ok guys, I need your help on this one. if youre on a date with a girl and she wants to hold your hand, lets you kiss her 4 times during the night, says she wants to see you again soon, but ends the date early and goes home and ever since then you have this feeling inside that makes you think you blew it somehow and that you arent getting a second date, what do you do? i texted her the next day and she texted me right back, but i havent heard from her since and thats weird because she used to text me a good bit but i havent heard from her since yesterday morning. i dont want to bother her if shes not interested but im just not sure if she really wants to see me again or not. i dont want to be one of those guys that cant take a hint, ya know? i just keep thinking back to the date and the whole kissing and hand holding thing and the fact that she said shew ants to see me again, but then i get to thinking how shes not contacting me since Friday except for the two text messages i sent her. i mean i dont want to sound like an idiot and be like "are you sure you want to hangout with me again? you promise?" but i just dont know. do i email her? do i call her tonight or wait a few days or what to see if shell call or text me? she was sending all the right signals but shes also sending some wrong ones too so its confusing as f**k! like i said she ended the date early, but during the date she held my hand constantly and kissed me alot. is the whole i want to see you again soon line just a cop out or is she for real?
the most confusing date ever
- Thread starter Robert28
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If she kissed you and held your hand, she's interested in you. I'm still a bit unclear about a few things you said though. You said she ended the date early. Did she say why? She may have had an emergency or more importantly, a family emergency. I'd back off a little bit and call or text her towards the middle/end of the week. The last thing you want to do is bombard her with messages and ruin any future date you'll have with her.
Jerky Boi said:
you and i are both unclear about the REAL reason she ended the date early. i mean, yeah she gave me a reason, but we all know that could be the truth or it could be total b.s. See she lives about an hour and a half from me and this was our first date so we talked about her spending the nitght. it wasnt set in stone but we did talk about it. i recently bought a house a couple years ago that's like your typical "old south" looking homes. this thing could be in Gone With The Wind.haha i've done a good bit of fixing up to it and it looks nice but its still not where i want it yet. anyways, she has this weird thing about ghosts and being in "creepy" places and she said she got some creepy feeling in my house. at first when she said that i thought it was a bad thing but she assured me it wasnt, that eventually she could stay there it would just take time. anyways, the othr thing that confused me was that it didnt appear that she was having that much fun when we went out for a drink(that was what she wanted to do since it was 10pm when she got to my house and there wasnt much else to do). thats when she started bringing up wanting to go home. the wheels started turning in my head of how to save the date and make her have fun. the ride back to my house wasnt weird at all, we laughed and talked alot and thats when she reached for my hand(this was the second time she did that). we get back to my house and there was this song she liked on the radio so ia sked her to dance and we did. now heres the tricky part. she got as close to me as she could while we danced. a girl that has no attraction to you wouldnt do that i dont think. then after that we kissed for like the 3rd time. she didnt leave right away, we talked for awhile and then she left after about 30 min. we kissed a few more times before that too. anytime i wanted to kiss her shed let me is basically what im trying to say. she sent me a text when she got home and i sent her a few funny ones back just messing around with her and left it at that and then we told each other good night. i sent her a text the next morning just being funny, and she replied back "youre rediculously funny.LOL" and thats the last i heard from her. i havent contacted her she hasnt contacted me. i would LOVE to have a second date with this girl i just have this weird feeling there isnt going to be one and i cant seem to shake it for anything. i havent let her know that though and i never begged to see her again, i just mentioned it casually and she said wed hangout again soon. maybe it is a test i dunno. i just dont know if i should call her tomorrow or email her, or wait til tuesday or something. i already have an idea planned if she'll go on a second date with me. i was going to take her to the zoo because shed never been and mentioned she wanted to go. that or either a baseball game at Univeristy of South Carolina but she doesnt like USC.haha i just didnt want to ask her out to dinner or anything, i felt like i needed to pull out something that was different and that shed deffinatley have fun doing.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Was this a first date or something?
