Mr. Non-Juan
Don Juan
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Greetings!
It's me, Mr. Non-Juan! I like to respond to people's post, but I like my comments to be analyzed and read by the masses instead of passed over like Easter weekend (Get it? Pass-ed over? ha hah !!) SO, I'm writing this post inresponse to a post set up by aix237 called "What do you do when she doesn't know what she wants."
Here is the post:
And here was my response to that post:
Ah, another Non-Juan in the making
Let me break it down for you in really, really simple terms: anytime a woman has to use "********" (to quote Doc Love) in explaining why she needs time away from you, she doesn't want you! You've already shown her you have Non-Juan potential by putting her in control of contacting you, and you've also allowed yourself to fall for her B.S. statments! As a service to you, though, let me show you what those statements were, and what she was REALLY saying:
*"I'm stressed out with work and school..." - "I no longer want to hang out with you, but I need to make up an excuse that sounds reasonable to you so you won't bug me about it!"
*"I need to find myself..." - "...in a place other than where YOU are!"
*"I need to decide if I want to move and get a job with you, or move back home" - "I need to delay telling you my REAL decision, which is that I'd rather be ANYWHERE other than where you are!"
*"I want you back" <-- Okay, this is what she said the first time she "couldn't decide" if she wanted to stay with you; what she REALLY said that time was ---> "I couldn't find anyone else to have sex with, so I guess I'm back with you until I do, or until I can no longer stand you at all!"
The bottom line is, if the chick isn't putting as much effort into being with you as YOU are in trying to be with her... then she NO LONGER WANTS YOU.
I had a chick I liked back in college who was dying to see me at first... then I noticed that everytime I tried to invite her someplace, she started to become busy. After about 5 attempts at trying to get her to hang out with me, she said "Tell you what - I'll call you when my schedule is free, and that's when we'll hang out." I'm still waiting for that call.
Similary, I knew a chick who had class after class after class, assignments and reports due, and went to school and hour and a half away from me... and she would DROP everything as soon as I said "let's hang out" to drive to where I was.
So you see, if it's THAT hard for you two to hang out, she don't want you around, maaaaaan! A woman ALWAYS knows what she wants - she just might not know how she's going to break it to you! Most girls hate to break bad news to a guy, as they are afraid of brusing his ego.
But don't let that stop you - us Non-Juans are famous for bugging a chick until she files for that restraining order! Go ahead and give her that "dead line" - if she comes back with "sorry, I understand why you'd be angry, maybe we shouldn't hang out", that'll be her way of saying "Woo-hoo! He just gave me an out! I'm finally free!!" :cheer:
Oh yeah - I have a whole chapter in my book dedicated to this topic, so head on over to my website and check it out! The first chapter - "The Nice Guy: A Perfect Image for a Non-Juan" - is posted up now for you to read for FREE!
-Mr. Non-Juan
It's me, Mr. Non-Juan! I like to respond to people's post, but I like my comments to be analyzed and read by the masses instead of passed over like Easter weekend (Get it? Pass-ed over? ha hah !!) SO, I'm writing this post inresponse to a post set up by aix237 called "What do you do when she doesn't know what she wants."
Here is the post:
And here was my response to that post:
Ah, another Non-Juan in the making
Let me break it down for you in really, really simple terms: anytime a woman has to use "********" (to quote Doc Love) in explaining why she needs time away from you, she doesn't want you! You've already shown her you have Non-Juan potential by putting her in control of contacting you, and you've also allowed yourself to fall for her B.S. statments! As a service to you, though, let me show you what those statements were, and what she was REALLY saying:
*"I'm stressed out with work and school..." - "I no longer want to hang out with you, but I need to make up an excuse that sounds reasonable to you so you won't bug me about it!"
*"I need to find myself..." - "...in a place other than where YOU are!"
*"I need to decide if I want to move and get a job with you, or move back home" - "I need to delay telling you my REAL decision, which is that I'd rather be ANYWHERE other than where you are!"
*"I want you back" <-- Okay, this is what she said the first time she "couldn't decide" if she wanted to stay with you; what she REALLY said that time was ---> "I couldn't find anyone else to have sex with, so I guess I'm back with you until I do, or until I can no longer stand you at all!"
The bottom line is, if the chick isn't putting as much effort into being with you as YOU are in trying to be with her... then she NO LONGER WANTS YOU.
I had a chick I liked back in college who was dying to see me at first... then I noticed that everytime I tried to invite her someplace, she started to become busy. After about 5 attempts at trying to get her to hang out with me, she said "Tell you what - I'll call you when my schedule is free, and that's when we'll hang out." I'm still waiting for that call.
Similary, I knew a chick who had class after class after class, assignments and reports due, and went to school and hour and a half away from me... and she would DROP everything as soon as I said "let's hang out" to drive to where I was.
So you see, if it's THAT hard for you two to hang out, she don't want you around, maaaaaan! A woman ALWAYS knows what she wants - she just might not know how she's going to break it to you! Most girls hate to break bad news to a guy, as they are afraid of brusing his ego.
But don't let that stop you - us Non-Juans are famous for bugging a chick until she files for that restraining order! Go ahead and give her that "dead line" - if she comes back with "sorry, I understand why you'd be angry, maybe we shouldn't hang out", that'll be her way of saying "Woo-hoo! He just gave me an out! I'm finally free!!" :cheer:
Oh yeah - I have a whole chapter in my book dedicated to this topic, so head on over to my website and check it out! The first chapter - "The Nice Guy: A Perfect Image for a Non-Juan" - is posted up now for you to read for FREE!
-Mr. Non-Juan