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Master Don Juan
The MM Forum is great in a way that there are some really deep thinkers here, dwelving into the deep abyss of their minds to bring you something real to think about and to ponder. Unfortunately, when this deep focus is turned to the subject of women, I think it has the tendency to backfire on progress and potential with women.
Discussions on why women flake so much and the such are all fine and dandy, but then you get deeper and deeper into trying to figure things out, and the threads take a turn for the worse. Entire genders are generalized too simply (and often at the benefit of the gender here), and behaviors are scutinized to the point where there is a good chance you will never understand why a SPECIFIC woman is acting a certain way. To that effect, I will say that 90% of the time something doesn't go your way with a woman, it had nothing to do with you. And shouldn't even be thought about, much less scrutinized to a bloody pulp.
When you try and break down something as unexplainable as women to a SCIENCE, and bring in theories and number breakdowns, you are essentially trying to predict irrational behavior (think of how silly that sounds), so that you can act accordingly. The problem with this, is that your actions are now based on expecting something irrational, without really even knowing the specifics of the situation.
Next thing you know, you have all kinds of excuses for your own bad behaviors, that could even be called irrational themselves. And worse than bad and irrational behavior, is a bad outlook which is where I see a lot of this "too much thinking" heading.
I think it is much more productive to figure out who you are as men, and how to act when anyone treats you in a manner that isn't respectful, IN GENERAL and in life, than sitting around trying to figure out if all women are indeed evil creatures plotting your demise, and what to do about dem evil b!tches.
This would be called...
Putting things in perspective.
If a buddy or new acquaintance isn't returning your calls or flakes a couple of times on plans, what do you do? You stop trying to initiate things, usually. You don't sit around and wonder if he is sh!t testing you, or with another acquaintance, or if there is something wrong with you. You write it off as either he has a lot going on right now, or he is just a shmuck. And you don't waste your life energy on it.
Why should it be any different with women?
Stop looking so deep into it...
Stop looking FOR it.
It is common wisdom that love (ahem excuse me) I mean a successful connection, is more likely to find you when you are not looking for it. This is because if you aren't spending so much time and energy looking into women, you are probably spending it on yourself. And becoming a more interesting, happy, and well rounded individual... you know, the type of guy women flock to.
And the better you know yourself, the more confident you are in making decisions regarding the people around you. It won't matter if the person flaking on you is named Tim or Tina, because they should be treated the same way. You won't have to spend negative energy on figuring out the science behind the "AW" species, or the phenomenon of "sh!t tests". You could just go off of pure common sense and human decency.
In a nutshell, the more you try to figure out women in general, the less you will understand them, and you could lose yourself.
The more time you waste on trying to understand bad behavior, the more negative your outlook will become, and the less success you will have.
This forum is great for a general guideline on what to do with women and their sometimes incomprehensible ways, however the deeper you go into it, the less you are going to truly understand what is right on the surface.
You are essentially looking for something, which is why you aren't finding it. And then some of you are even taking it to the extreme, and concluding it just must not exist.
One way you know you need a break from thinking about women, is when you realize you think nothing good about them. At this point, disengage! Spend time and energy on what makes you happy... and hopefully one of those things is yourself! You aren't doing yourself or anyone else any favors by sitting around stewing in negative energy. If women have you feeling so negative, forget them for awhile and focus on something positive!
This is a reminder to keep it simple.
Discussions on why women flake so much and the such are all fine and dandy, but then you get deeper and deeper into trying to figure things out, and the threads take a turn for the worse. Entire genders are generalized too simply (and often at the benefit of the gender here), and behaviors are scutinized to the point where there is a good chance you will never understand why a SPECIFIC woman is acting a certain way. To that effect, I will say that 90% of the time something doesn't go your way with a woman, it had nothing to do with you. And shouldn't even be thought about, much less scrutinized to a bloody pulp.
When you try and break down something as unexplainable as women to a SCIENCE, and bring in theories and number breakdowns, you are essentially trying to predict irrational behavior (think of how silly that sounds), so that you can act accordingly. The problem with this, is that your actions are now based on expecting something irrational, without really even knowing the specifics of the situation.
Next thing you know, you have all kinds of excuses for your own bad behaviors, that could even be called irrational themselves. And worse than bad and irrational behavior, is a bad outlook which is where I see a lot of this "too much thinking" heading.
I think it is much more productive to figure out who you are as men, and how to act when anyone treats you in a manner that isn't respectful, IN GENERAL and in life, than sitting around trying to figure out if all women are indeed evil creatures plotting your demise, and what to do about dem evil b!tches.
This would be called...
Putting things in perspective.
If a buddy or new acquaintance isn't returning your calls or flakes a couple of times on plans, what do you do? You stop trying to initiate things, usually. You don't sit around and wonder if he is sh!t testing you, or with another acquaintance, or if there is something wrong with you. You write it off as either he has a lot going on right now, or he is just a shmuck. And you don't waste your life energy on it.
Why should it be any different with women?
Stop looking so deep into it...
Stop looking FOR it.
It is common wisdom that love (ahem excuse me) I mean a successful connection, is more likely to find you when you are not looking for it. This is because if you aren't spending so much time and energy looking into women, you are probably spending it on yourself. And becoming a more interesting, happy, and well rounded individual... you know, the type of guy women flock to.
And the better you know yourself, the more confident you are in making decisions regarding the people around you. It won't matter if the person flaking on you is named Tim or Tina, because they should be treated the same way. You won't have to spend negative energy on figuring out the science behind the "AW" species, or the phenomenon of "sh!t tests". You could just go off of pure common sense and human decency.
In a nutshell, the more you try to figure out women in general, the less you will understand them, and you could lose yourself.
The more time you waste on trying to understand bad behavior, the more negative your outlook will become, and the less success you will have.
This forum is great for a general guideline on what to do with women and their sometimes incomprehensible ways, however the deeper you go into it, the less you are going to truly understand what is right on the surface.
You are essentially looking for something, which is why you aren't finding it. And then some of you are even taking it to the extreme, and concluding it just must not exist.
One way you know you need a break from thinking about women, is when you realize you think nothing good about them. At this point, disengage! Spend time and energy on what makes you happy... and hopefully one of those things is yourself! You aren't doing yourself or anyone else any favors by sitting around stewing in negative energy. If women have you feeling so negative, forget them for awhile and focus on something positive!
This is a reminder to keep it simple.
