TarantulaHawk
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The problem with "looks matter" is that most guys mishear/read it as:
"You have to be a born superhandsome chiseled male model to get laid, or otherwice accept having an ugly girlfriend you have to get by begging for months."
It might be more constructive to say "You have to be her type to attract her". Because that's what it's really about. It's about dispelling the notion that you can "create attraction".
And also what "looks matters" means is that your most fit, in shape, well dressed/groomed version will be more attractive than an out-of-shape version of you... But that's unfortunately not how guys read it.
Guys read it as "so you're saying I have to be a top shelf male model to get laid at all" -> which is why they get so defensive.
They could release a program "How to trigger men’s attraction for land whales" and it could contain only one answer: "Get in shape".
So if out of shape etc. women should do it to look more attractive to guys, men should be doing the same.
You have to maximize your potential first for yourself in your health, physique, appearance, personality, schooling, employment and social skills.
Women will still have a specific type of man they desire regardless if it's you or not but you've expanded your options and raised the tier of looks in the type of women you will be able to get.
Now if you would rather be stubbornly complacent and stay the way you are while blaming everything around you saying life isn't "fair" if women don't just drop at your feet over your fancy "lines" etc. then you could still be able to fvck any woman you wanted, whenever you want, by doing nothing else other than becoming a serial rapist.
Improve yourselves for yourselves or sit around complacent being the source of your own problems.
"You have to be a born superhandsome chiseled male model to get laid, or otherwice accept having an ugly girlfriend you have to get by begging for months."
It might be more constructive to say "You have to be her type to attract her". Because that's what it's really about. It's about dispelling the notion that you can "create attraction".
And also what "looks matters" means is that your most fit, in shape, well dressed/groomed version will be more attractive than an out-of-shape version of you... But that's unfortunately not how guys read it.
Guys read it as "so you're saying I have to be a top shelf male model to get laid at all" -> which is why they get so defensive.
They could release a program "How to trigger men’s attraction for land whales" and it could contain only one answer: "Get in shape".
So if out of shape etc. women should do it to look more attractive to guys, men should be doing the same.
You have to maximize your potential first for yourself in your health, physique, appearance, personality, schooling, employment and social skills.
Women will still have a specific type of man they desire regardless if it's you or not but you've expanded your options and raised the tier of looks in the type of women you will be able to get.
Now if you would rather be stubbornly complacent and stay the way you are while blaming everything around you saying life isn't "fair" if women don't just drop at your feet over your fancy "lines" etc. then you could still be able to fvck any woman you wanted, whenever you want, by doing nothing else other than becoming a serial rapist.
Improve yourselves for yourselves or sit around complacent being the source of your own problems.