Originally Posted by Isko
Why do you go out and bang hot girls all day? Are you horny? Do you feel embarrassed or shallow at times? What do you think of the girls when you're doing them, talking to them, around them, or after you've parted ways? How do you interpret the experience? What do you get out of it?
Don't get the idea that all I do all day long is walk around and **** women. Yes, I'm a very sexual person, and I've learned to get it when I want it, but it's definitely not the only thing I live for. I don't ever feel embarrassed about my sexuality. My sexual desire is what makes me human, and everyone else experiences the same urges, no matter how much they try to cover it up.
And the more women you're with, the more you start to realize how similar we all are. We all want the same thing, and we're all scared as **** to admit it. Everybody "knows" this, but very few people actually get it. If they did, they'd understand why I can simply ask a girl to follow me home, knowing that she probably would. Also, the more women you're with, the more appreciative you become of them and their body rather than simply the satisfying of your sexual urge.
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ALWAYS HAVE THEIR BEST INTERESTS AT HEART!
Don't get too hung up on this. 80% of the time your interests and her interests are going to be the same... you're both looking for an opportunity for sex. She's probably thinking "I want to **** this guys brains out, but I don't want to look slutty." It's your job to provide her with that solution - that "opportunity." When I tell a girl to "come with me for a minute" or to "call me when you're off work" or to "meet me outside" or to "follow me to the bedroom," I'm simply giving her a chance to get what she's looking for.
Also, her best interests should not be important so long as you're both getting what you want. If she needs an emotional and physical connection to help her distance herself from her ex, and you just want her body. GREAT! You're both getting what you want.
Get yourself out of the mentality that it's wrong to use people for sex. Consensual sex is NEVER one-sided. Everyone in this world is using each other for their bodies and for their emotions. Embrace it. Your sexuality is a gift. It's one of the rare instances in life where you can truly have your cake and eat it too. You shouldn't ever have to "trick" or "convince" someone into having sex with you, because they have just as much to gain from the experience.
That brings me to another point... you will never be able to fully understand women (or enjoy the fruits they have to offer) if you label them. There is no such thing as a slut, and there is no justifiable reason to apply it to anyone. The word alone is responsible for so much of the psychological instability in american women, it's painful to think about. Who has more self respect: The Slut, who embraces her sexuality and the nature of life, or The Prude, who deprives her body of it's natural urges and pleasure?
Answers to your questions:
1. If they're attracted, yes.
2. This isn't a question you should be asking yourself. You can't force yourself to like someone. But just because you don't like someone doesn't mean you can't share your body with theirs.
3. This is also not what should be on your mind.
4. Big question. In general, yes.
5. You shouldn't have to consciously worry about it. If you're in a sexual state, she will pick up on it (and most likely get horny herself). People feed off each other's sexuality...it's contagious.
6. No. You should be awesome, and know that you are. No acting required.
7. I don't doubt any of the DJ stuff on here. It all works perfectly fine. I'm simply saying that its overcomplicated and completely unnecessary.
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8. What is it that makes the difference? Honesty? The mentality that you're awesome? Does the mentality that you're awesome come from being 100% honest, because honesty is pretty awesome? Should I just try to be as real as possible, even though that means being negative sometimes?
You're still missing the big picture. Sex is mutual! Both parties benefit!
It's like everyone has a giant bag of Skittles, and they all want to know what everyone else's Skittles taste like. She wants your Skittles, yet you're asking me "how can I get her to give me some of her Skittles?" Ummm I don't know... maybe try offering her some of your goddamn Skittles!
-dbot
