ThE PHONE CALL - Big Mistakes ive Made....

[toot86]

Everyone gets the #S but VERy few return with a call to setup a date..

I have made many mistakes during last 5 years i need some feedback over these mistakes


1. I call this girl she says she will call back in 10 minutes and i say "SUre" MISTAKE

she doesnt call...


I call again.. She says shes at a party and tells me to call back at 11:00.. I try to not make a mistake and say "i ll see what i can do "


I dont call...


So call her up again .. try to setup a get together.. She sounds pretty good in the phone i tell her we should go to see a movie at like 5pm and she says sure.. I tell I will call her on the day of the date for directions.. MISTAKE

tHE day of the date i call she doesnt ANSWER....



any feedback on this situation...

Is IL low or was it my fault for not getting directions the first time .. and not calling


I dont want to next her .. because I think she is playing games but I dont know iam acting more on my sexual desires then logical dj advice..



2.I call this hottie a guy answers say whats up and if the girl is in he says no.. And then i say ok and bye.. MISTAKE
I should of gave him my # so She could call back.. and maybel befriend him


any good feedback and tips needed

 

[Oxide]

low IL.

i got that "call me back at 11" **** too. i call back one chick, she hangs up and makes her "boyfriend" call me back. that was awesome, we had a nice chat

dont ever call when she tells u if her il is low. and dont call too much.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by Oxide
low IL.

Nah, REALLY LOW IL!

 

[Walden]

LOL Oxide. That is so weird. WTF was this girl on?

 

[Kodiac]

1. I call this girl she says she will call back in 10 minutes and i say "SUre" MISTAKE

Low Interest. If she wanted to speak to you she would have called you back when she said she would!
Don't give her this opportunity.

I call again.. She says shes at a party and tells me to call back at 11:00.. I try to not make a mistake and say "i ll see what i can do "

That's a little better. Don't call her back if she isn't willing to talk NOW.

HE day of the date i call she doesnt ANSWER....

Thats stuffed up. So did she end up turning up on the date ?

Giver her time, give her space. If she is interested she will come after you. Be more direct, ill pick you up at blah blah and we will go to blah. Don't let her lead you around "ill call you back at... or call me at..." your the one with the d1ck!

 

[toot86]

Originally posted by Kodiac
1. I call this girl she says she will call back in 10 minutes and i say "SUre" MISTAKE

Low Interest. If she wanted to speak to you she would have called you back when she said she would!
Don't give her this opportunity.

I call again.. She says shes at a party and tells me to call back at 11:00.. I try to not make a mistake and say "i ll see what i can do "

That's a little better. Don't call her back if she isn't willing to talk NOW.

HE day of the date i call she doesnt ANSWER....

Thats stuffed up. So did she end up turning up on the date ?

Giver her time, give her space. If she is interested she will come after you. Be more direct, ill pick you up at blah blah and we will go to blah. Don't let her lead you around "ill call you back at... or call me at..." your the one with the d1ck!

yeah thats what i needed...

But here is one i forgot to mention ..

I call this girl and tell her the usuall fluff talk then.. lets get togheter on monday or tuesday

and i said are you free any of those days at around 6 she said ill have to see ..

She said shell check her schedule something like that..

so I SAID .. ok call me back when you find out ?
and goodnight

Mistake??
should I have told her to check her schedule NOW .. and hurry it up

or did I do it right?

 

[myfriendblu]

Good God...Go read the f'in bible NEWBIE. Its pretty obvious to anyone here thats read this site that your an AFc and you have no chance with this chick. Can you say LOW IL...good....Say it again. Read the BIBLE and you wouldn't need to ask. Its freaking obvious your acting extremely AFC.

 

[Oxide]

holly **** man. come on.

dont take crap like that. its not or good bye.

 

[dionysius_d]

NEXT, NEXT.

 

[MrMetropolis]

I have nothing to say... I guess DJ'ing comes naturally to some. After 960+ posts you should have picked up something. Geesh, Don't follow every girl you meet around like a dog chasing a bone at the races. Your NOT the only one after her. She knows this... hell she has a boyfriend. You have to make yourself special in some way. Get a hobbie. go buy some models to fill your time and start building small ships or airplanes. Those should be what is important to you to the point where she has to fight for your time over it. GET IT?

 

[Santos]

If a girl has ANY interest in you she will date you. She will generally answer your calls and won't cancel on you. It shouldn't be too hard to get that first date.

My rule is ask the girl out THREE times. If she flakes/cancels/is too busy then her IL isn't high enough and I didn't create a good enough impression when we met.

Also, you're learning. So don't next girls too quickly. Make the most of each one, when you've got as much experience as you're gonna get then next her.

They like dropping hints without being direct. If she tells me she's gonna call me back and doesn't. Then I just don't call her. She isn't interested, or if she is - she'll get back to me.

Don't be discouraged. Try a few times and if she keeps flaking then get another number. The mistake I make is that I don't do approaches, so when I come across a women and get her number. She is my ONLY option. This is bad. It leads to oneitis and she won't see you as a challenge (unless you're good at IMITATING).

Good luck!
Santos

 

[sustainable007]

You definately have a case of a girl with a negative Interest level....

There are many reasons that she could be acting this way toward you..In fact the list of possibilities is endless...However what it all comes down to is one simple fact:

1. The majority of women are Passive, and do not take risks when it comes to men.

So why waste your time on a passive woman, when there is a woman out there who is looking for action and excitement...? When you find her you will know it...Until then keep collecting the numbers and holding auditions....

Plus, think of it this way: Wouldnt life be boring if every woman you met gave into you effortlessly? (Ofcourse it would be...and if you disagree with me you are weak and pathetic...)

Look at this challenge as an oppourtunity and sieze the moment.....

 

[toot86]

But I dont think there is enough INFO on .. making the Phone call in the bible. There is the regular stuff like what time.. and how you should


But I am stuck on that i should keep the CONVO short.. Is this a bad thing

Should I try to talk to her more and make it sensual ...

and then after a good CONVO maybe she will be more inclined to really want the DATE


But in the bible it says to keep it short 5 - 10 minutes..


bUT IF someone GOOD AT phonecalls could share some info .. Like should you get into the convo and make it as your first approach trying to make a impression..


Because what I do is try not to get into the convo that much ..

maybe Iam making a mistake on that.. and should get her feeling me more on the CONVO .. then

the regular .. SO HOW WAS YOUR DAY?

 

[am4591]

How was your day, etc., at first. C+F on the phone, get her laughing, but keep it short and sweet. Leave her wanting to talk with you more. Save the rest for the date.

 

[Oxide]

have nothing to say... I guess DJ'ing comes naturally to some. After 960+ posts you should have picked up something. Geesh, Don't follow every girl you meet around like a dog chasing a bone at the races. Your NOT the only one after her. She knows this... hell she has a boyfriend. You have to make yourself special in some way. Get a hobbie. go buy some models to fill your time and start building small ships or airplanes. Those should be what is important to you to the point where she has to fight for your time over it. GET IT?

Hmm... and what caused you to write all that?