The Scarcity Dilemma

[guru1000]

Women are not the goal to a Man of Abundance. His life is enriched with purpose and ambition, thus women are simply the by-product. A thought of attaining women could never be of significance because should he ever want a woman; he snaps his fingers and a woman will appear.

Does this sound like your reality?

Reality is a Manifestation of your thought process.

Read that again.

The Rich get Richer and the Poor get Poorer. This old cliché has merit. The Rich share an Abundant mindset while the Poor share Scarcity thinking. Whether you choose to call it the Law of Attraction or Fearless Pursuit does not change the fact that one will not excel with a mindset of Scarcity.

If one is Scarce, his thoughts will follow. This thought process manifests itself into more scarcity. It is a vicious cycle with a seemingly hopeless exit.

The 80/20 rule applies universally. Twenty percent of Men will acquire Eighty percent of tangible assets, and vice-versa. The twenty percent with a 4:1 ratio has a mindset that will manifest future abundance. Assets being whatever you choose to be an asset (Wealth, women or status).

The first step to Recovery is being AWARE of your own Scarcity. Being Accountable for your Scarcity is necessary to break the old routine and experience some good old Cognitive Dissonance.

Now what are you going to do about it?


Are you constantly chasing 10’s with little results?

How could you possibly acquire a 10 if you are Scarce?

Are you that good of an actor, hence pretending to be Abundant will FOOL these Pedestaled women?

Do you recognize in your scarcity, all your interactions with a 10 are from a position of weakness and pedestalizing?

What can your Scarce Resources bring to the table that she cannot see through?


Injecting Interest (Negs, DHV) will not work as the underlying problem still remains.

The only solution is to not only think Abundant, but Be Abundant. To Think without Being is not Genuine. Although one must first think, to become.

So how does one become Abundant if he is Scarce?

Stop INITIALLY shooting for Perceived 10’s.

What are you willing to Invest and Sacrifice to rid yourself of Scarcity? Can you date perceived lower or equal? Can you establish a Harem of 6’s and 7’s? What about 4 or 5’s?

Guru’s Formula for the Scarce

Date Y X’s, to get an X+Y

Date two 6’s, to get an 8.
Date three 6’s to get a 9.

This formula is only for the Scarce. An Abundant Mind does not see a difference between a 6 or 10. They are all equal until proven worthy. The purpose behind this formula is to teach Pedestalizing is a by-product of Scarcity. Once one reaches a state of Abundance, he realizes women are all equally valued.

The point of dating is to eliminate your defeatist attitude. How can you Defeat a defeatist attitude without results?

Bring Abundance into your life.

Whether this is attained through wealth, friends or women; you NEED to break the cycle of Scarcity and welcome Abundance. When you begin a LIFE filled with abundance, your thoughts, decisions, actions and gut are all in congruence leading to greater Abundant Resources.

When you can look at a 10 as you would a 6, and see no difference, you have reached the ideal state of Being. In this state, there is no Prize. All women remain equal until proven worthy of exclusivity.

This is the State of Abundance.


Edit:

One should not settle down until he has reached this state of Abundance. This allows him to CHOOSE the most qualified compatible candidate rather than to settle for his scarce incompatible resource.

My suggested advice is to lead one away from Scarcity.

Good luck.

 

[wjh]

awesome post guru!

 

[ketostix]

I got to disagree with you about all this abundance vs. scarcity belief system. You can find a lot of people who have an almost delusionally high level belief in abundance but have nothing to show for it. And you have people who belief in the concept of scarcity and have plenty to show for it. I'm not saying being positive and driven isn't good or necesary. But it comes down to skill and even some luck.

 

[slaog]

Good post Guru

I got to disagree with you about all this abundance vs. scarcity belief system. You can find a lot of people who have an almost delusionally high level belief in abundance but have nothing to show for it. And you have people who belief in the concept of scarcity and have plenty to show for it. I'm not saying being positive and driven isn't good or necesary. But it comes down to skill and even some luck.

Can you give a few examples? Are you sure they truly believe there is abundance there or do they just say that?

 

[ketostix]

Keto you are right but the wrongness weighs more than your right here. This is not to flame or anything but just to show you something my John Mccain voting friend....You said:

Whatever that's suppose to mean.

"You can find a lot of people who have an almost delusionally high level belief in abundance but have nothing to show for it. And you have people who belief in the concept of scarcity and have plenty to show for it. But it comes down to skill and even some luck."

If you BELIEVE in something, you actively pursue it. You learn, you gain experiences, you keep going UNTIL you find out how to work it to a point where you become successful in it. That's the definition of BELIEVING in something.

