guys,
something i think a lot more guys need to recognize is the lose lose scenario.
so many guys on here just DO NOT believe that scenario is ever lose lose.
this is what leads men to desperate measures, such as throwing away their dignity.
a relationship is 50/50, and there is no way around that. no amount of tricks will give you 100% control over a woman.
now that said, women will routinely put you in a lose lose situation. they do this in order to gain control over you OR because they are purely selfish and are unable to contribute to a relationship in a fair give and take fashion.
i write this post becuase so many guys are in this "dont know what to do" state. the reason you don't know what to do is becuase you are in a lose lose scenario most likely.
really, all it takes to be a hugely successful DJ is to know when you are in a lose lose, cut loose, and go in search of a win win.
so how do you know if you are in a lose lose? if you are being honest, open, forthright, caring, etc., and aren't getting all of that back in return, you are in a lose lose. whether it takes 2 months, 6 months, or 10 years, you will see this eventually.
how do you make it a win win? you walk away and find yourself a woman who will give you the things you want.
now, why do women create these lose lose scenarios? for the same reason men put up with them. fear of being alone.
yes, it illogical, but women see men as these brutish beasts who just want to screw all the time. and how do you tame a brutish beast? simple behavioral conditioning. when they dont behave the way you want, you punish them, when they behave the way you want you reward them. this is all there is to the female psyche for the most part.
so YOUR job as a man is to make it very very clear to her that if she wants YOU to behaving in a certain way then SHE has to behave in a certain way.
but you can't do that if you aren't prepared to walk away. and you won't be able to walk away if you don't realize that you are in a lose lose sometimes. the harder you try to "win" the more you give her exactly what she wants, which is control over you. the more this happens, the less she respects you as a man.
so when a woman puts you in a lose lose, break away. let her tactics backfire on her and let her always wonder if she let the PRIZE get away. she tried to collar you and snapped the chain with your teeth - good for you.
remember something guys, if you're dealing with a mature woman, say over 25, there's probaby a reason shes single. and that reason is usually that her life has been filled with afcs who will do anything to bang her. she's filled her life with lose lose relationships, often particpating in them until she has lost all respect for the man.
let her know from the start that if she wants a win win you have certain expecations. and if she starts to pull the lose lose sh*t out, walk away.
you'll eventually find a girl who wants a win win. and the ones that you walked away from, will always think back in life and wonder what they missed out on.
J
something i think a lot more guys need to recognize is the lose lose scenario.
so many guys on here just DO NOT believe that scenario is ever lose lose.
this is what leads men to desperate measures, such as throwing away their dignity.
a relationship is 50/50, and there is no way around that. no amount of tricks will give you 100% control over a woman.
now that said, women will routinely put you in a lose lose situation. they do this in order to gain control over you OR because they are purely selfish and are unable to contribute to a relationship in a fair give and take fashion.
i write this post becuase so many guys are in this "dont know what to do" state. the reason you don't know what to do is becuase you are in a lose lose scenario most likely.
really, all it takes to be a hugely successful DJ is to know when you are in a lose lose, cut loose, and go in search of a win win.
so how do you know if you are in a lose lose? if you are being honest, open, forthright, caring, etc., and aren't getting all of that back in return, you are in a lose lose. whether it takes 2 months, 6 months, or 10 years, you will see this eventually.
how do you make it a win win? you walk away and find yourself a woman who will give you the things you want.
now, why do women create these lose lose scenarios? for the same reason men put up with them. fear of being alone.
yes, it illogical, but women see men as these brutish beasts who just want to screw all the time. and how do you tame a brutish beast? simple behavioral conditioning. when they dont behave the way you want, you punish them, when they behave the way you want you reward them. this is all there is to the female psyche for the most part.
so YOUR job as a man is to make it very very clear to her that if she wants YOU to behaving in a certain way then SHE has to behave in a certain way.
but you can't do that if you aren't prepared to walk away. and you won't be able to walk away if you don't realize that you are in a lose lose sometimes. the harder you try to "win" the more you give her exactly what she wants, which is control over you. the more this happens, the less she respects you as a man.
so when a woman puts you in a lose lose, break away. let her tactics backfire on her and let her always wonder if she let the PRIZE get away. she tried to collar you and snapped the chain with your teeth - good for you.
remember something guys, if you're dealing with a mature woman, say over 25, there's probaby a reason shes single. and that reason is usually that her life has been filled with afcs who will do anything to bang her. she's filled her life with lose lose relationships, often particpating in them until she has lost all respect for the man.
let her know from the start that if she wants a win win you have certain expecations. and if she starts to pull the lose lose sh*t out, walk away.
you'll eventually find a girl who wants a win win. and the ones that you walked away from, will always think back in life and wonder what they missed out on.
J
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