The older I get the more issues women seem to have

[Krankshaft]

Pretty much my entire life I have been in a serious relationship. Ive always thrived with stability, however I have always had a problem with marriage. Since I was a teen I was always dating someone with a few small gaps in between. I have been with my current GF for awhile now but we both go on our own everynow and then with our friends. I am really starting to get worried that if me and my girlfriend ever split it will become impossible to find a "normal girl". It seems as the older I get the more screwed up and emotionally distraught females become. How do you guys deal with this ? I am only 28 and cannot imagine how messed up females will be when I am 40.

 

[sodbuster]

Well, the good ones can usually find a guy to invest in a ring, Things do tighten up a little[more strange women are left].BUT at your age[I'm 49] you aren't having that problem yet, The problem you have is you are recognizing problem women earlier than you used to. They were always there, you just didn't notice it when you were younger.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

It seems the older I get, the more options I have.

But, that's just me.

 

[Jitterbug]

The problem you have is you are recognizing problem women earlier than you used to. They were always there, you just didn't notice it when you were younger.

I've definitely got better at detecting their BS as I get more experienced with women. With the ones I've known for a long time, I could look back and realise that those issues were always there but I couldn't recognize them.

I am really starting to get worried that if me and my girlfriend ever split it will become impossible to find a "normal girl".

Better fix that mentality quick smart, mate, or you are just setting yourself up for failure in that relationship.

 

[guru1000]

I am really starting to get worried that if me and my girlfriend ever split it will become impossible to find a "normal girl".

You are scarce and helpless. What's even worse is that you acknowledge it but don't take steps to change your victim outlook.

If you are worried about your gf, then it is time to give her the boot. The frame is damaged but more importantly you do not have the correct pretense for exclusivity. One should only choose exclusivity after he is aware of his resources and chooses the most compatible candidate in his harem. Your actions are quite contradictory and will inevitably end up in another uneventful relationship once this girl leaves you.

If you want change, you need to take BOLD steps and start focusing on who is truly important, YOU.

 

[Luthor Rex]

Pretty much my entire life I have been in a serious relationship. Ive always thrived with stability, however I have always had a problem with marriage. Since I was a teen I was always dating someone with a few small gaps in between. I have been with my current GF for awhile now but we both go on our own everynow and then with our friends. I am really starting to get worried that if me and my girlfriend ever split it will become impossible to find a "normal girl". It seems as the older I get the more screwed up and emotionally distraught females become. How do you guys deal with this ? I am only 28 and cannot imagine how messed up females will be when I am 40.

Most people do not consciously attempt to grow as a person as they age. If you have been putting effort into self improvement you will notice over time that you'll start pulling away from those around you.

Basically you'll improve as you age and the women around you won't so it will look like they are going down in quality. Really, you are just getting better and finally seeing them for what they really are.

I think someone once said on this site that he was afraid that if he kept improving himself eventually he would pop so far outside the mainstream that he would never be able to relate to people anymore. That seems fairly accurate to me.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Luther,
You raise an interesting point on self improvement,everything you do to improve yourself,if taken to extremes will act the opposite way to that which was intended....Body Builders are a case in point as are Dancers,I am a keen advocate of dancing,if you learn this noble art then you improve your credit in the eyes of Women enormously,however should the means become the end,then you will only be happy with a Dancer at your own level,and will have effectively diminished the reservoir of available Women.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Krankshaft,
Seems to me that you have the basis of a healthy relationship...does it have to end in Marriage?.....Seems you two are growing on each other and take time out for friends.Moving in with them is the next progression,again I would say Why?....If in your first tenuous experiments with cohabiting,you find she gets on your nerves,do not hesitate to step back and right size your relationship,always wise to start gradually,maybe keep your own home going and spend two or three days a week with her...Yes as you get older you do tend to develop issues....People who live on their own often develop eccentricities that to others are down right weird....As you become more experienced on the Dating scene,you get to pick the various personality types,particularly the toxic varieties,these are societies rejects and there are disproportionate numbers of them on the Meat Market....I can pick them from their Internet profile,sometimes their face and body language,and by watching them interact socially....Yes there are a lot more floating mines out there,but as Mike Edwards points out,as you age,if you look after your Body,Diet and Social Skills the choice becomes exponentially bigger...Lets face it unless you are a bit kinky you only sleep with one at a time.

