I have for quite awhile wanted to discuss this theory and have but only now do I choose to let it run wild on sosuave.
The defining criteria in a person for me is security. We can turn around it all we want but at the core it revolves around this one thing. People who are insecure are unnattractive. Those same people are the ones at the bottom of the 'food' chain. I am a secure person. Over secure some would say, just as much as you could say over confident or over arrogant etc. They are all synonyms. They all dance around the one same thing: security. As a secure person, and a non-believer in 'opposites attract', I wish to side myself with other secure people. And that is the basis of my system.
I meet people and within a few minutes I will have a full accurate analysis of the person. At that point in time, I pass judgement on the worthiness of that person and take appropriate action. I choose the people I hang out with. I choose everybody around me. I don't believe in having a trillion 'friends', I believe in having a few quality people around me. I do not hang out with people who are unworthy. There are many many people in the world who do not like me. Many who say I'm a jerk or who say I'm a jackass. This is not entirely true. People do not actually hate me because of my person. People dislike me because of what I do to them. I bring out the worst in people. I show them... or force them to see how truly weak they are. I try to make the world a better place.
Sosuave teaches you how to become a secure people or atleast puts you on the path to becoming a secure person. You came here seeking a better life and that proves to the world that your system is secure in a sense that when things are going wrong, it seeks to correct itself. People who do not correct themselves, are unworthy. It is that damn simple. People who don't like something about themselves but don't change it because (OMG OMG OMG) 'it's who they are' are unworthy. Not unworthy of me in particular... but unworthy of being in the presence of a person like myself. We were all helped to become more secure people and I do my part by helping others find ways to become secure, but when time and time again I try and the person fails to seek change, that person, at that particular fragment of time, is unworthy.
This is all very arrogant at the time being but in reality it is not. However, this is a precise system so unless you catch every detail, you can go into wild misunderstandings as have all the people I discussed this with. The problem as a whole is that you can not change someone unless they want to change themselves. Only they have the power to fundamentally change themselves. Many have argued that what I, or anyone else, deems is the 'right way' may not be the right way for everyone. At some level, that is true. However, what I deem right for everybody is what we find every single person on this planet looking for: happiness. If every person on this planet was happy, the world would be a much better place. Not because there would be no wars or crimes but because the atmosphere around us will be completly different. And that is where the Don Juan comes in.
The DJ is a person who has bettered themselves and has reached his/her desires to become the creature they most deeply wanted to be. These people are truly happy. The atmosphere around us is a great one. That is why alpha males are alpha males and DJ are DJ. It is because we control the enviornment. The aforementioned people will light up the party. They will be the center of attention because they are generating so much good that is affecting so many others. A secure system runs on it's own. An insecure system needs help.
A Secure system is a role model system. Why? because it works. Don Juan mindset is a system. It is a continually evolving system that adapts and changes according to each individual that uses that system. In the end, it is still fundamentally the same system with simple expansions depending on the person.
Back to my system; my belief is that evolution is always and constantly taking place in everything and everyone. However, I also believe that there are major categories or 'chapters' in the process of evolution. Puberty for example is a big category filled with many chapters or levels. My system, at the core, seeks out to find those that are on the same chapter as I am. People who are secure. After all, if I'm on chapter 12 and you're on chapter 4, we can't exactly communicate or interact about chapter 9 as well (or at all) as I could with another person at chapter 10 or above. That is why I am happy. That is why my relationships with people (friends,girlfriends,family etc) work. It is because I am able to identify on what 'page' other people are on. And that is how relationships work.
If you're girlfriend seeks a long term/marriage relationship and you're in it just for some summer fun, somewhere down the line, it's going to crash. You aren't on the same page.
My system works for me. It is a rigid system. I do not even tolerate people under a certain level. That is why I dislike many people. They are not 'inferior' for being on another level, we are simply incapable have having a healthy relationship which would benefit my happiness. I seek an elite. People who already at my age have their shyt together and it works out wonderfully. I don't have any drama with my lady friends about 'she's more popular than I am' or crap like that and my friends aren't AFCs. They like to try hard to help people who are 'below' them (not inferior, just on a lower level) but I understand that you can not help someone that doesn't want to be helped.
My system shapes my world. It makes my world the most near perfect world for me. I do not dream of changing the 'real' world. This planet has turned too many times without me for me to make a difference now. Society has 'worked' for too long to fundamentally change it without destroying it.
As A DJ, I make a world of difference in my world and the worlds of others. The ones close to me share my world and we make it one damn great place to be because all our systems are working on the same level. They do vary, but fundamentally they are the same.
Secure your system folks because that is the only way you will succeed. Being independant, confident or whatever other word you want to pull out comes down to security. The more you have it, the more successful you will be, the happier you will be.
