The Truth About Being Alpha

[Vypros]

Before you read any further, I want you to click on these links and read them (especially the first one):

http://www.diyplanner.com/node/248
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_wave

And please, for the love of GOD, read this link too:

http://www.biocybernaut.com/about/brainwaves/alpha.htm

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All right, did you read them? If not, go back up and at least read the last one. How does this help you and what the hell does this have to do with "alpha males", that you hear so much here on this and other dating websites and inside of Seduction material?

Well, it's helpful because we need to destory this idea that being alpha is a set of ACTIONS!!!! BEING ALPHA IS A PATTERN OF THINKING, NOT A SET OF ACTIONS, SO TO BE TRULY "ALPHA" YOU MUST LEARN TO CHANGE YOUR PATTERN OF THINKING TO AN ALPHA STATE!

This is HUGE to you, the Don Juan, because this is something unbelievably stress free and it's good to you, Mr. Shy Guy, because the techniques for getting yourself into this state aren't "social" techniques and don't involve rejection!!

But...but....I want to be an alpha male! I want to f**k womenz! How can I be the alpha male of a group and get the womenz if I'm doing something that isn't social???? Tell me! I must know!

Patience, grasshoppa...

What if I told you that being a Don Juan could come natural to you? What if I told you that with a little bit of time and effort, you could be a natural Don Juan and not worry about whether what you are doing is working or not? What if I told you that you control the switches in your brain that command your reality?

Would you stand up and shout, PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD TELL ME!

Well, you read it yourself, didn't you? I asked you to, you said you did! Read it again dammit!

IT'S A PATTERN OF THINKING!

Read that third link again. Alpha patterns are found most commonly in someone who is...what?

RELAXED.

Well, Mr. Know-it-all, how do I relax my brain?

Have you ever heard of Zen Meditation? Yoga? If you haven't, then look into it! This is a matter of life and death for you!

You will exhibit alpha behaviour when your mind is fully relaxed. So, you need to begin looking at the four types of brain waves, learn how each of them is used and in what situations you could best use that pattern, and then develop your own method (I can't teach you this) for flipping that switch!

Screw flipping HER attraction switches! FLIP YOUR OWN DAMNED SWITCHES! And watch, as you enter the state where you are just a NATURAL with the people (aka women type people) who surround you!

Do it. Do it now.

Don't wait, do it now!

Get off here and do it now.

 

[CalmCoolAndConfident]

Ha hit the nail on the head there buddy, meditation really does work. And it doesnt have to be the sitting on the floor with your legs crossed humming to yourself either. You can do it easily in your bed, shower, or where ever and when ever. Just get into a comfortable positon, close your eyes, concentrate on seeing with your eyes closed and listen to your breathing. Soon all your thoughts, worries and fears will dissolve leaving you RELAXED.

 

[Jon55]

What are some good meditation techniques? Any other recommendations?

 

[nonchalant]

There are many techniques - transcendental meditation, hermetic meditation, osho meditation. I currently practice a combination of yoga and osho meditation, coupled with visualizations and affirmations. I switch it up all the time, depending on my mood. The key is to do it every day for at least twenty minutes, twice a day if you can. At first you will have a hard time keeping still for twenty minutes. It was damn near impossible for me at first, now I look forward to these islands of calm in my day. Eventually you will find something that really works for you, but it is a habit that you have to cultivate first - just like getting in shape begins with the habit of getting your ass to the gym and doing something 3 times a week.

 

[PRMoon]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_male

That's the meaning of being an alpha. It's the origin of the meaning for the term.

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

You don't need to fvck any hot babes to be an AlphaMale, as long as a large percentage of them desperately desire to be fvcked by you then you are one.

 

[Vypros]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_male

That's the meaning of being an alpha. It's the origin of the meaning for the term.

lol @ a wiki link

I took the liberty of googling alpha male, and found another link that agrees with your link:

http://www.takeninhand.com/node/342

Sure, it defines the pattern of BEHAVIOR for the typical alpha male, but that's not what this thread is about.

It's like a cake. I could bake the ****tiest tasting cake ever, slob it with the sweetest icing, and STILL have a crappy tasting cake, even though it LOOKS good and the icing TASTES good, the cake itself is still crap.

This is the same thing. Sure you can read about alpha male behaviour and imitate that behaviour and come up with a form of alpha to everyone else, but inside you are STILL that same, crappy tasting cake.

My focus with this thread was to take the "alpha male" concept, actually figure out why they used "alpha", and help you exhibit the same types of behaviours NATURALLY.

Hence, this thread. "Alpha" is a pattern of thinking. To change the pattern of thinking from "Beta" (which is stress induced) to "Alpha" (which is a relaxed state), you change the way you THINK, and the ******d actions will come naturally.

I've noticed that the base of this site focuses so much on the OUTSIDE, that we forget the most important part--the INSIDE. Because every woman I know of usually goes for what inside a man over ******d appearances. Or rather, she'll go for the outard appearance and actions FIRST, but she won't STAY with that man or she'll be unhappy with that man because he doesn't have it on the inside either.