 

[Jitterbug]

Body Builders are a case in point as are Dancers,I am a keen advocate of dancing,if you learn this noble art then you improve your credit in the eyes of Women enormously,however should the means become the end,then you will only be happy with a Dancer at your own level,and will have effectively diminished the reservoir of available Women.

As a fellow dancer, I like your analogy, but I think it's a much bigger problem for women than for men, since as leaders, we can dance with girls at any level and have fun, but it's a lot harder for women who are followers and expected to follow the leader - the man, which means they have to dance with guys at their level or above to get any satisfaction.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Jitterbug,
Point taken...In the Argentine Tango there are three women in the upper echelon to every competent Male...Not an easy Dance to Master but well worth the effort.

 

[romangod]

I am only 28 and cannot imagine how messed up females will be when I am 40.

If you're finding that most of the women you meet at 28 are messed up, more than likely those same females will be "really" messed up at 40. If they're not growing, they're really dying.


Still, there are a few that "get it" and by the time they're 40 they are a pleasure to spend time with.



Cheers!

 

[squirrels]

You think the SINGLE women have issues and the MARRIED ones don't?

We're a "soft" generation, mate. Life makes a mess out of most people. Probably 90% of people out there, at LEAST, are "victims of life".

 

[Mr. Me]

It's life. Part of it is you are becoming cognizant of these attitudes and part of it is that, the longer people live, the more they rack up in life experiences that turn many of them jaded and bitter. It's damn near impossible to be so jaded and bitter when you're 21 and the whole world is new to you and you're just setting out on your life's journey.

Here's my general breakdown of the effects of life regarding women:

Age Group 20's: For attractive girls in their prime, the world is their oyster. They actually have pictures taken of themselves while out partying to show how drunk they can become. They want to find boy toys who can rock their world. Expression you're most likely to hear them say: "Woo hoo!".

Age Group 30's: They want to have babies. They want to find willing providers to breed with. They will generally marry the guy standing closest to them at that moment. Expression you're most likely to hear them say: "My period is late."

Age Group 30-40's: Sub group A: They had the kids and the marriages eventually failed. Their breasts are sagging a bit and they have wrinkled tummies and cesarian scars. Their experiences have left them a bit soured and perhaps bitter about men. Some become cougars in an effort to recapture those boy toys once again. Expression you're most likely to hear them say: "You go, girl!"

Sub group B: They didn't get married and didn't have children, and they haven't become more attractive with age. Quite the contrary. The accumulation of their experiences and rejection are turning them bitter and jaded. Expression you're most likely to hear them say (it's a tie): "Men are dogs" and "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle".

Sub group C: They haven't had children and have retained their looks and body. They are in the minority. They may be the recipient of many failed relationships as well, so they may be bitter and jaded, or just real clever and crafty and can't find anyone for whom they'd put aside their selfishness . Either way, the expression you're most likely to hear them say: "I'm looking for a real man".

Age Group 50's and up: Some recently widowed, others recently divorced: They don't realize (yet) that the only men that will want them are the much older, out of shape, men they don't want. They actually believe (for a while) that a wonderful guy, in shape, with great things going for him, will prefer "an experienced woman their own age who they can relate to" over a hotter younger babe. After a while when they realize how hopeless it is, they become bitter and jaded. Expression you're most likely to hear them say: "Me and the girls are going to the diner right after the movie Saturday night."

 

[jophil28]

Age Group 50's and up: Some recently widowed, others recently divorced: They don't realize (yet) that the only men that will want them are the much older, out of shape, men they don't want. They actually believe (for a while) that a wonderful guy, in shape, with great things going for him, will prefer "an experienced woman their own age who they can relate to" over a hotter younger babe. After a while when they realize how hopeless it is, they become bitter and jaded. Expression you're most likely to hear them say: "Me and the girls are going to the diner right after the movie Saturday night."

THis is the most tragic group of all. Loonies, BPDS, sour and self centered in the most devious ways.
I had one of these two years ago who was on an endless search for Mr Resources. SHe was convinced ,at the age of 50, that she was entitled to a "tall, good looking, wealthy man " and she was not going to accept anyone less.
AS far as she was concerned her only contributions 'should' be access to her pvssy and her smiling hostess skills..
SHe never realized that a man like the one whom she sought is rare and highly valued, but every single woman has a pvssy for sale or rent.

The younger competition will crush her dreams and guarantee that she never finds the guys she seeks.