The pretty boy attitude gets no respect

[Jariel]

The last year has been a long learning process for me and I have come to the conclusion that while being a metrosexual pretty boy earns me a lot of attention from females and a lot of compliments, it is totally superficial and it comes at the cost of respect.

As I have discussed in a previous post, many women see me as a trophy or a means to increase their social status. I have been told I'm pretty to look at, have been called things like "eyecandy" and women openly talk about me like I'm a sex object. At one time I was flattered by this and figured I was on a roll, but I'm now starting to realise that a lot of these so-called compliments are quite derogatory and are costing me respect.

However, it's not the way I look that's the problem, it's my attitude. Despite my confidence and my intelligence, I have allowed women to treat me this way - the same way a man would treat a bimbo. And that clearly means my appeal is superficial and fleeting.

I started bulking up last year and developed a natural attitude change as a result of the increased testosterone and I noticed that people treated me with a lot more respect. I dressed the same, took pride in my appearance and could still be considered a "metrosexual", yet I carried a presence in my attitude and demeanour. Since cutting, I have lost this edge and the respect.

As it has been said before, looks will get you noticed, but the right attitude is essential to maintaining interest.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

You're spot on the money, Jariel.

 

[squirrels]

Learn the power of pretty-boy looks coupled with a bad-boy attitude.

Otherwise known as the OMFBRADPITTFIGHTCLUB0WNZJ00 style.

 

[S0LID]

So in other words lift weights and it changes you?

 

[MakeItSo]

Ahem. Excellent post Jariel.

If you're a total toothpick, you should really put on some weight. It looks good, and you'll feel better about yourself. Trust me, it's both physical and emotional.

...now that I think about it, Jariel's post was perfect. Good Job!

 

[Jariel]

Thanks for the feedback guys. I started to see how guys look at bimbos - i.e. they're good for sex, nice to look at and to show off to your mates, but not someone you respect or could fall for - and I realised I have been perceived and treated the same way by women.

I'm not yet sure if it's the lifting weights, general exercise or the diet when bulking that makes the difference, but I do know that since I stopped bulking and have been trying to drop weight I have become less bold, have a lower sex drive and have become more of a nice guy and more sensitive.

 

[AIR-PILOT]

I think its the "metrosexual" part that is the problem. I was watching VH1 last night and they were showing Beckham, some super model goes "Hes too feminine for me". I personally hate metrosexuals. I do agree with the last part, it's not about looks all the time. I use to have the same problem, had the looks to approach, was just too shy and didn't have the right attitude. All changed when I realized who I am and what I want in life. Good Luck.

 

[rgeere]

I don't know guys, when I was younger and had really really long hair I was face deep in interested women, but I was also in a lot better shape. But then, I wouldn't have cobnsidered myself meterosexual either; I sure the heck didn't dress that way anyhow.

 

[Baruch]

How does a metro dress?

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Baruch
How does a metro dress?

Basically it is a man who takes care of himself like a woman and wears some unisex clothing. Some of them even act a little like women, but let's not get into that one.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by rgeere
Basically it is a man who takes care of himself like a woman and wears some unisex clothing. Some of them even act a little like women, but let's not get into that one.

this is not to be confused with a man who takes good care of himself. Only men that go to the extreme and try to look pretty.

 

[Julian]

I murder metrosexuals with verbal spears.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Julian
I murder metrosexuals with verbal spears.

metros are guys that try to blend in with women in hopes that they can slip in unexpectedly. I'm not sure if this actually works or not. I'm sure they have some success with it, but that success comes at the cost of respect. My friends would lose a lot of respect for me if I tried to blend in with the women. Pu-ssy isn't worth losing the respect of your friends.

These guys deserve more then verbal spears. Maybe a good punch in the face.

 

[AIR-PILOT]

How bout...
Waxing Eyebrows?
Tanning salons?
Getting manicures?

I put these under metrosexual.

I like to keep myself looking good, but I would never shave my body hair, I would never get a manicure I would never go to a tanning salon in the winter to look good.

Long hair makes you a metrosexual? I have long hair slicked back, that makes me metro? I don't think so.

