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Don Juan
First, a thought-
Intelligence is knowing when to hesitate, and confidence is knowing when not to hesitate.
Still though, if you never hesitate, if you never stop to say 'wait, maybe this girl doesn't like me' you are an idiot. And girls will pick up that you are that type of guy eventually too. A brute, a fool, and an ******* . And depending on where you live and what type of 'scene' you manage it will probably get around.
Psychologically, we need to feel like we are a member of a close-knit, stable, community if we are going to find happiness in life.
We can pick up on girls whom we really don't know or know of all we want, but the fact of the matter is that the majority of a normal functional social life, will, and ought, revolve around a network of good-old-boys/girls whom we have known for a while.
This is stability, this is health. To function differently than this is to be sad!
If you don't even have this network, your patholigcal and you'll probably meet pathological girls.
But this network... you see... news travels fast in it. Information gets around. The type of person you are is well known. People know me. And I know people. There aren't many people 'like me' and who are 'on my scene'.
I don't want to hunt outside of this group... when I do... it's hunting for sport.
I see that a lot of the people on this site have been, long ago, blacklisted from their good ol' boys groups. They really don't play in the circle anymore. And that's unfortunate because it is difficult to find happiness and stability that way.
You all talk about 'not dipping the pen in the company ink' and not dating girls your friends have gone out with (why not? If your friendship can't make it through a simple tension like that it isn't very stable) and nonsense like that, when the reality is that THIS IS HOW THE REAL WORLD WORKS. This is how people really meet each other... it's through friends. It isn't this 'cold call' 'dry approach' aspect which we are all so big on. And if you get to into this 'I'm excessively confident' personality, and if you get to into this 'Dry Approach'... 'How YOU doin!!' thing, the good ol' girls are gonna turn you away.
And let me tell you what, the good ol' girls are the type you want. Why? Because you grew up around them. I don't mean near them, I mean, AROUND THEM. Like, Geometrically, around them. You are each other.
In Spanish a common saying is 'Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are.'
And there are two ways to take that but it is meant to mean 'You ARE your friends. You ARE the people you know.'
To be engaging in the behaviors we are suggesting you engage in is really... well... driving away from the way the game is really supposed to be played, and resulting in untold sorrows.
Just my opinion. And the last few girls I picked up on, simply told me 'Sure, call me sometime, you have my number. I wrote it in your yearbook in 6th grade, remember?' Oh, nostalgia!
It's a lot more fun this way, and if you have to eventually hunt outside the social circle, if the social circle dies, so be it. But don't force it to happen with short term friendships and ultra-short relationships.
Intelligence is knowing when to hesitate, and confidence is knowing when not to hesitate.
Still though, if you never hesitate, if you never stop to say 'wait, maybe this girl doesn't like me' you are an idiot. And girls will pick up that you are that type of guy eventually too. A brute, a fool, and an ******* . And depending on where you live and what type of 'scene' you manage it will probably get around.
Psychologically, we need to feel like we are a member of a close-knit, stable, community if we are going to find happiness in life.
We can pick up on girls whom we really don't know or know of all we want, but the fact of the matter is that the majority of a normal functional social life, will, and ought, revolve around a network of good-old-boys/girls whom we have known for a while.
This is stability, this is health. To function differently than this is to be sad!
If you don't even have this network, your patholigcal and you'll probably meet pathological girls.
But this network... you see... news travels fast in it. Information gets around. The type of person you are is well known. People know me. And I know people. There aren't many people 'like me' and who are 'on my scene'.
I don't want to hunt outside of this group... when I do... it's hunting for sport.
I see that a lot of the people on this site have been, long ago, blacklisted from their good ol' boys groups. They really don't play in the circle anymore. And that's unfortunate because it is difficult to find happiness and stability that way.
You all talk about 'not dipping the pen in the company ink' and not dating girls your friends have gone out with (why not? If your friendship can't make it through a simple tension like that it isn't very stable) and nonsense like that, when the reality is that THIS IS HOW THE REAL WORLD WORKS. This is how people really meet each other... it's through friends. It isn't this 'cold call' 'dry approach' aspect which we are all so big on. And if you get to into this 'I'm excessively confident' personality, and if you get to into this 'Dry Approach'... 'How YOU doin!!' thing, the good ol' girls are gonna turn you away.
And let me tell you what, the good ol' girls are the type you want. Why? Because you grew up around them. I don't mean near them, I mean, AROUND THEM. Like, Geometrically, around them. You are each other.
In Spanish a common saying is 'Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are.'
And there are two ways to take that but it is meant to mean 'You ARE your friends. You ARE the people you know.'
To be engaging in the behaviors we are suggesting you engage in is really... well... driving away from the way the game is really supposed to be played, and resulting in untold sorrows.
Just my opinion. And the last few girls I picked up on, simply told me 'Sure, call me sometime, you have my number. I wrote it in your yearbook in 6th grade, remember?' Oh, nostalgia!
It's a lot more fun this way, and if you have to eventually hunt outside the social circle, if the social circle dies, so be it. But don't force it to happen with short term friendships and ultra-short relationships.
