as I'm a 40 year old man but I have the looks of a 30 year old man. I'm dressed the way a mature man should dress. Women can't put their finger on it what is different about me why do you act so mature and look so young. I have friends that are in their late 20s early 30s these guys act like they are boys that haven't grown up yet. I feel like a dirty old man being able to talk to 20 something year old women as she figures I'm 30 years old.
I've got my life back on track its taken almost the last 2 years getting my body back to where I want it. Recovering from the years of stress damage I put myself through, recovering from BPD woman I was involved with. I'm back to chatting up women again but I'm finding women out there are not worth it. The younger women out there today are so immature just like the guys that are the same age. Most of the women I chat up I find out are taken or they have kids etc, chatted up women in my age they are single moms with teenage kids they are packing baggage and bitterness.
I didn't date for anybody for 10 years the supervisor job consumed my life I didn't have any time to devote to a woman my social life was non existent. Then I got involved with the BPD woman I worked with our relationship failed because I didn't devote enough time to her.
I've got buddies that keep saying go overseas get yourself a thai or a philli woman they say todays North American women are not worth it. My red flag and bullsh*t meter is set on high after dealing with the BPD for 2 years. Getting back into the dating world where the prospects are not that good makes a guy think its better off to stay single.