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Don Juan
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http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry/4
The essay is 5 pages, and that's a major newspaper magazine.
The essay is interesting because it openly encourages women to do what they inevitably end up doing anyway when they find themselves to be single and no longer young. Settling might be natural female behavior but I don't think it's a discussed and openly encouraged tactic.
All the reactions I've read so far to this article--from women--has been negative. The men seem to be withholding judgement.
One thing I also take from the essay is the realization that a good marriage doesn't necessarily need that 'spark' or 'sexual tension' or whatever it is that couples have when they're new to each other. Romance is not necessary to a marriage/raising children. It would be nice, but it isn't necessary. A man will get used to a chick no matter how pretty she is, and her looks will fade with time anyway. Biology may not have handicapped men as much as it has women, but I believe it's men's responsibility to their family--and by extension to society and civilization--to remain faithful to a single woman once the vow of marriage is taken and children are in the picture. This price that men pay is analogous to the one that nature makes women pay.
The essay is 5 pages, and that's a major newspaper magazine.
The essay is interesting because it openly encourages women to do what they inevitably end up doing anyway when they find themselves to be single and no longer young. Settling might be natural female behavior but I don't think it's a discussed and openly encouraged tactic.
All the reactions I've read so far to this article--from women--has been negative. The men seem to be withholding judgement.
One thing I also take from the essay is the realization that a good marriage doesn't necessarily need that 'spark' or 'sexual tension' or whatever it is that couples have when they're new to each other. Romance is not necessary to a marriage/raising children. It would be nice, but it isn't necessary. A man will get used to a chick no matter how pretty she is, and her looks will fade with time anyway. Biology may not have handicapped men as much as it has women, but I believe it's men's responsibility to their family--and by extension to society and civilization--to remain faithful to a single woman once the vow of marriage is taken and children are in the picture. This price that men pay is analogous to the one that nature makes women pay.
