One of the large areas of dicussion around here is confidence. Well rest assured I'm not going to beat that dead horse any further. Though confidence is important if not tempered with another force you might as well have no confidence at all. I know that flies in the face of a lot of things said here, but I shall qualify my remarks. And if my logic is sound, which I believe it is, this will answers the questions of those who have a great deal of confidence, but still have trouble with women.
The Step Beyond Confidence Is To Be Content.
If you are happy with yourself and your surrounds it will show in your actions, speech, and body langauge. When you are content you are at ease, you are able to cut through all the crap and be at your very best. Anybody can create an air of confidence. Think of confidence as a sword if you will. As you all notice confidence is a tool we all use to project a certain sense of power. A sword was a tool used for protection and projection power. But by itself a sword is useless, it needs something to realize its potential. Confidence by itself is useless for the same reason it needs something to realize its full potential. In terms of a sword, it takes a skilled swordsman or fencer to make proper and effective use of a blade. Give it to an ametuer and their going to cut himself. Give confidence to AFC and he's just going to hurt himself too, because he has not been taught how to wield confidence effectively. Why can't an AFC wield confidence effectively and more importantly why can't you use your confidence effectively? Well its the F in the acroynm AFC, frustration, your are not happy or angry or in a positive state of mind. If you feel unhappy or uncomfortable or put off, whatever your confidence level your not going to be able to take advantage of it. If you are content then making use of your confidence will work in a more effective manner. You must first identify what makes you content, then you can be confident.
The Content Mind
If the first thing on your mind is "Damn I gotta get laid and bad, time to put my game face on" your desperation is going to kill any chance you have. Everyone can see and smell desperation, and they aviod it like the plague. Now lets say you enter some place, a bar, a club, a house party and seeing all the diversions before you, you think to yourself "Ha, this is the perfect place for a man of my taste. I'm surrounded by like minded people who are pleased with themselves." Notice I said "pleased" this means your are actually happy with who you are and what your about. That happiness will show in everything you do, and what do will some even more natural as your confidence and content mind work together. This is opposed to the "game face" many can put on, pretending to confident. Its easy to fake or create confidence, but it is harder to create or fake being happy, otherwise no one would ever have to say "You look like your hiding something whats wrong?" or the ever popular "You can smile all you want but I know something is eating you." You cannot fake, make or create contentment, you can only find it.
Finding Contentment
There is no one path to contentment, though I will say this, things of substance that are valuable to you will contribute to your contentment. Hence why a lot of DJ will tell you to "put yourself into your work or your hobbies" when your feeling down. They already know that being content or happy is key to success with women.
Why Women Find the Confident, Content Man Attractive
Everyone is looking for something to make them happy in life, it provides them will substance and gives them a sense of value. This is why confidence is an attractive feature, because it shows that you value yourself and you know you are a man of substance. But that is only the first half, women are emotional to the point of being irrational, this is truism. If they see a man who is content and happy, he must have found what he has been looking for. Perhaps that confident and content fellow can be a source for her happiness and provide her with confidence. Remember women are insecure and a beacon of security will drive them like moths to a lamp. If you can be confident and content then it will most certianly help you in your quest for women. At the very least you can be happy with yourself, which is the most important thing, not many can look at themselves closely and feel a sense of pride for who they are.
What you do with this advice is up to you, just like the rest of this advice on this site. But please remember advice is not a road map set in stone, sometimes you can cut corners other times things are a bit more roundabout when it comes to women. Any good DJ will tell you that the ability to adapt and use multiple tools from your proverbial toolbox are key to winning women over. It justs helps if your confident and content, because it turns those DJ "tools" into DJ "power tools."
Grey Fox
The Step Beyond Confidence Is To Be Content.
If you are happy with yourself and your surrounds it will show in your actions, speech, and body langauge. When you are content you are at ease, you are able to cut through all the crap and be at your very best. Anybody can create an air of confidence. Think of confidence as a sword if you will. As you all notice confidence is a tool we all use to project a certain sense of power. A sword was a tool used for protection and projection power. But by itself a sword is useless, it needs something to realize its potential. Confidence by itself is useless for the same reason it needs something to realize its full potential. In terms of a sword, it takes a skilled swordsman or fencer to make proper and effective use of a blade. Give it to an ametuer and their going to cut himself. Give confidence to AFC and he's just going to hurt himself too, because he has not been taught how to wield confidence effectively. Why can't an AFC wield confidence effectively and more importantly why can't you use your confidence effectively? Well its the F in the acroynm AFC, frustration, your are not happy or angry or in a positive state of mind. If you feel unhappy or uncomfortable or put off, whatever your confidence level your not going to be able to take advantage of it. If you are content then making use of your confidence will work in a more effective manner. You must first identify what makes you content, then you can be confident.
The Content Mind
If the first thing on your mind is "Damn I gotta get laid and bad, time to put my game face on" your desperation is going to kill any chance you have. Everyone can see and smell desperation, and they aviod it like the plague. Now lets say you enter some place, a bar, a club, a house party and seeing all the diversions before you, you think to yourself "Ha, this is the perfect place for a man of my taste. I'm surrounded by like minded people who are pleased with themselves." Notice I said "pleased" this means your are actually happy with who you are and what your about. That happiness will show in everything you do, and what do will some even more natural as your confidence and content mind work together. This is opposed to the "game face" many can put on, pretending to confident. Its easy to fake or create confidence, but it is harder to create or fake being happy, otherwise no one would ever have to say "You look like your hiding something whats wrong?" or the ever popular "You can smile all you want but I know something is eating you." You cannot fake, make or create contentment, you can only find it.
Finding Contentment
There is no one path to contentment, though I will say this, things of substance that are valuable to you will contribute to your contentment. Hence why a lot of DJ will tell you to "put yourself into your work or your hobbies" when your feeling down. They already know that being content or happy is key to success with women.
Why Women Find the Confident, Content Man Attractive
Everyone is looking for something to make them happy in life, it provides them will substance and gives them a sense of value. This is why confidence is an attractive feature, because it shows that you value yourself and you know you are a man of substance. But that is only the first half, women are emotional to the point of being irrational, this is truism. If they see a man who is content and happy, he must have found what he has been looking for. Perhaps that confident and content fellow can be a source for her happiness and provide her with confidence. Remember women are insecure and a beacon of security will drive them like moths to a lamp. If you can be confident and content then it will most certianly help you in your quest for women. At the very least you can be happy with yourself, which is the most important thing, not many can look at themselves closely and feel a sense of pride for who they are.
What you do with this advice is up to you, just like the rest of this advice on this site. But please remember advice is not a road map set in stone, sometimes you can cut corners other times things are a bit more roundabout when it comes to women. Any good DJ will tell you that the ability to adapt and use multiple tools from your proverbial toolbox are key to winning women over. It justs helps if your confident and content, because it turns those DJ "tools" into DJ "power tools."
Grey Fox
