The prize->AFC->back to prize. Can it b done?

[lookalike]

Ill spare you my story but you can read the whole thing if you look on my old post. basically had a girl who was really into me. i played it perfect, sarcastic but playful etc etc. She called all the time and i was the prize. She suddenly fell very far back and its becuase she began getting alot of attention from other guys. Most people told me I should just do NC and forget about her. I probably should have. But i didnt. Ive hung around and we talk once a week and maybe text here and there. Nothing compared to the everyday talks and texts we used to have but i take what i can get because i really like her.

As you can imagine, she realized that I care about her so she lost interest. She said im such a nice guy and flat out told me she likes a** holes. Last few times we talked, she mentioned this new kid and i can tell she likes him. She sent me a pic of him and I wrote back "looks nice. you guys will make great babies together" She called later on and was talking to me about stuff. she kept bringin him up and how hes so funny and great looking blah blah blah. most of you guys would just say dude your being an idiot just get out while you still have some pride. But i just say things to her like, well why dont you date him then he sounds like a good match for you. she says hes too young and it wouldnt work out ( hes younger than her but i can tell she realllly is into him) They send each other like 100 snapchats a day. its crazy.

Heres the problem though. Im normally a very funny sarcastic dude who has a good amount of attention from girls. But this girl has knocked my whole game off. I feel like the biggest loser now and i cant let go of trying to make her see Im better than these dudes she likes. I want to learn to get that swagger back so when she calls I dont freeze up and get all mushy and weak. i need to be indifferent and bust her balls again like it used to be.I tried talking to other girls but it doesnt help. All it does it make it more obvious how much i like her and how great she is. Is the only option to just flee the scene and go NC? I wanted to try and beat this thing standing up. Thanks for any help. -L

 

[SirFratserlot]

op's post made me cringe a little

 

[lookalike]

op's post made me cringe a little

hahaa bro id be saying the same thing if i hadnt written it. Thats whats so crazy about this. Im like the last guy int he world who would be in this position. If you met me you would never believe i could even write a post like this. Funny how we let ourselves get put in the corner. Anyway, im not mad at your comment. it is funny

 

[Eph]

Man, how old are you two? "they send each other like 100 snapchats a day". I mean I'm in the "snapchat age", but just reading that makes me cringe. She sounds like she's a 10 year old trying to hang out with 16 year olds. Your only option at this point is NC. You've gone head over heels for her and she's shown AND told you she doesn't feel the same. The best you can do is go for the kill and hope you get lucky. Other than that NC is the only thing that will help. One extreme or the other are your ONLY two options. Anything less and you may never realize this won't work with her. You may never have her.

 

[jay07]

Well im not as experienced as most of the guys here, but your post in your older forum shows alot of similar features in what i dealt with when a girl from my past came back into my life, except mine only lasted a few months.

My girl is a classic bpd, and i ran back to her because i was an idiot and couldnt see through the mirrors she was putting up. Made me feel awesome, great sex, absolutely stroked my ego.

She may have bpd traits. The fact she left you for a guy of that stature probably means shes enjoying the incredible amount of attention hes giving her (by the way you described him)

My chick left me for a dude that was similar. No way in hell a normal girl would have left me for the guy she left me for. But bpds seek out guys and pick those who are the most codependent. Shell be back once he validation from him runs out and needs it from you, and by ignoring her more and more shell start checking up on you and probably scheduling "hangouts" to sell her pvssy to get power over you.


Either that, or you are friendzoned and this dude has a donkey c0ck.

 

[expos]

OK...the same thing happened to me...sort of..

Met this girl one Saturday morning with a large group that I usually hang out and eat breakfast with. I had been reading the DJ Bible around this time and successfully got her attention with a lot of eye contact and kino during this breakfast. After breakfast was over, went and got a beer together around noon.

A day later, I'm at her place making it out with her. I did the texting thing with her every four days or so and she suddenly just went cold when I asked to hang out with her again on two separate occassions. I deleted her number, deleted her from my facebook page. This was her punishment for not being good to me. The attention wh0re has a ton of Facebook orbiters constantly praising her, I never did any of that sh!t.

Immediately after that...I hang out with two different women over the course of a couple weeks...and get major social proof on Facebook so she can see it all go down. They are admittedly better looking than her.

Want to guess who texted me today to ask why I deleted her from Facebook? That's right...miss attention wh0re herself. I never responded.

