The sexual difference between a fvck buddy and a gf/wife

[Who Dares Win]

Something that makes me think a lot is the fact that the only sure way to know that a girl finds you attractive at a core instinctual level is to have sex with her while not investing anything and she being fine with that.

I often had the sensation that many girls I have been had sex with me not necessarily cause they find me really attracttive or deeply desidered me but for the fact that they liked me as a persona and wanted to have a relationship with me while knowing that if I was not gonna be sexually satisfied I would have seek it somewhere else....same thing with girls that wanted a relationship with me and used sex and a currency to pay for it.

With fvck buddies on the other side I could tell it was totally genuine and deeply driven, they often had other guy for their safety needs or their fathers paying the bills if they were in their late teens or early 20s.

The performances were much more aggressive so the dirtiness of that.

Im not saying that gfs or wives are "faking it", I'm just saying that the only sure way to know she is attracted is when she is not getting anything beside it from you.

Same thing with the timing, no waiting shows higher attraction unless the girl is very young in my opinion.

I pity those men that never experienced raw animal attraction from women but had to "buy" a second class experience through commitment.

 

[SW15]

Im not saying that gfs or wives are "faking it", I'm just saying that the only sure way to know she is attracted is when she is not getting anything beside it from you.

Same thing with the timing, no waiting shows higher attraction unless the girl is very young in my opinion.

I pity those men that never experienced raw animal attraction from women but had to "buy" a second class experience through commitment.

Raw animal attraction is awesome.

"Buying" sex through commitment isn't a bad thing. There are also levels of commitment. Girlfriend level commitment is less than wife level commitment. There is some advantage to continuity with sex with the same person and feeling more secure in a relationship outside of sex can help the quality of sex.

 

[Bingo-Player]

In my experiences once a woman has been domesticated ( cuffed) her sexual prowess and confidence seems to diminish rapidly,

the mystery and anticipation for both parties quickly fades and you fall into that trap of having sex for the sake of it , the actual quality of the sex tends to be better but the raw arousal is far from it

With fvck buddies / one night stands / affairs ....... everyones more excited and aroused things get said and things get done without any fear of consequence

I mean how many men are seriously going to call their wives / gf's "a dirty little wh0re" when they are 5+ years into a relationship possibly with 2-3 children

The novelty's worn off you see this woman from every angle god sends

One of my mates was telling me he hasn't had or wanted to have a BJ from his GF in the last year

 

[Mike32ct]

I had a few real no strings experiences in the past. Now I’m at a stage where gf/relationship sex would be my only viable option.*

*Basically post-third date stuff where some kind of relationship is implied

 

[SW15]

In my experiences once a woman has been domesticated ( cuffed) her sexual prowess and confidence seems to diminish rapidly,

I mean how many men are seriously going to call their wives / gf's "a dirty little wh0re" when they are 5+ years into a relationship possibly with 2-3 children

The passage of time is the key variable here. After 2-5 years, the novelty wears off. I've often felt that the shelf life of goodness for most relationship is about 5 years. If a relationship goes beyond 5 years, that's when the less positive outcomes start.

One of my mates was telling me he hasn't had or wanted to have a BJ from his GF in the last year

Holy smokes, that is bad. There's no point to a relationship if that happens.

 

[2Rocky]

The biggest difference seems to be effort and anticipation. In an LTR you know what is going to elicit a response, while you don't in a ONS. that novelty is replaced with the emotional connection of LTR sex. Dialing up the emotional connection is what keeps the relationship sex feeling fulfilling. Ususally that is from something you did together outside the bedroom. An achievement, a benchmark you both did together. Even in a relationship the novelty can still be found with new places, new positions, new playtime scenarios, etc.

Don't underestimate the sexual power of being PROUD of your mate...maybe they looked absolutely STUNNING in that little black dress at the party last night....it is the ultimate aphrodisiac...

 

[Stuffnu]

In my experiences once a woman has been domesticated ( cuffed) her sexual prowess and confidence seems to diminish rapidly,

Sadly this also applies to men.
Complacency and stagnation is the killer of all relationships. That‘s why role playing, experimentation, toys, etc. needs to be applied here and there to change things up for both parties

F Buddies or relationships in the honeymoon stages is always amped up because it’s new. However one usually has a much shorter shelf life than the other.

On the other hand, many utilize both as a friend suggests - ahem.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Something that makes me think a lot is the fact that the only sure way to know that a girl finds you attractive at a core instinctual level is to have sex with her while not investing anything and she being fine with that.

I pity those men that never experienced raw animal attraction from women but had to "buy" a second class experience through commitment.

These two things. For those familiar with Rollo's work, what we as men should really strive for is a deep and genuine desire from women. If you remove all the layers, if you find deep, non-negotiated, genuine desire, you find a sense of true connection.

So yes, remove all the investment or mind games or what have you, when a desire is non-negotiated is a higher level of intergender dynamic.

Lastly, I wouldn't say I pity men that haven't experienced this. But I do agree that once you experience this type of desire from a woman, it is gold. You can sense her hunger, desire, craving, etc, etc for you as a man. It is quite a great moment.


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