Different people have different personalities. Some people are all rowdy with their beliefs (positive), some people are low key and more critical with what they believe (could be considered negative), but overall the true measurement of belief is the STICK TO IT-NESS of the person.

You are mixing up perserverance and effectiveness. Perserverence is only profitable when the actions are effective. You like to word things in idealized terms that can't really be disagreed with but there's no practicality or actionablity in what you're saying really.

 

[Luthor Rex]

I got to disagree with you about all this abundance vs. scarcity belief system. You can find a lot of people who have an almost delusionally high level belief in abundance but have nothing to show for it. And you have people who belief in the concept of scarcity and have plenty to show for it. I'm not saying being positive and driven isn't good or necesary. But it comes down to skill and even some luck.

I think what you are trying to get at is something the OP's post didn't do: separate facts from feelings. A person may know the facts of how to build wealth, and indeed be or become rich: but that doesn't mean they can't also be depressed.

I do accounting at a firm where I see very well off and very poor people. If you judged by attitude alone you should think the poor were actually the rich ones. Being wealthy takes knowledge and the discipline to act on that knowledge, feeling good is not required.

Dumb people tend to have high self-esteems because they don't realize how ignorant they are. The wise tend to have mid to lower self-esteem because they realize how much about the world they don't know. Socrates was a bit over-dramatic but still nearer the truth when he said: "all I know is that I know nothing".

Confidence is way too overrated. You can have all the self-confidence in the world, but if you jump out of an airplane without knowing how to operate a parachute you're probably gonna go *splat* at the bottom.

At my accounting job I could have a tear in my eye and a gun pointed at my own head, but damn if I can't get a sexy balance sheet done!

 

[ketostix]

Can you give a few examples? Are you sure they truly believe there is abundance there or do they just say that?

I not going to debate whether someone believes a concept or notis based solely on their success. There's plenty of examples of people who truely believe in things independent of their outcomes. I didn't want to nitpick Guru's post but he basically said there's no difference between a 6 or a 10. I find this ridiculous. Guru actually believe's in scarcity. He said only 25% will have abundance. He attributes being in that 25% to just believing your going to live adbundantly. Beliefs are just a small part of making something a reality. A broke nerd can look at a "10" as no different than a 6 all he wants but it's just going to make him seem more weird to everyone else. There are a lot more factors at play.

Let's be practical here. Let's tell people to get their finances in order, hit the gym etc. And there's nothing wrong with faking it until you make it. Most people are fake and phony anyway, especially women, and they don't really want you to be real anyway.

 

[ketostix]

I think what you are trying to get at is something the OP's post didn't do: separate facts from feelings. A person may know the facts of how to build wealth, and indeed be or become rich: but that doesn't mean they can't also be depressed.

I do accounting at a firm where I see very well off and very poor people. If you judged by attitude alone you should think the poor were actually the rich ones. Being wealthy takes knowledge and the discipline to act on that knowledge, feeling good is not required.

Dumb people tend to have high self-esteems because they don't realize how ignorant they are. The wise tend to have mid to lower self-esteem because they realize how much about the world they don't know. Socrates was a bit over-dramatic but still nearer the truth when he said: "all I know is that I know nothing".

Confidence is way too overrated. You can have all the self-confidence in the world, but if you jump out of an airplane without knowing how to operate a parachute you're probably gonna go *splat* at the bottom.

At my accounting job I could have a tear in my eye and a gun pointed at my own head, but damn if I can't get a sexy balance sheet done!

Well said.

 

[Truebrit]

Women are not the goal to a Man of Abundance. His life is enriched with purpose and ambition, thus women are simply the by-product. A thought of attaining women could never be of significance because should he ever want a woman; he snaps his fingers and a woman will appear.

Does this sound like your reality?

Reality is a Manifestation of your thought process.

Read that again.

The Rich get Richer and the Poor get Poorer. This old cliché has merit. The Rich share an Abundant mindset while the Poor share Scarcity thinking. Whether you choose to call it the Law of Attraction or Fearless Pursuit does not change the fact that one will not excel with a mindset of Scarcity.

If one is Scarce, his thoughts will follow. This thought process manifests itself into more scarcity. It is a vicious cycle with a seemingly hopeless exit.

The 80/20 rule applies universally. Twenty percent of Men will acquire Eighty percent of tangible assets, and vice-versa. The twenty percent with a 4:1 ratio has a mindset that will manifest future abundance. Assets being whatever you choose to be an asset (Wealth, women or status).

