"The Ten year rule" age difference for women

[SL2012]

I've been doing some research online and looking at various match.com profiles seeing women's age preferences.

It seems to me: Women DO like older men, but generally NOT more than 10 years older.

10 years seems to be the oldest they will go; unless you are famous or are completely loaded of course.

This is true even if you are in shape and look good for your age.

I am 36, it seems MOST women under 25 want nothing to do with a man in his mid 30's.


I am not saying this is 100% true for every woman out there, but women who are attracted to men more than 10 years older than themselves seem to be the EXCEPTION, not the RULE.

What has been your experience?

 

[EastvsWest]

I am going to agree with you here. I am 37 and going to younger bars or interns and her friends from work. They really don't want anything to do with an older dude like me. But you know what? I don't either. Maybe to bang, but never to date. They have no money, they are needy, and overall just a pain in the immature ass. Now 27-31...now we are talking.

 

[May_Day]

Most girls my age won't go above 35. Even some chicks like 32 won't go above 40. Girls in their 20's want guys around their age. They will only go with older dudes unless they are buying them stuff. 26-32 is the age most chicks are looking for in their 20's.

 

[PeakIV]

I was 39 she was 24 and stunning................should have known......turned out to be a cluster B psycho.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I find myself thinking about 18-19yrs old girls but honestly I believe that its just because society doesnt want me to do them, 20-24 are much better to deal with plus they dont usually lose too much of their beauty.

I find the breaking point for many girls are 25-26, there you see the difference.

Regarding age difference, it seems to me that the more they get older and the more the tollerance to age difference increase.

A 20yrs old girl doesnt match to a 30yrs old guy but a 40yrs old woman can match with a 55yrs old man.

 

[Mike32ct]

The short answer is yes. The OP is correct.

 

[zekko]

Lol, rules are for suckers. If I ever break up with my girlfriend (who is 37 - when we started dating, she was 28 and I was 43), I'm going to date some girls in their 20s. I've had numerous opportunities to this past year, and I'm fifty-effing-two years old!

You're right about the online preferences though. If I had to rely on online dating, I could barely get a date with a woman in her 40s, no woman is saying they want a guy in his 50s. You know what they say about what a woman says though... They react differently in person.

 

[coachD]

Damn depressing thread to start the day with. I've got enough of a baby face to pass as 35, but does that mean when a 28 year old asks my age I need to lie to her?

 

[Atom Smasher]

I get a lot of approaches online from women in their late 30s to early 40s, but I know it's because of my pics which show me as very young-looking.

That being said, I think the OP is right. There exists a 10 year cutoff point in general. I see lots of profiles online where an woman's preferred age range extends to 10 years above her own age.

 

[twentee]

if you can still jump up and break a 1 by 12 board with a kick, with that board held arms length above your head, you can get quite a few of them to train with you, no matter how young they are. I've never yet had one come to class every time, for 2 weeks, that I couldn't fvck if I really tried, regardless of beauty, married, etc. There's just something about being a karate teacher. It's like being lead singer in a really good band. They all definitely are impressed.

 

[LiveFreeX]

My wife is 23 or 24, I think its 24 now.... I'm a terrible husband...lol

anyway I'm 34 this year. She was a virgin when I met her... Generally, women won't come right out and say: "I'm looking for a much older man, but they are thinking it like crazy". The thing is their friends will shame them for wanting older tail and they wouldn't think about dating older guys cause most older guys are losers anyway. Do you know any white knights/AFCs over 30 who are remotely attractive for fun to be around? I don't know ANY.

But I know plenty of guys at 30+ who don't have any game with women and are huge losers. Those are the guys that women think of when they think of 30+ guys.

Asian women LOVE older men btw.

 

[LongLostFriend]

I am about to turn 42. My gf is 24. Like LiveFreeX's wife, her "number" is one.

She got some flack about it on principle from people, but once they saw us together, they didn't have much that they could say about it being some kind of disaster.

I am pleased it does get under the skin of my 43-year-old ex wife, though.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Online dating for older men looking for younger women can be hard as hell. I'm of the opinion that the same woman who would reject you ONLINE for being "too old" would make up excuses to be with you if she met you OFFLINE.

Everyone tends to have a very narrow-minded, dogmatic set of criteria (like age) when it comes to getting with someone. But there are ALWAYS exceptions to these rules.

My Intel has revealed that if a guy can successfully get a woman attracted to him first---then she'll GLADLY do the work of justifying her attraction to him in HER mind---and in the minds of all of her potentially cokk-blocking friends, family, and associates.

 

[evan12]

I think most women will tolerate age if there is another benefit , money/status/power/youth all the help you to get younger women . leave online dating aside, I know a woman just lately married a man he is around 40 and she is 26 because he have a successful business , biologically women care less about man age as long as he can inseminate them

 

[Victory Unlimited]

I think most women will tolerate age if there is another benefit , money/status/power/youth all the help you to get younger women .

This is a GREAT point Evan12.

What guys who tend to "talk themselves OUT" of approaching younger women should realize is that WE do the same thing. Yes---we make the same concessions for certain women from time-to-time too.

Many times, if a woman is very physically attractive, extremely satisfying sexually, or very devoted or faithful to to them---guys will choose to look over her other "perceived" shortcomings because they are so appreciative of the good things that she does bring to the table.

Which I believe is a very practical, mature, and SMART thing for guys to do---when it's to their greatest overall benefit.