The Texting Revolution

[STR8UP]

Face it fellas...it's here to stay.

And don't buy into the whole "men don't text" line. It's a communication tool just like the telephone and email. Less personal, but it serves a similar function.

I got a text from a male business associate today. It said "Call me when you get a chance". The only problem is my phone couldn't download it because my inbox was full. I had to go in and delete some messages first.

There were a few texts that I needed to save, so I had to selectively delete a few to make space. Anyway, Going through these texts I realized a couple of things.

First, 9 out of 10 of them were from women.

Secondly, the texts that were from men, were either business related, or short and to the point messages regarding personal matters (where they will be at a a certain time, etc.)

The texts from women are quite a bit different. Sure, there is a communicative element to them, but as with face to face conversation, WOMEN LOVE TO TALK. So there's a lot more BS in between the communication. I also noticed that there are a lot more texts in my inbox compared to my outbox. Hmmmm.....

So what does this tell us?

Well, first of all, like I said, get used to it. Even chicks in their 30's are getting addicted to texting. It's like a constant conversational lifeline. As some have said "A video game for chicks". Certainly most of it is unnecessary, but what with women IS necessary?

Is it unManly to text? No. It is unManly to text LIKE a chick.

Use it as a TOOL. You can say all kinds of sh!t in a text you might not say in person. Some might call this a buffer, but if you get stuck having to communicate with a woman via text, MAKE HER HORNY in the process! Do something creative. Learn how to send an NLP text (search for it on Youtube)

Basically, don't get caught up in the jibber jabber, but don't shun it altogether. Get in, get out, and leave your mark.

The great thing about texting is that you can answer them at YOUR leisure. Ten minutes...ten hours....the next day....WHENEVER. It gives you some degree of control if you have the frame to begin with. The same could be said about calling, but with calling they either pick up or they don't. Do you leave a message or not? With a text there is no doubt about it....you won't be talking to her. You can get a point across WITHOUT having to speak to her. And sometimes this could be a good thing. Send off the text...you know she got it. She responds....you can respond back on your own time. I'm sure you can find ways to use this to your advantage.

So embrace it fellas, cause it's gonna get worse before it gets better. Learn to use it to your advantage.

 

[ChumpNoMore]

Agreed.

 

[ketostix]

And don't buy into the whole "men don't text" line. It's a communication tool just like the telephone and email. Less personal, but it serves a similar function.

I agree. The "real men don't text" is mostly PU/SS dogma. A majority of my meetups/hookups were set up by texting. I've had several hookups where I never even dialed her number, just texted. Many times a woman won't answer a phone call but will texts. You have to work with what's really happening and use it to your advantage and not theorize on how you want or think things should work.

 

[Colossus]

Also agreed.

Texting can also be used as a useful way to gauge interest.

If a girl consistently takes too long to respond to me, I just next her. I've had way too much experience with the delayed reponders. If you message a woman with high interest, 9 times out of 10 she'll respond to you within the hour. Yeah things happen like work, phone calls, etc...but if you have displayed value and her interest is genuine, she isnt going to repeatedly take hours or days to get back to you.

Same goes for non-responders. Sometimes a message doesnt get through, or there's a network delay, so it's best to be SURE your text made it before you next her; but non-response IMO is the same as ignoring your calls. She had her chance. Next.

 

[Warrior74]

honestly. texting wears me out. its like a non stop conversation and I hate that. I will stop texting a girl and get back to her in a few hours when I can call. the only good thing about texting...girls will tell you their feelings towards you easier over text than in person.

 

[Amazing]

Welcome to 3 years ago?

You are getting slow old man, :grin:

 

[squirrels]

Sending a quick message/comment = text.

More than 3 back-and-forths, or desire to hold a conversation = phonecall.

Also, until you know me well enough that I trust you at least somewhat, all making, breaking, and re-making of plans is done by phonecall. Texting is too often used in cowardice by women to break or change the terms of dates, trying to marginalize the breach of ettiquite. I dunno about others...I don't stand for that crap.

Men letting women off the hook for excessive and inappropriate texting is like women letting men off the hook for staring at their boobies. It's natural behavior, yes, but that doesn't make it appropriate.

 

[STR8UP]

Also agreed.

Texting can also be used as a useful way to gauge interest.

If a girl consistently takes too long to respond to me, I just next her. I've had way too much experience with the delayed reponders. If you message a woman with high interest, 9 times out of 10 she'll respond to you within the hour. Yeah things happen like work, phone calls, etc...but if you have displayed value and her interest is genuine, she isnt going to repeatedly take hours or days to get back to you.

Same goes for non-responders. Sometimes a message doesnt get through, or there's a network delay, so it's best to be SURE your text made it before you next her; but non-response IMO is the same as ignoring your calls. She had her chance. Next.

Great point.

A chick I went out with a couple of times awhile back would either get back with me HOURS later or the next day. In a case like this she is either playing games or she just doesn't care. Either way, you know you are in a losing situation, and if you back off she's either going to realize her game isn't going to work and she will start chasing you, or contact will fizzle and you have your answer.

