Mr. Non-Juan
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The NON-JUAN Post: Teaching Men To Be Better With Women... By Showing How To LOSE Them!
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Greetings, readers! My name is Mr. Non-Juan! Thank you for reading this post!
Check out my other sites:
Non-Juan World - Read the first chapter of my book, "From PIMP to WIMP: The Non-Juan's Guide... To Losing the Girl of Your Dreams" order the book, learn all about Mr. Non-Juan and MORE!
Mr. Non-Juan's Myspace Page - Post comments about Mr. Non-Juan, and learn about upcoming promotions!
Also...
The Newly Revised Edition of My Book, "FROM PIMP TO WIMP: THE NON-JUAN's GUIDE... TO LOSING THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS," is now on eBay!! Simply go to www.ebay.com and type "NON-JUAN" into the search engine!!
And HEY! - If you have any RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONS you'd like answered, PLEASE SEND THEM TO ME at: NonJuan@hotmail.com!! All letters will be answered on NON-JUAN MAILBAG THURSDAYS!!
Today's topic:
WHAT TO DO WHEN SHE TALKS ABOUT HER EX-BOYFRIEND
Picture the scenario: you and a girl decide to go out on a date. You arrive at the restaurant she picked out, order your entrées, and chat while waiting for your food. The conversations appears to be going well - she's asking you stuff about your life, you're asking stuff about hers, and you're both really learning a lot about each other.
Suddenly, you ask her an innocent question: "So, how did you know about this restaurant?"
And IT happens:
"Me and my ex-boyfriend used to go here all the time..." She... MENTIONED HER EX-BOYFRIEND!!
Has this happened to you? Sometimes it's just an innocent little mention of a previous boyfriend, never to be brought up by her again. Sometimes, however, you may start to notice an increase in the amount of times she mentions her ex when you two go out together. If she only mentions him every once in a while - and in a negative way ("my ex-boyfriend used to swallow his own snot") - then it's nothing to think about.
However, if she starts mentioning him frequently, and in a positive way ("my ex-boyfriend was such a good painter! He always was good with his hands..."), then CONGRATULATIONS!! You're about to LOSE this girl to her ex-boyfriend, you Non-Juan you!! :rockon:
"HOLD ON A SECOND, MR. NON-JUAN!!" Um, I see we have a question? "Yeah - so what if she mentions her ex-boyfriend! That doesn't mean she's going to dump me for him!!"
Well, that's true - she might not dump you for HIM, but she is leaning towards dumping you!
Anytime a woman starts talking about an ex-boyfriend around you, it means she is still unsure about how she feels being with you. The more she talks about her ex-boyfriend, the more her brain reminisces about the better parts of her relationship with him (even if they got into more fights than family members at an Ike Turner/Jackson 5 family reunion!), and the more convinced she becomes that she should go back to him!
As a Non-Juan, you MUST allow her to keep talking about her ex if she brings him up! Don't be like one of those guys who tells girls to not talk about past relationships - all that's going to do is make her realize she's being disrespectful towards you, and make her get goose bumps because you're demanding respect and being authoritative! Worst of all, it'll make her stop talking about her ex-boyfriend, which is necessary for her to do if she is going to convince herself to leave you for him! :nono:
Instead, you want to encourage this kind of dialogue to continue. The next time she brings up an ex-boyfriend, here are some things you should do:
(1) ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT THE EX.
This is what I call "adding fuel to the fire." You can help get her riled up about being with her ex by asking questions about their relationship. Questions you should ask include:
* "How long did you two date?" (This will make her realize that if they already made it work for a decent period of time, it might be worth fixing things with him!)
* "What drew you to him in the first place?" (This will place her brain back to the days when she was first attracted to him, and make her want to feel that way again... with HIM, not you!)
* "Why did you two break up?" (If the reason she comes up with isn't good, she may think that what they broke up about... wasn't worth breaking up about!)
(2) ENCOURAGE HER TO CONTINUE A "FRIENDSHIP" WITH THE EX.
If the girl is no longer friends with her ex, tell her that there shouldn't be any bad blood between them. Encourage her to get back in contact with her ex to "talk." If she takes your advice, it means she still secretly had feelings about him, and just needed someone like you to make the move to get back in contact with him!! If the girl is still friends with the ex, encourage her to spend time with the ex whenever he asks her to do stuff together. If you're lucky, that "stuff" the ex asks her to do will include sleeping together!!
(3) DON'T LOOK ANNOYED WHEN SHE TALKS ABOUT HIM!!
This is very important! Remember, you must give her signs that this rude behavior of hers is okay. Try leaning in towards her as she speaks about him - this gives the impression that you're really trying to hear what she's saying. Also, nod your head when she says positive things about the ex. For example, if she says something like "we used to get along so well, ya know?" nod your head up and down. This is a visual encourager, something her mind will see as positive encouragement for her to give her and her ex another try!
So, the next time a girl brings up her ex-boyfriend in a conversation with you, make sure you keep him in the forefront of her mind! And when she decides to go back to him, she'll have YOU to thank for it!
That's all for now, guys!! See ya on Thursday!! Remember: If you want your question to be answered on Non-Juan Mailbag Thursdays, send your emails to Nonjuan@hotmail.com!