The defining criteria in a person for me is security. We can turn around it all we want but at the core it revolves around this one thing. People who are insecure are unnattractive. Those same people are the ones at the bottom of the 'food' chain. I am a secure person. Over secure some would say, just as much as you could say over confident or over arrogant etc. They are all synonyms. They all dance around the one same thing: security. As a secure person, and a non-believer in 'opposites attract', I wish to side myself with other secure people. And that is the basis of my system.
I meet people and within a few minutes I will have a full accurate analysis of the person. At that point in time, I pass judgement on the worthiness of that person and take appropriate action. I choose the people I hang out with. I choose everybody around me. I don't believe in having a trillion 'friends', I believe in having a few quality people around me. I do not hang out with people who are unworthy. There are many many people in the world who do not like me. Many who say I'm a jerk or who say I'm a jackass. This is not entirely true. People do not actually hate me because of my person. People dislike me because of what I do to them. I bring out the worst in people. I show them... or force them to see how truly weak they are. I try to make the world a better place.
Sosuave teaches you how to become a secure people or atleast puts you on the path to becoming a secure person. You came here seeking a better life and that proves to the world that your system is secure in a sense that when things are going wrong, it seeks to correct itself. People who do not correct themselves, are unworthy. It is that damn simple. People who don't like something about themselves but don't change it because (OMG OMG OMG) 'it's who they are' are unworthy. Not unworthy of me in particular... but unworthy of being in the presence of a person like myself. We were all helped to become more secure people and I do my part by helping others find ways to become secure, but when time and time again I try and the person fails to seek change, that person, at that particular fragment of time, is unworthy.
This is all very arrogant at the time being but in reality it is not. However, this is a precise system so unless you catch every detail, you can go into wild misunderstandings as have all the people I discussed this with. The problem as a whole is that you can not change someone unless they want to change themselves. Only they have the power to fundamentally change themselves. Many have argued that what I, or anyone else, deems is the 'right way' may not be the right way for everyone. At some level, that is true. However, what I deem right for everybody is what we find every single person on this planet looking for: happiness. If every person on this planet was happy, the world would be a much better place. Not because there would be no wars or crimes but because the atmosphere around us will be completly different. And that is where the Don Juan comes in.
The DJ is a person who has bettered themselves and has reached his/her desires to become the creature they most deeply wanted to be. These people are truly happy. The atmosphere around us is a great one. That is why alpha males are alpha males and DJ are DJ. It is because we control the enviornment. The aforementioned people will light up the party. They will be the center of attention because they are generating so much good that is affecting so many others. A secure system runs on it's own. An insecure system needs help.
A Secure system is a role model system. Why? because it works. Don Juan mindset is a system. It is a continually evolving system that adapts and changes according to each individual that uses that system. In the end, it is still fundamentally the same system with simple expansions depending on the person.
Back to my system; my belief is that evolution is always and constantly taking place in everything and everyone. However, I also believe that there are major categories or 'chapters' in the process of evolution. Puberty for example is a big category filled with many chapters or levels. My system, at the core, seeks out to find those that are on the same chapter as I am. People who are secure. After all, if I'm on chapter 12 and you're on chapter 4, we can't exactly communicate or interact about chapter 9 as well (or at all) as I could with another person at chapter 10 or above. That is why I am happy. That is why my relationships with people (friends,girlfriends,family etc) work. It is because I am able to identify on what 'page' other people are on. And that is how relationships work.
If you're girlfriend seeks a long term/marriage relationship and you're in it just for some summer fun, somewhere down the line, it's going to crash. You aren't on the same page.
My system works for me. It is a rigid system. I do not even tolerate people under a certain level. That is why I dislike many people. They are not 'inferior' for being on another level, we are simply incapable have having a healthy relationship which would benefit my happiness. I seek an elite. People who already at my age have their shyt together and it works out wonderfully. I don't have any drama with my lady friends about 'she's more popular than I am' or crap like that and my friends aren't AFCs. They like to try hard to help people who are 'below' them (not inferior, just on a lower level) but I understand that you can not help someone that doesn't want to be helped.
My system shapes my world. It makes my world the most near perfect world for me. I do not dream of changing the 'real' world. This planet has turned too many times without me for me to make a difference now. Society has 'worked' for too long to fundamentally change it without destroying it.
As A DJ, I make a world of difference in my world and the worlds of others. The ones close to me share my world and we make it one damn great place to be because all our systems are working on the same level. They do vary, but fundamentally they are the same.
Secure your system folks because that is the only way you will succeed. Being independant, confident or whatever other word you want to pull out comes down to security. The more you have it, the more successful you will be, the happier you will be.