The first step to Recovery is being AWARE of your own Scarcity. Being Accountable for your Scarcity is necessary to break the old routine and experience some good old Cognitive Dissonance.

Now what are you going to do about it?


Are you constantly chasing 10’s with little results?

How could you possibly acquire a 10 if you are Scarce?

Are you that good of an actor, hence pretending to be Abundant will FOOL these Pedestaled women?

Do you recognize in your scarcity, all your interactions with a 10 are from a position of weakness and pedestalizing?

What can your Scarce Resources bring to the table that she cannot see through?


Injecting Interest (Negs, DHV) will not work as the underlying problem still remains.

The only solution is to not only think Abundant, but Be Abundant. To Think without Being is not Genuine. Although one must first think, to become.

So how does one become Abundant if he is Scarce?

Stop INITIALLY shooting for Perceived 10’s.

What are you willing to Invest and Sacrifice to rid yourself of Scarcity? Can you date perceived lower or equal? Can you establish a Harem of 6’s and 7’s? What about 4 or 5’s?

Guru’s Formula for the Scarce

Date Y X’s, to get an X+Y

Date two 6’s, to get an 8.
Date three 6’s to get a 9.

This formula is only for the Scarce. An Abundant Mind does not see a difference between a 6 or 10. They are all equal until proven worthy. The purpose behind this formula is to teach Pedestalizing is a by-product of Scarcity. Once one reaches a state of Abundance, he realizes women are all equally valued.

The point of dating is to eliminate your defeatist attitude. How can you Defeat a defeatist attitude without results?

Bring Abundance into your life.

Whether this is attained through wealth, friends or women; you NEED to break the cycle of Scarcity and welcome Abundance. When you begin a LIFE filled with abundance, your thoughts, decisions, actions and gut are all in congruence leading to greater Abundant Resources.

When you can look at a 10 as you would a 6, and see no difference, you have reached the ideal state of Being. In this state, there is no Prize. All women remain equal until proven worthy of exclusivity.

This is the State of Abundance.


Edit:

One should not settle down until he has reached this state of Abundance. This allows him to CHOOSE the most qualified compatible candidate rather than to settle for his scarce incompatible resource.

My suggested advice is to lead one away from Scarcity.

Good luck.

Guru = Legend

Great post.

 

[potato]

...he basically said there's no difference between a 6 or a 10. I find this ridiculous.

Look at it this way. It is in men's nature to pursue the women he finds most attractive, physically. This really isn't a good criteria for selecting a compatible mate. By not letting a woman's beauty overly influence you it makes it easier for you to see her for how she really is and much easier to find and select a more compatible mate.

 

[ketostix]

Look at it this way. It is in men's nature to pursue the women he finds most attractive, physically. This really isn't a good criteria for selecting a compatible mate. By not letting a woman's beauty overly influence you it makes it easier for you to see her for how she really is and much easier to find and select a more compatible mate.

Oh the beauty is superficial argument. Just about every woman perpetuates this myth. I don't believe beauty is shallow at all. I think it's a sign of good health and fitness.

 

[Scaramouche]

Guru You have it right,but these mindsets seem moulded and fired in your personality by the time you are about seven...I even keep an open mind as to whether there is something in your genes that predisposed you to these characteristics...

 

[Scaramouche]

Ketostix,have you ever thought?beauty is skin deep,Ugly goes right to the bone.......

 

[Latinoman]

In my eyes...anything above a 6 or 7 (physical looks) is the same. I really mean that.

In fact, "hotness" is not what attracts me. Sexiness is what really attracts me.

The difference? Sexiness combines physical with how she carries herself.

 

[ketostix]

Ketostix,have you ever thought?beauty is skin deep,Ugly goes right to the bone.......

Yes, exactly.

 

[slaog]

I think there are 2 camps.
1- seeing is believing
2- believing is seeing

I'm in the believing is seeing camp now. Thoughts become things as they say. In fact ironically now I'm starting to see the results of changing you're thoughts from bad to good.

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On a seperate note I have a touch of oneitis again this week. Every month or 2 it happens and thinking about it this morning I thought to myself it's maddness really. If I am having oneitis all the time thinking this girl is the one then if there was only one I wouldn't be constantly having oneitis..

I have a scarcity mindset at the moment. When I meet somebody it means I'm desperate to hang on to her and this leads to her being put on a pedestal.

Thinking about it there are 2 roads I can go down to change it. See all women in a negative way or all women in a positive way. A DJ see's the goodness in all women and therefore cannot have a scarcity mindset and this is the path I want to take.