The inherent problem with telephone contact is the "do I leave a message" thing. With a text it IS a message. It almost forces a response. When you realize how the different dynamic works you can use it to your advantage.

honestly. texting wears me out. its like a non stop conversation and I hate that. I will stop texting a girl and get back to her in a few hours when I can call.

Yea, if it seems like she wants to hold a full on convo through text you cut it off and call. I think if you fall into that trap of holding a dialogue via text, it's as bad as spending two hours on the phone with her. She will start to look at you like a g/f. You need to be in control of it and when it turns into one of those extended text-a-thons you cut it off.

 

[NewMan]

Texting is for pvssy's.

Call me old fashion.

There is zero need to text.

Pick up the phone and call.

It's the pvssy way out.

 

[darkstarrr]

I agree that texting is here to stay. It all depends on who you associate with it and how used to using it they are. For example, NewMan, suppose you meet a woman at the book store. She is the same isle as you and you say hey, I really haven't been doing any reading lately and I'm trying to find something worth while. Can you recommend anything? What is one of your favorite books? Then you strike up a conversation with her and you get each other's numbers. You're at work and suddenly you get a text from her. She says something like hey NewMan have you started the book yet?

I think in that situation any dude will be inclined to respond without feeling like a pvssy, especially if you are at work and can't call each other.

I think the bottom line though is what another poster said somewhere no this forum: sure, have some limited communication via text and phone, but the important thing to remember is that communication leading to a get together with the other person.

 

[Mr. Me]

It's a tool all right, one that women use to buffer from actually speaking with the man and can use to throw up walls and stalls.

Our goal is to contact the gal, speak to her and set up a date, period. We want her on the phone to nail down the details, so she can't later say "Oh, I never got your text!" or "I thought you meant next Wednesday" or "I thought you meant the mall downtown" or "Didn't you get my text (that she never sent)?" or not get back to you or whatever excuse. Or maybe there's a drop in service and she never really got the text. How many guys reading this have gone through this experience: "We're supposed to go out tonight, but I still haven't heard back from her"?

If you're talking to her on the phone instead of texting, there is no room for such errors.

When you engage in texting, that's the Pandora's box you open. You have no control over it.

You wanna gauge interest? Instead of waiting hours to see if she returns a text or not, call her and see if she's willing to TALK to you.

Not using text is how you use it to your advantage.

When the above sh1t started happening to me, I cut out their ability to text by disabling text messaging on my cell over the reasonings of guys like you who were all telling me "Oh, but that's how women communicate nowadays!", like I'm some sort of ignorant out-of-date dinosaur who still uses a telegraph to communicate with people... guys like you who get into texting back and forth and then wonder what happened when she suddenly goes silent or something goes askew. No second thoughts about it. And no such problems since. In fact, just had a chick I met try to text me and when she couldn't, she contacted me instead. I'll take that any day over my having to submit to their mode of communication.

Texting provides the latest technology to permit guys yet another way of blowing it, just as voice mail made it possible for guys to blow it by leaving the stupidest, self-defeating messages like in Swingers or like Dimitri (youtube it).

 

[cordoncordon]

Face it fellas...it's here to stay.

And don't buy into the whole "men don't text" line. It's a communication tool just like the telephone and email. Less personal, but it serves a similar function.

I got a text from a male business associate today. It said "Call me when you get a chance". The only problem is my phone couldn't download it because my inbox was full. I had to go in and delete some messages first.

There were a few texts that I needed to save, so I had to selectively delete a few to make space. Anyway, Going through these texts I realized a couple of things.

First, 9 out of 10 of them were from women.

Secondly, the texts that were from men, were either business related, or short and to the point messages regarding personal matters (where they will be at a a certain time, etc.)

The texts from women are quite a bit different. Sure, there is a communicative element to them, but as with face to face conversation, WOMEN LOVE TO TALK. So there's a lot more BS in between the communication. I also noticed that there are a lot more texts in my inbox compared to my outbox. Hmmmm.....

So what does this tell us?

Well, first of all, like I said, get used to it. Even chicks in their 30's are getting addicted to texting. It's like a constant conversational lifeline. As some have said "A video game for chicks". Certainly most of it is unnecessary, but what with women IS necessary?

Is it unManly to text? No. It is unManly to text LIKE a chick.

Use it as a TOOL. You can say all kinds of sh!t in a text you might not say in person. Some might call this a buffer, but if you get stuck having to communicate with a woman via text, MAKE HER HORNY in the process! Do something creative. Learn how to send an NLP text (search for it on Youtube)

Basically, don't get caught up in the jibber jabber, but don't shun it altogether. Get in, get out, and leave your mark.

The great thing about texting is that you can answer them at YOUR leisure. Ten minutes...ten hours....the next day....WHENEVER. It gives you some degree of control if you have the frame to begin with. The same could be said about calling, but with calling they either pick up or they don't. Do you leave a message or not? With a text there is no doubt about it....you won't be talking to her. You can get a point across WITHOUT having to speak to her. And sometimes this could be a good thing. Send off the text...you know she got it. She responds....you can respond back on your own time. I'm sure you can find ways to use this to your advantage.

