The simplest but best advice my mentor keeps giving me.

[alphawolfx]

Everytime I ask my mentor for advice, he says, "Do whatever you want to do."

Not as a way to blow me off, but as the real meaning behind it.

This has been applied to life, to women, to work, everything.

So everytime you want to ask on the board, "Guys what should I do?"

Simple - Do whatever you want to do.

 

[Mr. Mystery II]

Extremely good advice.

Mr. Mystery

 

[naes]

i dont agree with this.

Doing what you want to do will not always bring you the results that you want.

 

[alphawolfx]

How so?

 

[California Love]

You must do far more which you do not wish to do on the road to success.

 

[Virtú]

I agree.

Doing what you want will most likely keep you home watching TV or masturbating.

However, if you're the kind of guy who will do what it takes, then pat yourself on the back.

Being ruled by what psychologists call the "pleasure principle" is a sign of immaturity; real men stop at nothing.

 

[alphawolfx]

Depends on your frame, and your level.

During a workshop, my mentor kept pushing me into sets, wish I wanted to p.ussy out of.

Yet, I wanted to approach them. My desire was far stronger to WANT to seduce them.

When I say that statement, it's more of a "trust your instincts, not society programming" kind of thing.

And just because you're not comfortable with it, doesn't mean you don't want it. Hell, after approaching like 20 sets in that night (a few of which went well) I went home and puked out all of my anxiety. The next night I was laughing as I was running down the street after a 2-set.

Hope that clears up the true essence of that statement.

 

[Virtú]

Originally posted by alphawolfx
And just because you're not comfortable with it, doesn't mean you don't want it.

Now this is interesting.

What is this like?

How can you when this is the case?

How can you get yourself around it, because in the example you gave, you had your mentor doing it for you (external pressure).

 

[alphawolfx]

It's like the AFC's who eventually crack and start approaching women when they're full of anxiety. I would have gotten to it eventually, but he made me do it quicker.

 

[Virtú]

So it's different from situations where you don't know that you desire something, when the fact that you desire it, and the motivation to obtain it, is somehow concealed?

 

[alphawolfx]

Well, I knew I wanted to approach women, I was just afraid to do it.

The only reason I didn't want to was out of fear. Fear is hidden in most hesitations.

I'm sure that if I memorized thousands of routines, remembered to talk at a 45 degree angle, make sure I'm always alpha or other such advice, I would become god at picking up girls.

But I wouldn't be fulfilled doing it that way. I'm not a scientist, and this, to me isn't a scientist.

I like being myself, being natural, even if it means a little less sex. Soon I will start being even MORE like myself once I finish remoivng society's b.s. and get back to being a perfect little kid again.

There are two outcomes to doing exactly what you want to do. Acheiving great things, or failing greatly, but still having a blast doing it, and still have a life you can look back on and be proud.

 

[DJDamage]

I think this is a great advice. Do whatever you want to do!

If you want to go talk to this attractive lady that is hanging in a bar- just go talk to her.

If you want her phone number - just ask her,

If you want to kiss her on a date - kiss her

Simple isn't it.

Too many guys are not doing whatever they want to do.

They see attractive lady at the bar what do they do? try to establish eye contact, try to get more drinks *liguid Courage" try to think of something clever to say and end up just looking like a fool or doing nothing about it.

Same thing on a date --- "hmmm I am too shy to kiss her,, what happens if I blow it,,? I will never get a second date! I better kiss her next date...

Just do what you want to do and stop thinking too much. You need to put more faith in your instincts and actions then your thinking. If you are walking down the street and someone tries to punch you in the face, your response should be to either duck and run or block and fight. If you stand there and think how much his punch will hurt you instead of doing something about it, well then BOOM! its going to hurt and you just failed because you were thinking too long.

I think it was Emerson that once said, that the longer your mind is occuppied in thinking about something, the more your mind will reach a negative conclusion.

 

[Virtú]

I guess there's a gap between wanting and doing that I don't seem to be able to cross on my own (without negative external pressure).

 

[alphawolfx]

take a fidentia workshop. my mentor is located in san diego, he'll push you to get really good

www.fidentia.org (crappy looking site, but good workshop)

 

[Kerensky]

Your mentor should adopt this instead. Actually, I don't care about your mentor, so you and all the DJs should adopt this instead of "Do what you want to do":

Do what you need to do.
-Me

Self-explanatory. You will never get anything done with your mentor's advice (no offense) and it is subject to abuse very easily. "I want to do drugs" "I want to drive w/o a seatbelt."

Sometimes, the things you want are often the easiest, most carefree/lazy/habitual thing of doing things. However, what you NEED to do is always the right thing and you must do it.

 

[dastal]

how about

Do what you should do to improve yourself.

 

[dastal]

doing what you want to do makes sense, however. If you want to ask her out, do it.

It runs into hot water when you think " i want to kill alphawolfx"
bad idea.

 

[earthshyne]

I'm not familiar with this fellow or his workshop, but his "Do what you want to do" mantra is so vague that it's open to irrational interpretations.

I think he means, "Do what needs to be done in order to be where you want to be and be who you want to be."

F'rinstance, if I want to be a pilot, I have to learn about, say, weather patterns. But if I don't want to learn about weather patterns, and I follow this guy's advice, then I'll never become a pilot.

So, "do what you want to do" in this sense actually is more along the lines of "do the stuff you don't want to do in order to eventually do what you want to do."

But maybe I'm wrong. That's happened before. It's called "marriage."

 

[alphawolfx]

That's not his entire advice, just a piece of it.

lol, what you think suddenly he's going to come out with a $50 e-book that's only one page and says "do what you want to do, the end. no refunds."

 

[TDOT]

I love my mentor. He is a total complete jerk. He was very hard on me, but patient at the same time. But he knows what he is doing. He started working with me in june of last year. It has been an extremely difficult transformation for me from AFC to DJ under him. He tells me the same thing, "do whatever you want to do." In fact last month he told me flat out that he's done with me and that he won't help me anymore and he hasn't since. Really when I look back at it, there really isn't anything left for him to teach me. Its just up to me to start putting it to use now. I think it was the best thing he ever did. I immediately "grew up" after that. He taught me so much so fast, but it all comes back now. Alot of what he taught then, I am only understanding now.