the perils of Facebook dating.. what to do if she disrespects u from the offset?

[pete101]

Facebook dating is bad. partly because you have to let a lot of things slide that you normally wouldn't cos you're a stranger to her so she feels scared.

tonight for instance i met this HB off there and she really p1ssed me off.. last week we made arrangements for saturday and she agreed then cancels on friday without even counter offering. i text back jokingly giving her grief about not counter offering. normally you should just next her if no counter offer but this is a FB meeting.. it's weird.

anyway we made arrangements for yesterday then she tries to be clever and texts me during the day asking where i was then proceeds to pretend that we were suppose to meet today not yesterday and promptly cancels and confirms for today. (all the while i'm thinking this b1tch is insulting my intelligence) i told her this in one of my replies that she obviously knew we were meeting yesterday otherwise she wouldn't have texted me... had to to let this slide since i hadn't met her. i also mentioned she keeps cancelling.

fast forward to today. she texts me at 5pm saying that not to worry that shes not cancelling but tries to rearrange the place of meeting and also the time. and also offered to meet at some random bar.. i knew something was fishy that she was double booking tonight as she obviously had a party offer last minute to go to and tried to fit me into the equation also. MAJOR DISRESPECT.

the station we were suppose to meet at she wasn't at but was at the one down the road with the same namesake but slightly different and this made me p1ssed.. i told her she said the wrong station. but what i noticed was how she tried to be clever and told me to come to her, it was only after i said ok after i hung up that i realised that i gave away some power there being her lapdog going to her.. this already made me angry that she expects me to drop everything to accommodate her

ok we proceed to meet then she gets a phone call and take sit and tells her friend she'll be there in 1/2 an hour.. this infuriated me.. like WTF? you're suppose to be out with me and you're trying to fvck off in 1/2 an hour.

 

[pete101]

i proceeded to ask her if she had arrangements after this.. then i got p1ssed with her and gave her a lecture about double booking and it being rude. i didn't handle the situation well i was thinking but i couldn't be disrespected like this. this obviously scared her but i was still p1ssed netherless and there were a lot of things she did that wound me up that i feel i should have said something even tho i already told her off earlier i.e. kept taking phone calls as we were walking around trying to find a place to go, then kept giving me her coffee cup as she proceeded to go into her bag (i should have said no) i didn't like how she was making me her slave, but it was my fault by automatically accepting the cup rather than giving her a hard time about it. i realised quite quickly she was just a spoilt daddys little princess and very different from the girl i thought i was talking to on FB.

what would have been a better way to deal with tonight?

I think i'm more p1ssed off with myself by letting myself do these AFC things but it's bound to arise again cos girls will disrespect u like this.

for instance what to do when she says 'hold this' i.e. the coffee cup.. your instant reaction is to hold it rather than think about it.

secondly when u find out she double booked tonight instead of me giving a lecture about opportunity cost and that you have limited time u have to commit to one event you cant do both.. if u said yes to me then u have to stick to it or let me know in advance you can only meet for 1 hour etc

 

[daygameguy]

The thing is she knows she has your future vadge of honor. And this makes you her puppet. She senses that you do not have other options, and you need her pus$y.

Well, its time to show her that you can be busy as well, that you have other options, and YOU might next her if she is too up her own as$.

Now, You don't have to be rude to her, that'll show insecurity and frustration, just be a DJ, never let her run all over you, and YOU call the shots everytime.

Her: Hold this.
You: Well, I'm not in the holding business, you know that. - OR - I'm sorry, I don't hold stuff. (talk in a player voice, be more ****y)

 

[bam bam]

It's not a big deal if your holding a coffee cup it all depends on how you take it... If you giving off that you feel like a ***** then you are def projecting that to her... Just do it without a worry in the world.. if you tell her no u look like a ****... it's like u having to take something out of your pocket and u have a coffee and your on the phone in the other hand and she goes no i wont hold your coffee... is that really player like? lol that's more like hey **** you jack ass... grab the coffee and act like it's nothing big... you've established your a ***** from her from earlier on in the seduction so if you start like that you're like that for the whole thing... Learn to start off on the right terms because if you change later you'll be un-congruent and then you look really really shady and insecure. It seems honestly like your desperate for this woman if I can pick that up from just your post i'm sure she can smell it off you like you running over a skunk... sorry bro if it's a bit harsh but I wont sugar coat it to make you feel better change your **** around so your doing better not worse... I hold stuff for woman all the time and it's never an issue unless i make it one... I also make them hold things for me all the time... Give them my coffee when I fix my shirt pants take our my cell... **** with her the same way she's ****ing with you... you have objects in your hands pretend you have to do stuff scratch your back or get her to scratch it... this are not really as one dimensional as you make them to be... food for thought that's all... hope it helped...

Bams

 

[Infamous_Wolf]

Dude, why does it matter that she is from face book? I don't mean to offend, but that is probably the *LAMEST* excuse I have ever heard for letting her disrespect you like that. you should have just kicked her out of your life, if not on the very first time she cancelled on you, then when you went to meet her and she ditched you right on the spot for her friend. you should have said "Look buddy, my time is *very* important, and I do not need a person in my life who is simply going to waste my time again and again. Thanks for comin' about here, but this isn't gonna work out. Call me when you have the dignity to handle that. Good bye" There is absolutely no reason you need to accept this treament from *any* woman, regardless if she's from facebook, myspace, the bar, the club, dance class, the supermarket, IT DOESN'T MATTER. Have respect for yourself, but also very very important, you do not need to get your emotions involved. You can feel angry and have a perfectly good reason for feeling so, but you are a man and you need to take control of your emotions. respond in a calm and collected manner. very matter-of-fact. You don't need to give an outburst for her to pick up on the fact that you are pissed. she is a woman, she will be able to tell.