The matters of love (completed. LOL)

pendaflex2003

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the matters of love
I think I have a weird problem..
I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now, and it is safe to so that I'm very much in love with her. Ok, on to the wierd part. I have a good female friend that I've know for about 4 years, and let's just call her "Jane". I care about Jane a lot, however, I find her getting on my nerves more than I like being around her. My female friend seems to think that my girlfriend is jelous of her. Now, my GF is THE most outspoken woman ever known to man kind; she does not hold back on anything, no matter what. If she was uncomfortable with my friendship with "Jane" I would hear about it, the neighbors would her about it, my doctor would hear about it, and even "Jane" would hear about it. I'm not sure what to do, because I find Jane very self centered and somhow she always turns things back to her. How can I get across to her that my GF is not jealous of her nor my friendship with her.

The reason it is such a problem for me, is because Jane loves to instigate little things when we are all around eachother. I.e. overly flirtatious with me, says little comments like " no body knows "john" as well as I do" and other stuff to "mark" her territory on me, sort to speak. All of this is done infront of my girlfriend, which to give her credit she does not react to. (I think she thinks of Jane as a joke or something) anway, I'm annoyed and I really can't approach my friend Jane because she won't take it seriously and she'll turn it into something else.
Any Suggestons?


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Jane is jealous. She wants you for herself. Your GF by the sound of it is worthy of the title. But just coz things are under control now, doesn't mean they wont get out of hand. Jane sounds like a bit of a loose cannon. You don't know how things might take a bad turn someday! She obviously wants to sabotage what you have.

If you want things to go smoothly with your GF I would cut back on seeing Jane so much, and/or confront her about her behaviour telling her what you REALLY think.
 

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" (I think she thinks of Jane as a joke or something) ''

So do I. Not much of a "friend" either.
 

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*itches love to hate. Don't you love it when women say they CAN just be friends with men, and its men who can't just be friends with women? When really women are the biggest haters when it comes to thier male friends!
 

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Your girl sounds like a keeper if she doesn't get riled up by immature **** like that.
 

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The funniest thing... is that I know a "Jane", who's a good friend of mine. The only difference with your story is that I'm the single one and she's the one in a relationship at the moment.

She OFTEN acts flirtatious around me (heck she ain't afraid to grab my butt or even my nuts in front of her bf...). Marking her territory outside her bf? prolly. I mean sure I'd do her, but her pvssy isn't worth half the friendship I have with her bf (Bros B4 Hos).
Best of luck to you.
Peace.
 

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I have plenty platonic female friends who I trust, not all girls are like that.
 

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I think Jane likes you a little more than you think. Or so it seems...
 

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Trouble

Your friendeJane she aint your friend....she is a girl that always will want what the neighbors have just for her spoilness. Your girls seems very mature and resonable and you are acting like an idiot. You are lucky that girl has not dumped you , how would you feel if your girl had a friend "John" just like your Jane. Well she doesnt because she is probably decent and if you think she is a keeper, why the heck would you risk that with a girl like Jane who is playing with your hormones trying to ruin what you have.
You are a lack of a man for letting her say such things infront of your girl..if you dont comfront her you are an AFC.

Now your girl might not be such a saint afterall, and even if she is keep Jane hidden away in case you need to get your girls attention one day. You can use Jane to get her jealous, but as of right now you are acting like a kid and i am doubting your love for your girlfriend, because if you did you would understand it is wrong for you to hang around Jane so much while in a serious relationship just as it would be wrong for your girl to hang around John. You are letting yourself be doubted, and honestly i think you got a thing for Jane, keep this up and you will fvck Jane and miss out onb something great...

tiburon

p.s and then Jane would be happy she is so inrresistable and go into a new adventure....I dont think you diserve your girl..because you are too inmature for her..brake off with her, fvck alot more pvssy and then when you are bored of girls like Jane, get into a serious relationship.
 

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That's a little harsh, tib...

Dude, if I were you, I'd confront "Jane" at the next opportunity - possibly even in front of your gf (if in front of gf, not in front of JUST gf, or it'll look like you're just putting on a show). Tell her that you're already taken, and you're not interested in her. Make it clear that, if your friendship is going to continue, she has to stop acting like a spoiled 12-year-old. Honestly, if she's trying to f**k with your relationship, then she doesn't really care about you and isn't a real friend, and as such should be tossed.

Just watch out, b/c there is the slight chance that "Jane" may be potential stalker material.
 
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