You have to understand that women don't become attracted to men at a drop of a hat all the time.
A lot of times it's the space inbetween in which she isn't talking to you that makes a woman more attracted to you.
It sounds odd, but it's true. A great first date followed by not much contact has done wonders for me in the past. It not only gives you time to date other women, but it also gives her time to feel how it is when she isn't talking to you; and if it was a good first date, she feels like she wants to talk to you.
It's only been 2 - 3 days which really isn't long at all. Give it a few more days. Actually, give it till this Friday. If there's no contact initiated by her then she either has other options or is just not that interested. However I have a feeling that she will contact you before then.
You have to understand that women don't become attracted to men at a drop of a hat all the time.
A lot of times it's the space inbetween in which she isn't talking to you that makes a woman more attracted to you.
It sounds odd, but it's true. A great first date followed by not much contact has done wonders for me in the past. It not only gives you time to date other women, but it also gives her time to feel how it is when she isn't talking to you; and if it was a good first date, she feels like she wants to talk to you.
It's only been 2 - 3 days which really isn't long at all. Give it a few more days. Actually, give it till this Friday. If there's no contact initiated by her then she either has other options or is just not that interested. However I have a feeling that she will contact you before then.
yeah it was a first date. dont you think waiting til Friday to call is too long? the reason i ask is because before the date(2 days) she was constantly texting me and the two times we talked on the phone it was for a long time(which i know isnt good but i still got the date, so its all good). i just feel like something's different now. i dunno what it is but i just have this weird feeling. i mean would she really stop talking to me for a few days AFTER we went out even though before we went out she constantly contacted me? she just seems like one of those girls that if shes not contacting you then shes not thinking about you. i dunno, i could be wrong. another thing that tipped me off was she did mention a guy she went on a date with and still calls her sometimes asking her out and he wont take the hint even though shes turned him down 2 or 3 times. i dont want to be that guy. i hope youre right though, i really would love a second date with her. i just wish i had a better feeling about it.WC2 said:
WC2
Master Don Juan
In my experience, if she isn't calling you within a week of a date, then she's just not that interested in you, or like I said, has something else going on.Robert28 said:
You never really know. For all you know she could be using some other dude for emotional support instead of talking to you. For all you know she could be getting sexed up by some other dude every night.
Bottom line is that you pushing the issue really won't do much but affirm the fact that you're desperate for her; which you don't want to be.
If she doesn't call within a week, give her a call; not a text, a call. See what she's up to, arrange a date with her, and try to get things moving more towards a sexual encounter, as you've already hooked up with her.
If she flakes, then she's just not interested right now.
well i know this is frowned upon on here but i really fell for this girl on the first date. i didnt show it(or i tried not to at least) but it was all i could do these past couple of days not to pick up the phone and call her or text her or send her a message on facebook. i mean ive gone on several dates lately and really couldnt care if they were interested or not. i mean when i got rejected it didnt bother me at all, but if this girl rejected me it would suck. i wouldnt be all depressed or anything but i guess i just had high hopes that wed hit it off. i just felt a connection with her. im playing it cool though, or trying to anyways, but in all honesty shes all ive thought about since Friday and i find myself thinking about the date and anylizing every little thing of what she said, what her actions were, etc trying to give myself something to pin my hopes on. its a rare thing for me to fall hard for a girl fast, but i did with her. i dont claim to have much game but what little bit i do have im using everything i know with her. at least she knows im funny and likes my personality. she said i was cute and all that, and i know that if she wasnt attracted then i wouldnt have gotten to kiss her several times like i did. ill wait this week and see if she contacts me but if she doesnt ill give her a call thursday or something. whats weird is i was never nervous about talking to her before, it came naturally but i can tell the next time i do talk to her im going to be nervous as **** and worrying if ill get a second date or not. i just have to figure out a way to keep doing what ive been doing without becoming AFC with her.