-Mr. Non-Juan
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Greetings, readers! My name is Mr. Non-Juan! Thank you for reading this post!
Check out my other sites:
Non-Juan World - Read the first chapter of my book, "From PIMP to WIMP: The Non-Juan's Guide... To Losing the Girl of Your Dreams" order the book, learn all about Mr. Non-Juan and MORE!
Mr. Non-Juan's Myspace Page - Post comments about Mr. Non-Juan, and learn about upcoming promotions!
Also...
The Newly Revised Edition of My Book, "FROM PIMP TO WIMP: THE NON-JUAN's GUIDE... TO LOSING THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS," is now on eBay!! Simply go to www.ebay.com and type "NON-JUAN" into the search engine!!
And HEY! - If you have any RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONS you'd like answered, PLEASE SEND THEM TO ME at: NonJuan@hotmail.com!! All letters will be answered on NON-JUAN MAILBAG THURSDAYS!!
Today's topic:
WHAT TO DO WHEN SHE TALKS ABOUT HER EX-BOYFRIEND
Picture the scenario: you and a girl decide to go out on a date. You arrive at the restaurant she picked out, order your entrées, and chat while waiting for your food. The conversations appears to be going well - she's asking you stuff about your life, you're asking stuff about hers, and you're both really learning a lot about each other.
Suddenly, you ask her an innocent question: "So, how did you know about this restaurant?"
And IT happens:
"Me and my ex-boyfriend used to go here all the time..." She... MENTIONED HER EX-BOYFRIEND!!
Has this happened to you? Sometimes it's just an innocent little mention of a previous boyfriend, never to be brought up by her again. Sometimes, however, you may start to notice an increase in the amount of times she mentions her ex when you two go out together. If she only mentions him every once in a while - and in a negative way ("my ex-boyfriend used to swallow his own snot") - then it's nothing to think about.
However, if she starts mentioning him frequently, and in a positive way ("my ex-boyfriend was such a good painter! He always was good with his hands..."), then CONGRATULATIONS!! You're about to LOSE this girl to her ex-boyfriend, you Non-Juan you!! :rockon:
"HOLD ON A SECOND, MR. NON-JUAN!!" Um, I see we have a question? "Yeah - so what if she mentions her ex-boyfriend! That doesn't mean she's going to dump me for him!!"
Well, that's true - she might not dump you for HIM, but she is leaning towards dumping you!
Anytime a woman starts talking about an ex-boyfriend around you, it means she is still unsure about how she feels being with you. The more she talks about her ex-boyfriend, the more her brain reminisces about the better parts of her relationship with him (even if they got into more fights than family members at an Ike Turner/Jackson 5 family reunion!), and the more convinced she becomes that she should go back to him!
As a Non-Juan, you MUST allow her to keep talking about her ex if she brings him up! Don't be like one of those guys who tells girls to not talk about past relationships - all that's going to do is make her realize she's being disrespectful towards you, and make her get goose bumps because you're demanding respect and being authoritative! Worst of all, it'll make her stop talking about her ex-boyfriend, which is necessary for her to do if she is going to convince herself to leave you for him! :nono:
Instead, you want to encourage this kind of dialogue to continue. The next time she brings up an ex-boyfriend, here are some things you should do:
(1) ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT THE EX.
This is what I call "adding fuel to the fire." You can help get her riled up about being with her ex by asking questions about their relationship. Questions you should ask include:
* "How long did you two date?" (This will make her realize that if they already made it work for a decent period of time, it might be worth fixing things with him!)
* "What drew you to him in the first place?" (This will place her brain back to the days when she was first attracted to him, and make her want to feel that way again... with HIM, not you!)
* "Why did you two break up?" (If the reason she comes up with isn't good, she may think that what they broke up about... wasn't worth breaking up about!)
(2) ENCOURAGE HER TO CONTINUE A "FRIENDSHIP" WITH THE EX.
If the girl is no longer friends with her ex, tell her that there shouldn't be any bad blood between them. Encourage her to get back in contact with her ex to "talk." If she takes your advice, it means she still secretly had feelings about him, and just needed someone like you to make the move to get back in contact with him!! If the girl is still friends with the ex, encourage her to spend time with the ex whenever he asks her to do stuff together. If you're lucky, that "stuff" the ex asks her to do will include sleeping together!!
(3) DON'T LOOK ANNOYED WHEN SHE TALKS ABOUT HIM!!
This is very important! Remember, you must give her signs that this rude behavior of hers is okay. Try leaning in towards her as she speaks about him - this gives the impression that you're really trying to hear what she's saying. Also, nod your head when she says positive things about the ex. For example, if she says something like "we used to get along so well, ya know?" nod your head up and down. This is a visual encourager, something her mind will see as positive encouragement for her to give her and her ex another try!
So, the next time a girl brings up her ex-boyfriend in a conversation with you, make sure you keep him in the forefront of her mind! And when she decides to go back to him, she'll have YOU to thank for it!
That's all for now, guys!! See ya on Thursday!! Remember: If you want your question to be answered on Non-Juan Mailbag Thursdays, send your emails to Nonjuan@hotmail.com!
-Mr. Non-Juan