I have noticed that I look for the worst in women but from now on I'm going to look for the best and it doesn't mean I'm lowering my standards because I still have things I want it's just that the things I don't want I won't view so negatively.

 

[jophil28]

I think there are 2 camps.
1- seeing is believing
2- believing is seeing

I'm in the believing is seeing camp now. Thoughts become things as they say. In fact ironically now I'm starting to see the results of changing you're thoughts from bad to good.

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On a seperate note I have a touch of oneitis again this week. Every month or 2 it happens and thinking about it this morning I thought to myself it's maddness really. If I am having oneitis all the time thinking this girl is the one then if there was only one I wouldn't be constantly having oneitis..

I have a scarcity mindset at the moment. When I meet somebody it means I'm desperate to hang on to her and this leads to her being put on a pedestal.

Thinking about it there are 2 roads I can go down to change it. See all women in a negative way or all women in a positive way. A DJ see's the goodness in all women and therefore cannot have a scarcity mindset and this is the path I want to take.

I have noticed that I look for the worst in women but from now on I'm going to look for the best and it doesn't mean I'm lowering my standards because I still have things I want it's just that the things I don't want I won't view so negatively.

Oh man- where do I start ?

Lets start here-
Seeing is believing OR
Believing is seeing ?

The answer is BOTH are true some of the time BUT neither is true ALL of the time.. It all depends on the circumstances and the setting.

Looking for the worst or the best in women ? Either way is foolish . Look for the reality of how she actually IS and whether she will be an asset to your life or a burden.. This takes time and patience and alertness.

YOu need a lot of practise,my man..

 

[slaog]

Oh man- where do I start ?

Lets start here-
Seeing is believing OR
Believing is seeing ?

The answer is BOTH are true some of the time BUT neither is true ALL of the time.. It all depends on the circumstances and the setting.

I'm talking about a particular mindset. It's better to have a beleiving is seeing minset than seeing is believing mindset. It's basically the law of attraction principles.

Looking for the worst or the best in women ? Either way is foolish . Look for the reality of how she actually IS and whether she will be an asset to your life or a burden.. This takes time and patience and alertness.

YOu need a lot of practise,my man..

Don't DJ's look for the good in all women??

I'm saying it's best to look at their positive side but I also have standards for the woman I want. At the moment my problem is seeing most women as not good enough and then 1 comes along and if I like her she's the only one there so I get oneitis.

 

[guru1000]

I think there are 2 camps.
1- seeing is believing
2- believing is seeing

To Achieve you must Believe. This is universal.

Whether you choose to see before you believe or believe first doesnt change the fact that belief is a prerequisite to Results.

I let the SEEer's see me Believe as I achieve.

On a seperate note I have a touch of oneitis again this week. Every month or 2 it happens and thinking about it this morning I thought to myself it's maddness really. If I am having oneitis all the time thinking this girl is the one then if there was only one I wouldn't be constantly having oneitis..

I have a scarcity mindset at the moment. When I meet somebody it means I'm desperate to hang on to her and this leads to her being put on a pedestal.

You are correct in saying IF every girl you meet becomes a oneitus, you do carry a scarcity mindset.

The point of this thread is when one dates ENOUGH women and has constant abundance, he will only fall into oneitus for the one who is established Worthy and leagues ahead of his harem.

In other words, if one was to drop the pleasure of his Abundant Lifestyle and Select one, you better believe she is One that has proven very worthy for elimination of his Many. This is the correct context for oneitus.

If you find yourself constantly falling in love with every girl you meet, the fact remains you have not dated enough

Thinking about it there are 2 roads I can go down to change it. See all women in a negative way or all women in a positive way. A DJ see's the goodness in all women and therefore cannot have a scarcity mindset and this is the path I want to take.

Neither. You see all woman as EQUAL despite their looks or quality. What you are looking for is Compatibility. The one who proves Consistently, hand over first, that she is Exclusive Worthy is the one you select.

 

[mrRuckus]

In my eyes...anything above a 6 or 7 (physical looks) is the same. I really mean that.

It's really diminishing returns. I don't know if i'd go as low as a 6 like you said, but after a certain amount of attractiveness, what's the point other than to impress your friends? If she turns you on and you want to hit it all the time and generally like to look at her, what do even better looks in a girl really add? Not much. Hell, i think the extra looks might detract from things because she's more likely to be skating through life from her looks and other psych things...

Say you're a man who really likes large breasts. Is the fact that she's a C cup instead of the D cup you'd prefer really something you think about and cause you to not appreciate her Cs?