The Theory of Becoming

[sosuave213]

Men don't attract at their present value; they attract their perceived value (who they are becoming). That's why you see hotties with notties: The blonde in the red dress going out with the chubster from It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia.

That chubster, though, perceives himself as the catch because he is doing things that reaffirm that belief: Conquering business deals if that is his mission; Giving to the community if that is his mission; Busting it at the gym if that is his mission.

If the guy is not fulfilling himself with a mission, he will perceive himself a failure, and resonate with lower value. That's why you see Chads with Grenades. Those Chads are working out, but something is missing from their life.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Chads With Grenades would be a good name for a punk band. Maybe have one chick playing drums or bass named Killer Stacy. All of them topless with gas masks, save for the chick with a coconut bra. They could have a hit song called "Becoming" even. Arranged Deranged would be the album title, Scrambled Brains For Breakfast the follow-up before the inevitable fade into oblivion.

On stage for their live shows, they would feature an unblinking, perched owl on a pillar on one side and @AmsterdamAssassin's kidnapped, scowling Maine Coon on a pillar on the other side. The stark contrast between the maniacally thrashing band members and the unmoving, yellow-eyed animals would be one of their calling cards, of course.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The stark contrast between the maniacally thrashing band members and the unmoving, yellow-eyed animals would be one of their calling cards, of course.

Klook went with me to a blues band double bill at De Nieuwe Anita, where he sat on a bar stool looking down on the bands performing. The drummer of the first band came up to me, told me how he was impressed how my cat looked at him.
"He probably looked at your drumsticks," I said.
"He didn't seem very enthusiastic," the drummer said.
I shrugged, "You play blues, not jazz."
Drummer boy looked a bit offended at that...