 

[Baruch]

ok. i use:

shampoo
conditioner
face soap
moisturizer

i dont go tanning, never gotten a manicure and no waxing for me.

Although, I do need to get rid of that hair on my ass\lower back..

I guess i'm metro.

 

[A-Unit]

Who cares?

Girls only treat you the way they do based on how you let them.

Some girls say "you're a pretty boy, huh?" And I'm usually saying..."what, you date lots of ugly guys don't you?" Not out of C&F, because the 'labels' are so weak that women, and society has.

One girl said..."well, I can usually tell how a person is by their style."

In response..."so by my assumption, you're a ghetto chick then, because your'e style reflects a hoodrat." She started changing her thinking on that tidbit.


Stop caring what other people think or represent you as. Attitude, personality, energy, spirituality are all you are, and all a person is attracted to.


In the Tantra, it is said when a person is in love, the person, the physical being falls away. This is so, because when you're in love, you buy into that person's hopes, dreams, live, reality, and world. You see through their eyes, you don't see them. You blend into 1, so the physical becomes nonexistent.

And prior to mirrors, nobody knew who was goodlooking excepted based on reactions AND, being as beauty was in the eye of the beholder, few people could rank each other. NOW, it's become the yardstick by which WE THINK we judge people. It isn't. Sure, the physical part is a little nibble of what they are...but close your eyes and see how you feel. Ignore the physical, it only exists at the level of the mind anyway.


__________________________


If a woman only likes a guy when he's the perfect physical specimen, what happens when the natural progression of aging occurs or a serious disability happened?


Do whatever you want. I have a friend who does the whole 9 yards. Metro to the T. If he didn't have a girl, based on what he does, you'd think he was gay. Quite the opposite. His attitude is what makes him not, and he will personally tell any girl to shove it if they have a problem. They never do. They appreciat e a guy who care for himself, it makes her work harder to keep him.


Guys were doing this stuff WAAAAY before Metro came around. Metro just became a way for people to define a guy who wasn't a scrub and who wasn't gay. So any guy who looks "pretty" or is "business/casual" is a metro. NOW, with a term out there, they can market to a segment and label the guys. Thug stuff was around before it became cool. Once they noticed it, made it a trend, they could market to that.


People want tight fitting reality words, it's simpler for the brain.


I'd say all these things about men were true before, they just had no remedys for them. Acne was never hot, but we can get rid of it somewhat. Hair, when its out of control, is unnecessary, because we can get rid of that too. Before, bad eyes, people couldn't see. Then glasses came along. Now contacts and lasix. It was about makin life easier, more effective...some thing are warranted. Healthy hair products have contributed to stronger hair so we don't bald as soon. I could justify everything in life, but you get the point. Even facials are fine because it prevents aging too early.


As much as tanning the act could be considered weird, girls like the end result. Too unmanly and she won't feel like she's with a guy, it'd be like be with herself. Same with a guy, if a chick isn't much feminine, then it'd be like being with yourself, which would be a mega turn off.




A-Unit

 

[Duke]

Hm, just wanna say that tanning (bed or spray) is essential for pale guys who can't tan well. I do it, and sometimes I let my stylist shave my eyebrows. And yes, I trim my pubes and ass-hair. Does it make me metrosexual in some people's minds?

Perhaps.

Do I give a fvck?

No.

Does it, in most cases, increase physical attraction levels in women?

Yes.

Way more pros than cons. Do what you need to do to look good, and fvck anybody who gives you shi!t. If you have masculine attitude and mannerisms, then all of this will just add to your hotness. It's only when you act like a pvssy that the good looks become a burden rather than a boon.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Metrosexuals are soldiers in the feminazi army under the guise of a male.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by Duke
Do what you need to do to look good, and fvck anybody who gives you shi!t. If you have masculine attitude and mannerisms, then all of this will just add to your hotness. It's only when you act like a pvssy that the good looks become a burden rather than a boon.

Exactly!

 

[Bonhomme]

Duke is right on

... though tanning doesn't appeal to me. I prefer fair-skinned over tanned women (unless their ethnicity precludes it), anyway.