What I have been trying to do is show you how to focus on the INSIDE, so that not only are you fixing your situation with WOMEN, you are fixing other areas of your life as well and are much more happy with YOURSELF, which is far more important than being happy with WOMEN.

To thine own self be true brother. To thine own self be true.

 

[Vypros]

And why the hell does this site star out the word "ovtwar" lol

 

[PRMoon]

I've noticed that the base of this site focuses so much on the OUTSIDE, that we forget the most important part--the INSIDE. Because every woman I know of usually goes for what inside a man over ******d appearances. Or rather, she'll go for the outard appearance and actions FIRST, but she won't STAY with that man or she'll be unhappy with that man because he doesn't have it on the inside either.

I'm not sure that this is completely true. Many of the long term members of the site have preached to have the mentality (thoughts) of an alpha male as well as the look. I know alot of other people here focus on looks and cling too it like it's a desperate lifeline for getting females, but those are usually the one's who dont' get it. Being and alpha male is more then just good physical attrabutes, nice colonge, and a fast car. You have to be able to talk the walk as well.

Thanks for reviving the notion though. I'm in agreement that alot of people here need to refocus their thinking about who they are and what exactly they're looking for.

 

[Vypros]

I'm not sure that this is completely true. Many of the long term members of the site have preached to have the mentality (thoughts) of an alpha male as well as the look. I know alot of other people here focus on looks and cling too it like it's a desperate lifeline for getting females, but those are usually the one's who dont' get it. Being and alpha male is more then just good physical attrabutes, nice colonge, and a fast car. You have to be able to talk the walk as well.

Thanks for reviving the notion though. I'm in agreement that alot of people here need to refocus their thinking about who they are and what exactly they're looking for.

Word.

I will shout it from the rooftops because it takes more than just a few lines and some theory to be truly happy. It takes more than having a woman in your life to be happy. It takes more than having friends in your life or family to be happy.

Happiness needs to come from within, from that lock box deep inside of you that nobody can get to! Only then will you exhibit the qualities and lead the life you've always wanted! Only then will you be in a place where you are truly ready to take on the world. And only then should you select the person you want to be with. You should never be with a person because they make you happy. No, you should be able to be happy without ANYONE, and THEN you should be with someone who shares in that happiness and amplifies it. That's the mark of true success, and so many people miss out on it.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

thats interesting, and I think you really make an excellent point about trying to transform us into alpha males instead of wearing a mask of an alpha male. Alot of it really makes sense too, the people who are relaxed in an environment are usually the more interesting conversationalists. Thing i dont understand is that success is made when we defeat our fears(ex: do something we've never done before like make an approach) and usually and almost every time when we do theese things we do them while being afraid. So im guessing if a guy is nervous to make an approach and he makes an approach he is not transmitting any alpha waves at all, only beta and theta?So pretty much any approach will always have 0 alpha waves?

The article said all waves are important, so wouldnt having too many alpha waves from being relaxed all the time have a down side?

 

[Vypros]

The article said all waves are important, so wouldnt having too many alpha waves from being relaxed all the time have a down side?

And you just hit the nail on the head. This is why the "bad boys" and the "thugs" and "criminals", whatever, end up the way they do. They don't have a certain balance to their thinking.

But you can see that women are more attracted to these "dangerous" types, and it's the alpha way of thinking that attracts them.

If you can control it, and use it when you need it, you are so far ahead of the game it's ridiculous.

 

[mrRuckus]

What if i don't want to be alpha?

 

[Vypros]

What if i don't want to be alpha?

I would ask you how you specifically defined alpha? Or rather, what specific "alpha" traits don't you want to have?

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I dont understand how bad boy's,criminals,etc. relate to any of the alpha characteristics. If anything wouldnt they be more theta or beta the ones that deal with stress and anxiety?

 

[Vypros]

That's a good question...now let me ask YOU a question:

Have you ever been around the "bad boy"? Someone considered "dangerous"? Or wild?

I've been around these types, and do you want to know what the most common thing I've found between them all?

They are always RELAXED. They are always comfortable with themselves. In fact, you will notice how "jaded" they seem. It's like they just don't care--and they DON'T.

That relaxed way of thinking, that calm confidence they exhibit, and they are not intimidated in any way. They are driven to eratic behaviour because they don't think about the consequences, they just DO. They just act. And it gets them in trouble because they are in a constant state of "alpha" brain patterns because they can't control it. In much the same way that a "beta" male is in a constant state of worry or anxiety because they can't control their thinking. Their way of thinking HINDERS them in the same way that a "bad" boy is HINDERED by the consequences of their actions because they lack CONTROL!

And, as I said in the first post, "alpha" patterns show up in a state of relaxation. Which is why I suggested some form of meditation or Yoga because you CONTROL that. You CONTROL when you enter that state, and a result you CONTROL the power that comes with it.