So embrace it fellas, cause it's gonna get worse before it gets better. Learn to use it to your advantage.

Very well said Str8up. Agree 100%.

 

[NewMan]

For example, NewMan, suppose you meet a woman at the book store. She is the same isle as you and you say hey, I really haven't been doing any reading lately and I'm trying to find something worth while. Can you recommend anything? What is one of your favorite books? Then you strike up a conversation with her and you get each other's numbers. You're at work and suddenly you get a text from her. She says something like hey NewMan have you started the book yet?

I think in that situation any dude will be inclined to respond without feeling like a pvssy, especially if you are at work and can't call each other.

I am at work - and I want to avoid wasting my time by not sending her a BS message because:

1) it's impersonal
2) I'm not going to be able to engage her with my whit and charm
3) I want to meet her face to face.

therefore,

I will refrain from texting her (I don't have text turned on, on my phone in any case) - and I would pick up the phone that night - talk to her - and make plans.

Texting is the lazy man's way out.

 

[horaholic]

I swear I'm not stoned, but It makes me wonder if back in the caveman days, the alpha cavemen refused to jump on the 'verbal language' train when it first developed. The older ones probably thought the club-her-over-the-head method was much more efficient, than potentially screwing it up with all this 'talking' nonsense.

There's nothing wrong with texting, IF... it is done like a dj, or a man, and not like a supplicating AFC. I've gotten laid, through texting alone. I've also screwed up through texting also. I've also screwed up through my words. Im not gonna stop talking, now am I?

I think someone needs to write a tried and tested "PUA guide to texting"

Here's how I got laid through texting:

A chick gave me her number, didnt call, but saw her at an event we were both planning to be at anyway (not a date.) As she was leaving, I said we should hang out, she said 'you have my number."

Two days later, I get a text from her:

"drink?" So we set up details through texts. 'meet at so and so in an hour' 'ok, bye' I didnt bang her then, but the next week I shot her the same text, but different place (my seduction lounge, I've written about here), and banged her.

There was nothing to screw up.

Here is a really good article about phone game, I saw today. Its long, but well worth the read, for sure! http://alexattitude.com/?m=200806

 

[guru1000]

Absolutely nothing wrong with texting.

I use it as a buffer in business as a DHV tactic. I utilize it to show the prospect I could care less whether he moves or not. Business plate spinning demonstrated through phone calls/texting speaks volumes about your demand and time.

 

[jophil28]

Absolutely nothing wrong with texting.

I use it as a buffer in business as a DHV tactic. I utilize it to show the prospect I could care less whether he moves or not. Business plate spinning demonstrated through phone calls/texting speaks volumes about your demand and time.

Yep, Perfect.

And this tactic can be used in your dating life.
I always keep texts to women short. I rarely reply in full or in detail. A short reply tends to enhance your "hard to get " persona.

 

[grinder]

Yep, it’s not a buffer, it’s a tool, and it’s a measure of your learning curve to utilize it well.

How’s this: “You, me, dinner, 6:30”.

That was from HER not me. Women love it. It works.

 

[Janez]

those DJ "rules" are very limiting. Not using sms and always calling is one of those limiting rules.

One days one of those "smart" people might be suffering some kind of personality disorder just because of blindly following some of the "DJ rules".

Dj Bible needs an update.

 

[Mr. Me]

The older ones probably thought the club-her-over-the-head method was much more efficient

I knew someone would make it a generational issue.

Actually, I would venture to guess that when language was developed, it was developed by the more mature crowd who had been around a while and had a better idea of how it could best be used efficiently to handle things, while the young'uns were basically grunting and pointing and making noises that this is how language should be used.

Here's how I got laid through texting:

A chick gave me her number... I said we should hang out, she said 'you have my number."

Two days later, I get a text from her:

"drink?" So we set up details through texts. 'meet at so and so in an hour' 'ok, bye' I didnt bang her then, but the next week I shot her the same text, but different place (my seduction lounge, I've written about here), and banged her.

There was nothing to screw up.

Because, evidently, she was interested in you. I can't believe this is being used as an example to prove texting works.

She even did the man's job for you of obtaining her number by giving it to you without you asking and also by initiating the contact a couple of days later and also by leading via asking you out for a drink! This proves nothing, it's always easy when the girl wants it and does all the work.

Be that as it may, there's still nothing in that example that couldn't have been done by calling, and quicker over a phone call rather then an ongoing series of texts.

Hey, I'll catch you guys later when you start threads about "She didn't text back, what should I do?"

 

[The Bat]

LoL, Mr. Me is hilarious in this thread.

Anyway, I think texting is fine ONCE you start seeing each other for some time. Asking her out over a text is so lame...even Str8up would agree that that's considered "texting like a chick".

Women can't resist but to text you if they have any interest in you. Most times, I choose to NOT reply to their texts because I'll just call them at my convenience and pick up the conversation from there.

And if I have to reply, then I keep it short and to the point, "bar x @ 9 ttyl".