So, go get on some other chicks and blow this one off. No Contact. Watch her comeback for attention.

 

[lookalike]

EPH, im 25 shes 20. Kid shes talking to just turned 18. She hangs around all these dudes who are like 16 − 18 yrs old. I dont get it. I mean i understand bein an attention Wh0re but a bunch of obnoxious testosterone bags? Cmonn son...

Thank you guys for the comments they really bring me comfort in all this. please keep em coming. I have tried to talk to other girls and put pic of us on on insta and FB etc. She seems to not care. I can never tell because she openly has told me she on purpose downplays how she feels about things. Anyway, I could try NC but she'll just fade away completely bcuz i dont mean anything to her anymore. Its weird but somehow what i have now seems better than losin her completely.

Its weird bcus i get a twisted enjoyment out of seein her fall more and more for this young kid. i dont know why. its like a bus driving right into my house and i cant take my eyes off it as it get closer. im messed up i guess. im thankful for you guys help tho.

 

[SirFratserlot]

Listen when a girl likes you there's no bullshvt or mentioning of other guys.

 

[Smok1nAce]

i been there op, not a road you want to go down, i dated an AW who stroked my ego then said she wanted space, i cased her for 2 months only to have my entire pride and ego gone, girls like that should not be messed with.

 

[expos]

EPH, im 25 shes 20. Kid shes talking to just turned 18. She hangs around all these dudes who are like 16 − 18 yrs old. I dont get it. I mean i understand bein an attention Wh0re but a bunch of obnoxious testosterone bags? Cmonn son...

These are her orbiters. Horny little pricks that she enjoys the attention from but really doesn't desire. Trust me, if some ALPHA stud came in a dropped some serious game on her, she blow off all the orbiters in seconds.

I have tried to talk to other girls and put pic of us on on insta and FB etc. She seems to not care. I can never tell because she openly has told me she on purpose downplays how she feels about things. Anyway, I could try NC but she'll just fade away completely.

Keep upping your social value. If anything, it will mean more women will want to get with you that aren't this b!tch. Dude, I am living proof that SOCIAL proof pulls serious respect with others. If she is downplaying crap she admitting that this stuff gets to her. Regardless, as long as you get more women after you, the odds are you'll forget about her all together because some girl will take her place.

Its weird bcus i get a twisted enjoyment out of seein her fall more and more for this young kid.

Don't sweat this chick. Delete her number, don't contact her at all. The less you think about them, the more likely they are to re-emerge. That's the way it always is. KEEPING SPINNING PLATES...it's for your own health.

 

[Eph]

Like you said, she won't care if you leave from her life. Actually she will, since she'll have lost a validation source. Which seems like the reason for her hanging out with younger guys. They make her feel wanted with the attention they give her. That or she simply doesn't want to grow up (red flag). Like I said for your own health, drop her like a hot potato or go all or nothing.

Take it from a guy who has been in the same position before and just couldn't let go.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Notice how when you become friends with a woman they'll start dating other guys and rub it in your face? She knows you like her and she's doing this just to fook with your head. You can't be friends with women you're attracted to and want to be with. Eventually the resentment of being her friend, but not good enough to be her boyfriend will rear it's ugly head.

 

[Mike32ct]

Notice how when you become friends with a woman they'll start dating other guys and rub it in your face? She knows you like her and she's doing this just to fook with your head. You can't be friends with women you're attracted to and want to be with. Eventually the resentment of being her friend, but not good enough to be her boyfriend will rear it's ugly head.

^This.

You want to get your game back, but you aren't doing yourself any favors by wasting time on this chick. Your ego won't let this chick go.

You need to drink a nice tall glass of "I don't give a F" and either go NC (best) or if you can't do that, at least reduce it to minimal contact because you are "busy."

Otherwise, she's eventually going to poison the rest of your social circle well. She's going to tell the other girls how she tells you about some other guy she likes, and you LISTEN to it. Other girls wil read this as you being her "b I tch."

That's one of the dangers of being PERCEIVED as an ORBITOR. Girls love to gossip. They make fun of orbiters behind the guys' backs.

So you are not only hurting your game with this, but hurting your rep too man.

Anyway, just my 2 cents. Good luck man.

 

[LongLostFriend]

You don't want a RELATIONSHIP with this chick, do you?

If you can manage to give her just enough attention to string her along in hopes of more (what I call an "IV drip" level), you may get the chance to bang her. That's all you'd ever really want from a chick like this, though.