The Slip Hug

[PK]

Breaking kino barriers is sometimes tough for some of us. Kino is definitely one of those items that can lead to a kiss and even more.

Every single date that I've been on, where we ended up kissing, had some kino leading up to it no matter how little. The slip hug is a technique I recommend for first dates where you both had a great time. I haven't done extended studies yet, however I have tried it the other day and it worked well.

A friend reccomended this to me, it's best used when a date has gone well. The end of the date is usually the climax of kino, and on first dates it's always important to end on a good note.

Usually I like to end every first date with at least a hug, so I'll say

"Well miss, Give me a hug?"

Her: "Sure"
pretty much if the date went well you can always get a hug

The slip part of the hug takes place after you start to break the embrace, you slid your hands down to her hands so your are both holding hands face to face.

and then you say something like:

"Well if hugs are to be had for the asking, what about kisses?"

And when you ask it like that, its makes it awefully hard to deny the request This isn't a fool proof technique but can lead to a kiss to end the date, which ultimately makes the date successful. Any commentary or additions are welcome.

 

[Julian]

Hmm im not so keen on the asking for anything.

I mean, hugs are kind of common, ive seen on blind date where the date went HORRIBLE but the chick still gave the dude a hug out of courtesy.

However, the slip to the hands is perfect, at this point you should just look deep into her eyes and give her "the look" you guys know what im talkin about, maybe quietly say something about how beautiful the night is and go in for the kiss.

 

[PK]

Well these aren't strict dependent variables, you can manipulate them to suit your personality.

For instance I'm a Southerner with a Texas accent, the way we roll the end of sentences or add pauses in our speech can make some questions or declarative statements sound awefully sexy.

I really don't see a problem with asking for a kiss, hug, etc., as long as you ask in a sexy confident manner. I think that's the best part of being a Southnerner is that the dialect seems to allow for confidence and also at times for shyness to be exuded (again this is variable), I actually studied this phenonmenon in a speech comm class.

Asking to be kissed in this situation isn't too much of a stretch, especially after the slip hug, it's going to be pretty obvious what you are up too, so words or no words, she's going to know. So again fit this technique to your own personality.

 

[DEKKA]

I read this tip.

And theres something unsettling about it.

Somehow it just doesn't sit well with me.

And I usually try not to flame people.

But it just sounds kinda *cough*... I dunno.... *cough*.... ghey?

 

[PK]

yeah dude kissing girls, so gay and unsettling, what was I thinking?

But again maybe this isn't for everybody, but the point is it's a way to break a barrier to tell if she ultimately likes you. I tried it and it worked and got I it recommended from a friend, so it is backed by a little bit of field testing.

 

[Kourt]

slip hug= good idea except dont ask for the kiss!!! when u have both ur hands on her face just look into her eyes and kiss her. . . asking can be awkward and you should just take charge and go for it

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Kourt
slip hug= good idea except dont ask for the kiss!!! when u have both ur hands on her face just look into her eyes and kiss her. . . asking can be awkward and you should just take charge and go for it

 

[thejuice]

PK, im with you bro. I dont think that people are getting the beauty of this technique but i understand the principle behind the workings

Its called foot-in-the-door (or low ball) technique of persuasion. Ill have to look it up to verify but rest assured that its a technique! Its a term in psychology 101 (still remember from long ago) and is commonly used by sales people

The way it works is exactly like PK explained his technique to get a kiss. The first step is to ask for something minimal that is likely to be answered with a yes. Once youve gotten the little thing, immediately ask for the bigger thing. I can almost guarantee that the person will say yes to that too if it isnt too big a step from the first thing

The little question gets your foot in the door for more persuasion. The target was actually the kiss which is the second question. Dont misinterpret this and think you can get sex after a hug. It doesnt work that way. it works like steps, one can only follow another but if you skip one, you can fall all the way down

 

[thejuice]

One more thing, if the question isnt too comfortable for you, you can change that into a suggestion. Both are interchangeable but as long as commands arent used, you should be fine

Example:

"Well miss, give me a hug?"

to

"Well miss, here's a hug"

Its not too different because she can disagree with either one in the same way (Dont confuse with commands though). The bottom one will actually work better though because its telling the person whats going to happen before it does. Most people are submissive to stronger willed people so the allusion to the future with confidence is more likely to convince the girl that its ok for a hug

 

[PK]

Juice, I agree with what you said about the low ball technique, I studied it in social psyc too.

It's one of those things you can use to your advantage, in the way the mind works, and like juice said, persuasion can be a building block process.

Juice reminded me of another technique of persuasion I learned in social psyc called the door in the face technique. This is where you ask for something outrageous and when the request gets denied, you can ask for something that is minimal.

For Example:

Me: So baby doll, what do you say you and me run off and get hitched today!

Her: No probably not today

Me: Well how bout we just kiss each goodnight!

Her: (smiling) sure!

The first request being absurd is of course denied, however the second request is not really that absurd at all and is easliy fufilled.

I think actually this can be a new tip,

TECHNIQUES IN PERSUASION

Juice can write it and I'll just add commentary or notes, since I can't remember all the persuasion techniques we talked about in class

 

[DJ_Dork]

give her a hug before, and if you think she was digging you, just give her a light kiss on the chin/cheek. No more.