the one that got away

[backbreaker]

when i was younger, alot younger i got rejected by a few women, in such a hurting fashion that it toughened me up. I had a girl, my oneitis actually, call me on my birthday while she was supposed to go to the movies with me while shew as taking it in the ass and screamed you wish you could have this don't you. that **** hurt. never forgot about it. i eventually did get it, but in reality just for the sake of saying i did, by then i was not interesting in dating her but still, **** like that you don't forget. All of this happened before i started having success in life and one thing i did, was cut off contact completely with everyone, except my oneitis, which i tried to but she found me lol.

I went back to little rock well i go back often to visit certain family members and things but on one trip i was taking my little sister around town and i stoped by taco bell and i ran into a girl i dated for 8 months, and i tried to not treat her like a slut, she was a virgin and i wasn't going ot take her virginity in the back seat of a car or anything, then she goes and gets turned out at a party, then talks **** about me because i wasn't hardcore enough (She was from the hood). yeah, 3 kids, working at taco bell now. it was very odd, like i didn't even have to say anything but just looking at her and her looking at me we saw who came out better in that senerio.

my question is, has anyone ever just met a girl that knows that they let one get away and knows that it was their fault? they can't make excuses like he was a jackass, he was this or that.. they knew they had a catch, or someone who was real ambitious and was going places, and ****ed it up and they have no one to blame but them.

I am not talking about **** buddies. i have alot of old **** buddies that never really had a chance, they knew it and i knew it, we just didn't click on that level. you can't let something get away yo never had. i mean a woman that someone was real committed to, and then just screwed it up for no reason.


There was a girl, amber, the first girl i met after i started making real money, cute as a button, i've posted pics of her before here. She like my current fiancee, started off as a plate, then 4 widdled down to 3, then down to her and a girl named beth then i got tired of beth and it was just her. at that point i was fully comitted to her. i liked her, we clicked and she had proven beyond a shadow of a doubt she really cared about me. i eventually told her she could move in, hell she was over my house everynight anyway, then she stopped working, then she was driving my car around like it was hers, all i asked for in return is a clean house, a good meal and good sex lol.

i never was a controlling type. if a woman is going to cheat she is going to cheat. one night, she went to a club with her sister, as they did every thursday night, girls night out which i had no problem with, some peace and quite time so i can do my own thing. club closed at 12, i know becuase i went all the time. she did not walk through the door until 3:30 and when she tied to make up some excuse which i wasn't buyin her phone rang and it was some guy. i put two and two together, and made her pack her **** the next day.

and you know, i'm not even mad at her. i wasn't mad at her then. it happened. i am quite sure she was sorry for what she did, and i forgave her, and you know that, i'm sure that's a lesson she can keep in mind for her next BF, beucause once you do some **** like that, it just shows blanet disrepect. I desrve better than that, i knew it and i wasn't going to settle for that ****.

she had a golden ticket. she didn't work, i she shopped pretty much when she felt like it,got to sleep in all day long, talk to her friends, had an ice life. and just ****ing blew it lol.

i brought that up because my dad called me today, and he works at an airport and he told me that he saw her at an airport and she was asking about me and how she can get in contact with me. just made me remember her.

a woman that knows she had a catch, and blew it

 

[Bluntmaster]

blah blah blah my fiancee blah blah blah

what else is new?

 

[DJjazzyJeff]

Girls always tend to come back whether to satisfy their own egos or because they realize they messed up. I too would like to know if women regret leaving or messing up a relationship with somebody that can be considered a catch.

 

[Desdinova]

Haha, my ex wife. Her social life was more important than her family life, then she fvcked around on me with her best friend's husband. She got the boot.

She drops off our kid one evening and starts crying. "Whatever happened to us?" And "are you sure this is what you want?" I've never been so goddam sure of anything in my life.

I've got a good job, good credit, a house, a winning personality, sex appeal, and lots of other great traits. She fvcked up royally. Now she's in an apartment with a fat abusive loser who has two crap jobs and a criminal record. Way to downgrade!

 

[backbreaker]

roftl

i'm not a physiologist but when a woman ****s her husbands best friend, i seriously doubt the issue is that she was just that attracted to him. there are usually underlying issues with that ****.


I love the "whatever happened to us" line. it's funny, they ask you questions that they should have been asking themselves in the first place.

It's like i know this woman, posted about her before.. not bad looking at all, a tad older, early 40's but very smashable, makes good money,s he had this guy, basically used him to have a baby with then cheated on him and showed no regard to him whatsoever. now she goes around, still texting him and chating with him like they are going to get back to gehter soon (they aren't lol, i assure you), he's just civil because of the kid, and she's like "oh what happened to us, i remember when we used to be this great couple' funny how you left out the part how you sucked off a guy in a horse barn and went around bragging about it practically. then what really kills me is "do you really want to do this to the kids, they deserve better than this" lmao, you are damn right they do deserve better! guess you did not think of that either when you were getting railed. now i'm supposed to think about it. **** that.

that's another point. women use kids like battle armor. that's the default argument, oh i'll do whatever i want, then cry and talk about him ruining the kids and he won't go anywhere.

 

[AmIAFC]

The LTR I just broke up with (posted a thread here about it) will end up just like that. She really didn't think there was anything wrong with having dinner with an ex-BF while in a relationship. Her exact words were, "Who created these rules??!" Well, I guarantee her next BF will echo my sentiments and the same for the guy after that before she realizes she was wrong, moronic, and ignorant all along. Then she'll try to come back to me and confess that I was right, and that in life you can't always have your cake and eat it too.

Unfortunately for her, it's too little too late.

 

[iqqi]

What's really funny...

Is that when I saw the title of this thread, and then the author, I knew that "the one who got away" was going to be... the author.

Hasn't this thread been done before, by... the author? It's all good though. It's really good to love thyself.

 

[Kailex]

blah blah blah my fiancee blah blah blah

what else is new?

Thank you for another wonderfully pointless post.



Anyway, back to the OP:

Backbreaker, I once went out with a girl who had me pegged as a total AFC. She pretty much was a "oneitis" type girl who gave me a chance and slowly began to realize I wasn't. But then 3 months into the relationship, she decided to hang out one night with her ex and some other people. She was in his car. When she came back, she wanted me to come visit her. So I did, and said "Goodbye" and metaphorically kicked her to the curb.

After that, she realized that she wanted to be with me and that she had been unfair to me.

She ended up marrying some guy that treated her terribly.
All of the while, she kept calling me, wanting to get back with me. A week after she got married, she would still keep calling me. When I moved, she wanted to be the last person that I saw before I jumped on the plane.

This went on for five years.

She married a provider with DJ Tendencies, but SHE wanted the one that got away from her. Almost as soon as I moved, I heard that she got pregnant to the guy. Almost sounded like she was holding out for hope that it could be and once she saw I was entirely removed from the situation, she went for it with the guy she married.

The guy was a sucker though. He'd be hard at work until the late hours in the morning and she was at my bar trying to get me to go out with her after my shift.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

There is no "ONE". There are some good Ones, and there are some bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Stop parroting back the soul mate myth to yourself.