The Opposite Experiment (Doing everything opposite to get the girl)

HappyHarryHardon

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So, I've decided I'm going to start an experiment, because I no longer give a fuk if the girl rejects or laughs at me. I don't care if she's hot and that I look like an idiot..

Past experiments, success stories:

1. I met a girl online, we chatted for a few days. She confessed that she would just like to be friends because she got out of a long relationship recently. I agreed and we met. She came to my house. We remained "friends" for a couple weeks. She would come over at awkward times, 3am after dancing at a night club. Sleep at mine. etc etc. I would then confess online to her that I wanted to kiss her and I'm attracted to her (that's a big no no right? hehe)

So the next time she came over, I kissed her and we had sex. We did this for a couple of months... later she stopped coming over and we lost contact.

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2. This girl is christian. We met on okcupid. We spoke many times, on the phone too. But we stopped talking for maybe a whole year. I started chatting to her again on msn. I would tell her I liked her and that I want to grab her ass.. I had a gf at this time and she knew that. Maybe that helped.

We finally met because I was being pushy and kept asking. I massaged her on our first meet, in the shopping mall. We didn't get to meet a lot, she lived kinda far away.. but when we did, I would flirt with her as much as I could. I tried to kiss her one night when she dropped me off but she turned her head. We met again another time (on my birthday) she made cupcakes and brought them over. She was on my bed, I massaged her and went to kiss her and she slightly hesitated but it was ON BABY! We did not have sex because she's christian and a virgin (apparently) also, it was our first time kissing and such. She let me suck her breasts and she moaned etc etc. That was it. We met another time and I held her hand (yeah, gay, I know) in the shopping mall, we walked around for a couple hours. Messed around and stuff. Was fun. Kissed her goodbye and that was the last time I saw her. I confessed that I liked her a lot... she told me she only wanted to be friends and mess around. After that, it died. We still spoke but then I met someone else who lives very far away. We had lots of sex but the distance thing is killing it. That's in a question mark right now. Anyway, back to the christian girl... so we slowly started talking less and less until I decided to delete her number and cut all contact. Perhaps she'll come back to me.



Today, I am doing an experiment. I'm going to do the opposite of everything guys are suppose to do. I'm going to tell them what I really wanna tell them, I'm going to do what I really wanna do. I'm going to be AFC to some point but I am also an assh0le most times. I do not like waiting to call girls, or text. I text them as much as I can and talk dirty. I don't really care what happens to be honest. I think it's fun to just fool around with their heads. I know that if I want some sex I can just get desperate and go see that long distance girl for a while. She lets me stay over for as long as I want.

No rules, no nothing. It begins now...

I am texting a girl right now. She's about a HB7 and a half... Most of the texting goes like:

Me: Answer your fuking phone.

Her: It's always what you want. So rude.

1 hour later...

Me: I love you. We are destined to be married. I can't stop thinking about you. Even when I'm with my gf.

Her: I dont think so.

Me: Come stay at mine sometime. I got strawberry ice cream. Your favorite.

Her: Who said that's my favorite... Wrong. Hah. What's up with you? You be rude and then say random stuff.

Her: I've got myself stuck with this guy that's really bad for me, so I don't have much of a chance to talk to you. I'm also going through a hard time atm. I'm not sure what you want from me. Thought maybe we could get to be friends one day. Or not.

Her: Having chocolate at yours would be another story all together though.

Me: Yeah I got plenty of that.

Me: We live so close to each other. It would be a shame not to ever hang out. Plus I got the house to myself soon for a while. Since you hate where you live. My place is always around the corner ;)

Me: I just know we would hit it off. No doubt about it my darling.

Her: That's more like it :) Thanks. But promise it won't end up with random girlfriends on my back.

Her: Hope so.

Me: It's complicated atm. But I want to see what you're all about. There's a reason why you're still within my reach.

Her: You're creeping me out lol. We'll see ;)

Me: Why? Cause I wanna fuk you? I mean meet you?

Me: It will be a tragic loss for you my dear.

Her: Don't say that

Me: Just remember I'm not always gonna be here. If you want some of this, then move your ass woman!

Me: Understand?

Her: Nah.

Her (she re sent my texts about bad things I said to her and then when I was being nice)

Me: I did delete your number. Because of my gf. But then you text me again. I just can't get rid of you.

Her: Oh okay. Just be straight up about your gf. Can't she understand you having female friends? Then again the guy with me is even worse.

Me: Meh.

Her: Ohhh <blah blah> is on tv. Goodnight x


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That is all for now, I'll keep posting with I get updates, or if I meet new girls.
 
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Well, by doing this at least you get to see what they respond to, and what they don't. But doing and saying what you want is actually a commonly advised pickup tactic.

So it would be hard to do the opposite of pickup advice since most of it contradicts itself anyway. It's called conflicting paradoxes or something. If you reallly want to do the opposite of what is recommended, you'd practically have to act needy/desperate/AFC all the time. And hell, that might even work. The most important thing is that you're interacting.
 

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This thread really should be titled "Doing the Opposite of What I USE TO DO" (to get the girl).


Your going from one extreme to the other where you violated the most basic DJ rules:

"Don't express your feelings for a girl"

Now that you see it gets you no where you are going too extreme on the other end. Yes being confident and going for what you want DOES turn women on, but you need to balance it better than you are currently.

Push Pull would work much better than just straight up gangster mode that your in now.








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Pimp-sicle said:
This thread really should be titled "Doing the Opposite of What I USE TO DO" (to get the girl).


Your going from one extreme to the other where you violated the most basic DJ rules:

"Don't express your feelings for a girl"

Now that you see it gets you no where you are going too extreme on the other end. Yes being confident and going for what you want DOES turn women on, but you need to balance it better than you are currently.

Push Pull would work much better than just straight up gangster mode that your in now.








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It's just an experiment to share for you guys and to get a laugh out of it. I'm not really doing it for any results... even though I've stated it has worked in the past. Just think of it as something to read about when you're bored. Meanwhile, I got some texting to do :)
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
Your going from one extreme to the other where you violated the most basic DJ rules:

"Don't express your feelings for a girl"
See, this is one of those paradoxes. If he's really going to say and do whatever he wants to do at any moment, how can he follow all the DJ rules? Because if he does, then he's filtering himself. "I'm going to say and do whatever I want! Unless Mystery says not to". Not very daring.

Anyway, swinging from one extreme to the other is a great way to find calibration. As you go too far in each direction, you get to see where the boundaries are. That's learning by experience. And the fact that HappyHarry here doesn't care about the outcome is the best thing of all.
 

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zekko said:
See, this is one of those paradoxes. If he's really going to say and do whatever he wants to do at any moment, how can he follow all the DJ rules? Because if he does, then he's filtering himself. "I'm going to say and do whatever I want! Unless Mystery says not to". Not very daring.

Anyway, swinging from one extreme to the other is a great way to find calibration. As you go too far in each direction, you get to see where the boundaries are. That's learning by experience. And the fact that HappyHarry here doesn't care about the outcome is the best thing of all.
I agree with this 1000%. I think further that the DJ "Rules" are just DJ guidelines or a trainer bicycle's 3 wheels. Once you have enough experience you can do whatever you want. As good as DJ rules are they are still generalizations and not context specific, you can only know what to do in any given situation if you have enough experience and the ability to calibrate as you say.
 

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i got a number i could do this with, haven't talk to her in weeks. maybe i will see if i can spark anything.

just do it for the lulz
 
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